I am about 60 and I have a very nice young girlfriend. I don't want to lose her because of my sexual impossibility. I love to have sex with her, but mostly I am not able. In the morning I am sleepy and in the evening I am also tired. She is not happy about it at all. She didn't say anything yet, but I think she is also thinking about it like me. She doesn't know that I am not sleeping in the night just thinking about this sex thing. I have no power to satisfied her. She is young and she can have also a young gay and enjoy everything with him. She is also very beautiful and when we go somewhere all the man are looking at her. I never sow her talking to somebody else, but if I don't do anything about my problem she will go....
What should I do. I hope I am not the only one in this situation and someone have an advice for me!
Hi Jonny, I did you reply its in the post on low testosterone and again here, below.
What is below is a reply I put in to a discussion on side effects to ED drugs.
So if he drugs don’t work or work well but with bad side effects, then go the herbal way, and it works, but you need to go the whole way with them and give them a good try, but remember these things take up to 8 weeks to get to full power, so you need to be on an 12 week trial, but just like drugs its a mix and match affair to find the right mix.
Now for me, I'm in ED recovery and if like me you can get the mix right it will also give you a healthier life style thrown in as a side effect, so that cant be bad, can it.
OK for me, I was given Viagra here in Greece when a was told all that I had was anxiety, its great when your told that, without any examination, and then given Viagra without any tests of any kind, all this I found out later of line, and after this decided that I then needed to find my own way out of ED if I could, the one thing if you start looking is DHEA comes up a lot of the time, so did research into it and asked on a couple of forums for info, for or against.
So I'm now on DHEA 75mgs a day, this is something you really need to read up about if you think its for you and start low to see how it sits with you,
I now take Tribulus, this now backs up my DHEA, I'm now taken Tribulus 2 x 750mgs a day, its a bit like DHEA gives your testosterone and libido a boost, but with no side effects, not that I've had any from DHEA, these I take for 5 days then rest for 2.
DHEA can have some funny side effects with the odd person, so just do some research on it before taken it.
Garlic, I also take Garlic chopped up fine with olive oil and parsley, and do a whole head at a time.
Cayenne, I also take Cayenne, this I put into tomato paste and mix it smooth with olive oil to a heat that suits you, but after a couple of weeks you may find its needs to be increased, both of these I rotate alternate days then change them round the next week and only take for 5 days then 2 days rest, These you need to wash down with water before meals.
Ginger, I also have Ginger in lemon and honey tea (black or green), I fine grate Ginger from the freezer. grate to the size of a large egg put in cup with lemon and micro wave30 secs then add your tea, tastes great,( on pegym they call this erection tea ) Green tea is also a help with ED.
Green tea, I now make up a 2 pint pot with 4 tea bags and add some herbal Tribulus, I use Bulgarian which I can get here in Greece, its best to let this steep overnight and just keep it that way as I use it the next day.
I read that honey and lemon is good for the blood.
Cayenne, Ginger and Garlic are all known herbs for cleaning the blood and given heat down below they all help open the veins up, and to help get blood into the penis, and believe me you will fill this some time later.
On pegym they have what they call the 5Gs it’s all herbal and well worth a look at, just Google the 5Gs, it will take you straight there.
There are lots of other things you can try, Borax see earthclinic for this under ED, Glycine, Nutmeg, but watch this one they say it could be a mind bender, D-Apartate at 3 grams, Ginseng, Gingko Biloba, Vitamin B ( I take Brewers yeast as it’s a complex of all bs) and zinc, but the list is endless.
There does not seem to be many side effects to most herbs, I did get some high blood pressure from Viagra, but now since being on mostly herbs I feel and get some real good erections, and the morning woods are good, I even get woken in the night with some real boners and never had that before.
Look I do hope this may help with some of you guys out there who think that the doctor is the only place to get help, I do some answering on medhelp and webmd the doctor on webmd does not like me given people advice on herbs, but he forgets that all modern drugs come from herbs in the first place, and a lot of new drugs have there roots in herbs, and druggists are still researching roots, herbs and flowers to find new drugs.
One last thing to anybody using low dose aspirin, you must give these up if you take either Ginger or Ginko Biloba, as these two thin your blood.
Good Luck We Need IT
Lots of the above can be Googled by just adding ED on the end of them.
Cayenne can give lots of support to the prostate, also by mixing things with olive oil boosts your omega intake, and by taken 2 table spoonfuls of olive oil a day gives you even a bigger boost of omega, and a big help with your joints.
My DHEA I take 50 mgs first thing in the morning, this I got from a web site on dosage of DHEA, this is because the body’s own DHEA is at its highest then, and so what we take can help boost it.
Yes and don’t forget your vitamin D, just get yourself out in the sun and you can pack your body with it, its free that way, they say you only need 15 minutes a day to get enough of it , me I’m out in it all day long here in Greece, and most of the time naked.
And the last thing I got my wife a **** ring for Xmas, it’s a Hardwear Ice made of glass and works really well, once you get used to wearing it, and can give you some fantastic boners that are really strong.
if interested just google hardwear ice.
What is the basis of the relationship? You mention your age but not your girlfriend's, you just say she is young. If the age difference is very large, i.e., she is in her 20s, for example, keep in mind that she was probably attracted to you in the first place for something else besides just sex. (If she were looking for sex only, she would be able to find it readily, so that is not it.) Is it ... fun trips to interesting places? Fascinating conversations based on mutual interests? Being on the same track intellectually and enjoying the same books, plays and cultural events? Being awestruck by your powerful position in society? Hanging around in your beautiful house? Buying pretty stuff that she is not able to handle on her own? Whatever it is, you undoubtedly offer her something that a younger and less established man does not, and should keep doing so with confidence. I do not think it is all about the bedroom. That said, talk to your doctor and look into the suggestions above, but do not sell yourself short. She is with you for a reason.
Thank you for your fast answer. I really appreciate your advises.
I am trying to make a diet and go to the gym every day. I also don't smoke or drink. I will defiantly try all the advises you write me about.
I must speak with my girlfriend she is 35, and tell her that I want her to stay with me and I will do anything. She is so nice to me. She is clever and she is busy with her own business. I can only give her sometimes advises and have a nice time with her. I hope that this will be enough, but after tow years I think that she may have more from everything...
I must handle this on time.!
Where can I bay this Tribulus and Viagra? I will also ask my doctor for more info about this.
Thank you so much
Hi Jonny, Tribulus in capsule form you can get from Puritans Prid just google that, in its herbal form you need to find a good herb shop, I get Bulgarian, they say its the best, this is what I put in Green tea, and why your at the herb shop get your self some good Green tea, not in bags, and your Cayenne, for me its cheaper there, I have an old Moulinex coffe grinder, I use this to grind herbs and my Tribulus, you put in enough just to cover the blades, this goes in your 2 pint tea pot, as for the big V I dont use it, I just had some for a very short time and throw some away, its it side effects, not good for me, the DHEA I get from Puritans as well, but watch that one and read about it.
Look all that I advise are just surgestons, but they do work.
Hi Jonny, I am 60 years old too and suffered from exactly the same problem as you do, but at the end I lost my lovely young girlfriend... This was few years ago and those type of pills were not very popular and hard to get, besides no one new if they really work, as it turns out they work pretty damn good and I am so greatfull I get buy them anywhere even online thesedays. I have tried several meds my self, but I find Viagra and Levitra the best. There are a lot of online stores you can buy it from with full discretion, but I can suggest you 1 that I shop from it's "www.**** (dot) net". Of course you can also always go and buy it in your local drug store, but let's be honest - who wants to do that when they can ship it to your door within couple of days:)
I don't know... this is a good question! I must think about it. Because it use to be a time we spoke about it and it was me how didn't want to get married. I was not sure about her and the all think, I had some bad experience before so I was careful and din't want to make it so real. She wanted everything from the first day, but now it can be that she is also thinking something else. I don't want to ask her now, because she must think about this and I am not sure about the answer. If I ask her now she will think I only want to keep her, because I know I am not able to have sex with her any more!
Or should I ask her anyway?
If she loves you sex would not be an issue as true love is tireless. I would ask her for sure.You say above that you can have sex with her but below you say your not able. There are many treatments for these problems even if you have had prostate problems. Love overcomes all.
You can still do oral sex, right? And what about trying a strap-on or a vibrator? If you're having sexual trouble, you just have to be creative. If she really loves you, I imagine she'll be thrilled that you spent so much time and effort thinking of alternate ways to please her.
I think it is more a libido problem. I just have no power and am always so tired.
In the morning I just sit there and can't even say a world. Then in the evening I just sit in front of the TV and can't move at all. I am just tired all the time.
I must take something for power and just start again. Like reload an action...
You mention being really tired. I think it would be a good idea to see your Dr and have some testing done. Especially your testosterone levels. If that's the problem it can usually be treated with medication.
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