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Husband addicted to porn

I just signed up for this site because a search led me here and i saw that many women have posted about their men's porn watching habits. I will read their posts and hopefully find some answers, but i want to post my own question.

We have been married less than a year, with a baby on the way, yet we have experienced a continuous cycle of him watching porn, me finding it, him promising to quit, me believing him, and then finding it again. This has happened six times in the few years ive known him.

Lest you think im stupid for marrying him, there was a time before we got engaged when he promised he had quit, and i did not find it again until seven months into our marriage. Then i really did feel stupid to discover how naive i was. He lied to my face so many times!

I am cute, fun, not perfect looking like porn stars, but i love sex and have never once denied him and often initiate. He keeps saying he wants to quit and i support him and encorage him even though im so hurt. But he just keeps on doing it and tells me what i want to hear. I dont believe a word he says anymore.

I adore him but i think he will never be mine and i cant live like this. I dont want to bring a child into a doomed marriage. I almost think it would be better if i leave him now then have to drag our kids through a painful divorce in the future.

It has happened again last night even I have been trying to be more loving and more sexy than ever. This last time i dont feel so much shock or anger. I feel bitter and defeated. I feel like giving up. Is there any hope for a life with him that i DONT have to share with a bunch of porn stars? Should i just give up and take my life back? If i wasnt pregnant i think i would have left him already but i dont know. I can't imagine life without him but i can't imagine a life of this either.If he is willing to hurt me so much just so he can masturbate, then he clearly doesn't love me.
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139792 tn?1498585650
Your anger is justified. If he is prepared to repent by taking professional help to cure himself of this addiction, help him.. Porno and masturbation eventually lead to ED.If he is sincere, he will undergo the treatment.
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From a guys opinion to a girl and I am no doctor in any way necessary I went through this when I was younger and the reason I quit was because I grew out of it and stopped caring to watch it guys do this as a hormonal cycle we have temptations that lead to this stuff it's in a males nature to see a woman and some men need special care to take care of this type of situation like one of my friends he has a fiancée and watches porn non stop he said he does it because of experience reasons and it's a fantasy reason as well he finds things that that do to experience in real life partner to partner however I look down on it and I would suggest he start doing daily exercise to keep his mind off of it my father was bad with this as well but him and my mother have been together for 20+ years why he did it is because of relationship downfall. You have to have more excitement work more trust in God faith is one other thing you have to be dedicated to change just boost the feeling tell him if he doesn't change the act you will leave if he doesn't take it to heart it will only fail this is only a method not reality my parents did it and it worked but just remember it's in a males nature
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