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I dont know what to do...

Hey, evertime I tried to have sex, I couldnt get an erection or I get a soft one and I lose it quickly. I havent been able to have sex before because of this problem. I think it has something to do with watching too much porn or masterbating (masturbating) way too much. I havent masterbated for 2+ months now, but because of that my libido is way down and I dont have to urge to do anything sexually. I dont know what to do...can someone help me please.
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right off the bat, the "too much porn thing" can cause that problem for sure. there was another poster with the same issue.
but if you stopped for a long time you should have snapped back by now if that was the cause. are you in a relationship ?
you said you could not have sex, so i assume there is someone specific that you want to have sex with. if this goes on for much longer, just go to a doctor, it's not a big deal.    l.e.
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I'm only 18 years old. But its been happening since I was 17, even 16. Watching porn is much harder to restrain from than masterbating (masturbating) is. I may look at it every now and then, but thats it. Havent masterbated in over 2 months...Yes I'm in a relationship, but this has happened with other girls I've been with.
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Hey I have suffer with the same problem, watch porn and masturbate for a couple of years. now I have to bear with the consequences...I have been to the doctor and they run several test and said I m fine so I know it is a mental thing. I have stop that habit well for half a year...looking for help everywhere...the thing is, stuff used to turn me on have no effect on me. Now I dont even have much interest into intimate sex, not to mention to enjoy the love and passion in a relationship. All I can say is dont lose hope and I believe one day eventually it will heal itself and things will get back to normal.
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man, when i was a kid the only access to porn we had was the girly mag some kids dad had under his bed. or we pinched one from the local store. (i did it once and got caught) but now
kids are bombarded with sex 24/7, whats an 18 year old to do ?  man i wish i was 18 again and had the internet, i would go nuts !    i feel sorry for you kid, but i think you've
learned something of value in all this, right ? !!!
and yes, do your darn homework and unplug your p.c. like the nice lady said !                 l.e.
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So you guys believe it will go away on its own and thats all in my head rather than being a physical problem?

oceans3: I think that is the problem, that I expect whats happening in the porn to be what really happens. No my girlfriend doesnt watch porn. Girls did hold my interest, I just go to a all boys private school so its kinda hard to meet girls and see girls on a regular basis. So, I turned to masterbating (masturbating) to porn....alot.

maxcheang: so you're still going through the same problem even after stayed away from porn for 6 months?

So how long do you guys think till I'm a normal, horny teenage boy? This is very stressful and I'm about to turn to different supplements. Do you guys think I should stay away from masterbating (masturbating)? What if its without porn?
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Listen mate I am 21 and have had erectile dysfunction which had been ongoing since I was 18. I read every single article and book available on ed and since called and booked in an appointment to see a doctor and he got to the bottom of it. I think the worst thing you can do is try any form of supplement before knowing just what is wrong with you. I would say its a stupid idea to diagnose yourself without having a professional check you out also. I had been contemplating buying drugs online that are readily available and think I made the right choice to get myself checked out first and despite being embarrassed I know it was the intelligent choice to have made! I had only had sex with one girl whilst I had this problem and needless to say I went through hell as I could not keep it up long enough to have good sex and my suspicion was venous leak. I read books and articles on ed to the point where I was able to find out a lot about my problem which helped when talking to a doctor. I found I could get an erection in a seated or standing position quite well hence masterbating (masturbating) to internet porn was easy. I cut back on porn dramatically like you to the point where I wouldn't masterbate at all and guess what nothing changed. According to my doctor pschological problems account for only 20% of ed cases and in those 20% of cases most are still based on a contributing physical problem. I would monitor my erections carefully and see what you can find out for example..

How hard are your initial erections? Mine were quite hard but squeezing the glans (glands) (head) of my penis would make my glans (glands) shrink which lead me to believe the veins responsible for back flow were not pinching together and were allowing blood to flow out of my glans (glands) losing my erection. (wearing condoms would make me lose them due to the pressure)

Do you have night time erections and do you wake up with good morning erections? Stick postage stamps around the base of your penis and if you wake up to find they have torn you are having erections in your sleep.

Can you achieve an erection without touch stimulating and how often do you get erections involuntarily. record it!

Does your penis ever feel fuzzy anywhere or do you have a lack of sensation as there could be nerve damage.

So go see a doctor and tell him everything you know so he can help you get your sex life back on track. The longer you leave it the worse it will get so do something about it NOW! A good doctor will run many tests on you and will take a blood sample to test for underlying illnesses that could be contributing to your problem along with checking your response to a penile injection which will determine cell capacity and nerve function. He will check if there are any chemical inbalances in your body and time how long it takes for the blood to drain from your penis to determine whether there is a venous leak.

I was diagnosed with having a small venous leak which is virtually incurable but treatable with drugs like viagra and I only need very small dose to achieve a good erection at my age so not expensive either. Sure it would be nice to be able to function normally without any meds but on the bright side atleast I can have a good sex life now without worrying about lasting 10 seconds and it could be a lot worse I mean there are people out there that will never be able to get an erection and you are not one of them so be happy about that.

I still continue to search for more info regarding a permanent cure for my condition but it is purely out of interest



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ok so I know the key is to stay away from porn and masterbating (masturbating). What is considered porn tho?
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