Losing erections quickly: much needed help

[Farhang3]

I am a 34-year-old male, healthy, exercise with normal blood panel. For the past few years, in the morning I lose my erection as soon as I wake up whereas in the past my erections would last until I went to the toilet to pee. Also I have difficulty maintaining erections. I get an erection bu quickly lose it during foreplay. I have been to the doctor, he did an ultra sound found nothing, did a doppler test and I got an erection for about 20 mins with normal velocities but lost it after. Urologist said there's no shunt. I also feel a strange sensation in the scrotum on the extension of the shaft where it feels like blood is passing thru intermittently. Urologist found nothing there either. I am fine on Cialis but I just want to get to the bottom of this and not rely on drugs. Something must've change since as I said although I get nocturnal erections they fade the second I wake up unlike a few years ago when they'd persist. I'm at my wits' end. Any help is much appreciated. I don't have diabetes either.

[Adams76]

Hi, Farhang3 I know the feeling of losing erection too quickly. I have a girlfriend who gets mad at me after she works hard on getting my penis to get erected, but I can’t do anything to maintain on erections. I have been through a lot of doctor’s too but they have the same prescription. On second thought, I tried Injecting testosterone thinking that I have a deficiency in it. It works but after doing so I feel very drained and lose much energy by the day. I have to look for alternative ways that will help me maintain a stronger erection for at least an hour or more, a supplement that has no strong backfire after using or consuming it.

[yycguyy]

so what's the update so far??  Do you use Cialis every time you have intercourse?

[doheryourway]

If you can reach erection, but only for a short period of time, then the reasons could be following:

1. You gave away your power and it immediately had negative effect to your erection. In the beginning you showed initiative, seduced her, acted according to your own sexual feelings and instincts, but then you suddenly stopped and started to play by the “rules”. By example, you undressed her, got an erection from looking at her and touching her naked body, felt the strong urge to roughly f**k her, bet then suddenly thought that it wouldn’t be nice, therefore you decided to give her romantic kiss, to cuddle her gently, to say some nice words. And then everything went wrong……because nice/romantic sex is boring sex……..and nice sex weakens erection………. there is no place for romance in sex….. of course, if you are in serious relationships then romance is necessary in everyday situations and before sex……but when you are having sex you only have to follow your sexual instincts….. and your only guide must be your own inner feelings about the next sexual action, which will give you the biggest pleasure…….....and you have to do it.......…..and not think about will it look nice from the perspective of the romantic girl or general understanding of what is beautiful  and "right" sex.......

2. If you have at least once experienced the loss of erection during sex, then you will be afraid that it can happen again. The fear has huge power, but you can overcome it. Again, by following your true desires, as described above.

3. The anatomy of each girl is different. By example, with one girl you will have very good stimulus in doggystyle, but with other girl it may be that you feel almost nothing or even feel pain. With each partner you have to find poses, which work best for you. And even if you have lost erection, don’t despair. Have a little break, calm down and start everything over.

And always trust your sexual instincts and let them be your guide....if you will try to have sex guided by your mind or "next logical move" then don't be surprised that you will continue to lose erection during sex....