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Low sex drive

im 47 allways had a good sex drive but it has tapered off in the last year. I have had a lot of stress in the last few years but sex was always a good relife.! My current lady is lovely but i am not attracted to her physicaly that much.To be precice, shes fat and i dont like to look at her naked.Sounds terrabile i know.My other partners were the fit type.I dont have as much sex thoughts as i did. i dont have the urge to toss as much. I am still stimulated with images.Viagra didnt do that much , so im thinking its to do with my actual thoughts or somthing physicaly wrong.Dont smoke ciggs, some pot, drink regular,eat pretty good. i am at the point where im thinking its either, im not attracted to her sexualy because i expect her to look like pam anderson or im running out of man jus !Either way its uncomfortable. What should my next step be.Herbal?blood test?go see pam?take my partner for a run?eat better?help.........
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yeah thanks, i think its more in my head, shes a great gal and i like her because of who she is. She is looseing weight.Ill try yohimbine!
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Hi,If you are not turn on to her sexual then thats just the way it is.You cannot make yourself turn on when you turn off looking at her with her cloths off.Viagra does not give one the desire for sex only the abiltily to maintain an erection while having sex,however it does not always work.You may have low testosterone levels a blood test can tell for sure.Only testosterone or yohimibine supplements gives you the desire for sex.But if you are not turn on by her I would move on and make life easier for you and her both.Maybe by doing this you both would find someone who likes you for who you are and the way you look.That goes for both of you.Good luck.
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We all have dreams of having that 'perfect' mate. If your current flame doesn't have the attractiveness you desire, why did you choose to date her in the first place? Alot of influences seem to be taking over your sex drive and it is understandable. Firsts things first, if you have had a healthy sex drive before your current mate, then at this moment, nothing may be wrong except your frame of mind. If the act itself doesn't please you due to the appearance of your significant other, you may want to spice things up by making sure the lights are off, including toys, closing your eyes and actually thinking it's "Pam". There is no harm in dreaming, however , if you are honestly unattracted to this woman, my opinion is to spare you both and move your seperate ways.
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