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Need a mans advice!!!

I know this is strange but i would like some answers from the male point of view. I am a married women and would like to know how to please my husband more as far as sex. I have tried talking to him and that doesn't work to well. So from your point of view what do you like?
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In brief fashion.  Buy some "boyshorts" undies, initiate sex, and dominate him by telling him, in graphic terms, what you want him to do to you.  We know ladies like to use terms like "make love to me" but we guys get off on you telling us more graphically: "I want you to ----me!, etc." or tell him what you are going to do to him (not with him) The more graphic the better.  I think you'll see quite a reaction.
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i wanted to help, but did not think there was enough info to work with, and the poster never responded anyway.     l.e.
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I guess nobody took this girls question seriously.....thats too bad.  So I will...

When you say "please him more", Are you asking how to make his orgasms better?  or just how to get him (or keep him)in the mood.

First thing you need to do is realize that men are visually stimulated.  We need to see it.  We don't do well reading romance novels and when it comes to fantasies, they're usually trashy.

Next you have to figure out what flips his switch.  For me it's watching my wife (or any woman for that matter) play with herself.  For some guys it's oral sex (giving and receiving).  Some guys (including me) like the adventure of doing it in an odd places, whether it be the kitchen or on a park bench.  Then of course there's dress-up as discussed above.  Personally,  that doesn't do it for me.  The cloths just end up in a pile after 2 minutes.

If you want to make his orgasms better, learn some of the stroke or pressure techniques thats covered in many of the 'how to' books.

And most importantly, you have to be involved.  The biggest complaint that all of my friend have had about old girlfriends and/or wives was her lack of involvement when having sex.  Don't expect him to do all of the work.

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what do you mean Maryland is your state of confusion? I'm from Baltimore, Maryland...I actually live there now.
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i really do not like being in the east (after being in vail for
many years) but family pulled me back.  i was born and raised
(mostly) in baltimore and then we moved to the shore back in the early 80's !!!     i love ocean city though !!!!     l.e.
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lol I was told to come and check this out. I think dressing up is a great thing! We paid to much for that tool belt for him to JUST wear at work!
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o.k.   first off oc3 is right, this aint high school, it's a serious question about your relationship with your husband !

so, what do you think he wants ?  and why won't he talk about it ?  it may be something  that he's nervous about (you know,
something that he may feel JUDGED by you for liking) or not,
i can't say. how long have you been married ?  i guess your saying that he's bored in someway.  i  have too many questions
i'm sorry, but i want to help.    l.e.
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I like playing dress up.  I never thought about the school girl thing.  But living in NYC, every other block they have a sex store.  It's fun, (at least for me) sometimes.  
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i live from way,WAY,away from any kind of "fun" store. bummers
                           l.e.
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I've counted at least 20 Peep show stores down 8th ave.  They also sell the sexy outfits.  I wouldn't dress up as a shcool girl.  I'm not into my man being a pedaphile (sp?) But maybe I can be his hot maid?  Lol.  Anyway I don't go in to the section where there are the actual booths.  I would be affraid of  who or should I say what I'd see coming out of them.  Uggghhh.
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there is nothing, i mean NOTHING that is unattractive about a teenage girl to just about any guy, it's how we are naturaly.
there is of course a big difference between being just turned on by something, and acting on that desire.     l.e.
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good lord where do you live sparkeler ?  are you a city dweller ? must be a wild place.  i was visiting a friend in
baltimore (md, my state of cunfusion) and she lived two blocks from a very wierd sex shop (lots of fetish/bdsm gear) it was quite an experience. since i spend most of my life in the country or in the mountains, i don't see that kind of stuff except for the internet.   funny            l.e.
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I live in NYC.  There everywhere! No joke.  It's common to see "Peep Shows" on the window like you would see an "open" or "close" sign.  It's kind of sad since we have so many tourists and alot of them include young children.  I betcha it's fun for the teenage boys though!
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dress up like a Catholic schoolgirl or cheerleader - My fiancee did that once and I was soo turned on.. Any guy would like that.
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