Relationship Question

[Barbie01]

My Husband and I have been married for 8 years. We are happy so I thought. My husband likes to keep porno hidden in different parts of the house of ex- girlfriends and his ex-wife. Just resently, I discovered in his cabinet in our bedroom a porno tape of him and his ex-wife. It was mixed in with ours. I noticed that he recently cleaned out his cabinet and these tapes were placed there just in the last month or so. I was looking for a tape of he and I when I discovered this tape. I felt betrayed and so very hurt that he would keep these film and watch it while I was gone to work. Our sex lives is GREAT. Sex is still very hot between us after all these years being together. I still feel terrribly hurt, so much in fact that I feel sick. Just thinking that he did things with her that he does to me, makes me ill. I need to know what people think? I haven't told anyone including him. NOTE: I took the film out of the cover and destroyed it and replaced the film with a blank one, put it back in the cover and placed it back where I found it. Was that the right thing to do?

[Barbie01]

Right after we got married I found porn pictures of his ex- girlfriend. I let him know that I found those. This film was taken 18 years ago with his ex- wife. Not to sound condesending, but she is a ifsh , she just lays there, and to beat that she really is "homely" To answer your question, yes he has lots of "store bought" porno. The only home made ones are of us, then that one I found. What hurts me the most is... Do you think he misses her in a way? Is he having an affair of the heart? Yes, he'll be mad when he discovers it, but what would you have done. Trust me.... Our sex is great. I was thinking that maybe I'm not giving it up as often as he would like. Twice a week is about it, sometimes three. When we go on vacation{next month} it's EVERYDAY, but thats once a year.
Do you think he wants to screw around? I know that he has expressed so MANY times that he wants to see me with another woman. I AM STRAIGHT! I just wonder what he is thinking????

[sparkeler]

I personally would be crushed.  I would have done the same thing with the tape.  No person in their right mind wants to think of the person that they love intimate w/someone else, much less see it.  Men are very hard people to figure out.  He's hanging on to some sort of the past.  I would rather my boyfriend masturbate to a girl in a porno than a tape of his ex!!  Wow.