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I was out at the movie with my 2 lil brothers and a friend of mine. we left the movie and i dropped my friend off want we had to stop at a couple stores on the way home . well I had stop up at the corner store down by my parents house and when i came back outside not even 5 mins late the car wouldn't start and when i tryed to start it it made a really weird sound. So i called my dad and he came and jump the car and i was on my way to my parents house and the car died so i park it in the front yard and my dad started freaking out saying a whole bunch of unappropirate to write things.well we came in said and he contunied to and he kept saying things and my mom walked in and i was like dad needs to stop being an ******* and he like what u say and threw a full glass of water directly at my head i was soaking wet and he said if you want to ast like that you can leave (and then some more unapproitate words) ...we have had many occasions like this ...but usually with frying pans or things of that nature..But then the next day he will not even adknowledge it even happen ...what i am wondering what possesses him to act like this towards people he supposably loves?The main probley I have is that I don't want my 2 brothers to grow up and believe this is an okay way to treat anyone ...
Sarah42nd:
I do come a dysfunctional family due to my father's alcohol addiction. He drank for years. There has been some good advice regarding seeking professional help.
I can add one other aspect. Understanding! I don't condone the drinking, but I understand why he drank. I learned from one of my great uncles perhaps the root cause of his drinking. He drank, because of his childhood. He was subjected to beatings by his mother. He was blamed for his sister's death (who died of polio in the 30s.) His mother (obviously my grandmother) lived with us for many years.
In actuality, she was caught beating me when I was an infant. I never knew this until I was in my 30s that she had beaten me. But, when it was mentioned, I was never left alone with my grandmother.
It took many years for me to understand why he drank. In my late 30's, I turned to my Dad when we were alone and I told him that I loved him. He broke down and cried and replied that he loved me. He also thanked me! I don't think anyone other than my mother had ever told him that!
Sooo, I hate to place a burden upon you, but your job is to break the cycle of a dysfunctional family. If that means you need to seek some professional advice/help, then it will be well worth it!
Best of luck!
Fred's Dad!
I do come a dysfunctional family due to my father's alcohol addiction. He drank for years. There has been some good advice regarding seeking professional help.
I can add one other aspect. Understanding! I don't condone the drinking, but I understand why he drank. I learned from one of my great uncles perhaps the root cause of his drinking. He drank, because of his childhood. He was subjected to beatings by his mother. He was blamed for his sister's death (who died of polio in the 30s.) His mother (obviously my grandmother) lived with us for many years.
In actuality, she was caught beating me when I was an infant. I never knew this until I was in my 30s that she had beaten me. But, when it was mentioned, I was never left alone with my grandmother.
It took many years for me to understand why he drank. In my late 30's, I turned to my Dad when we were alone and I told him that I loved him. He broke down and cried and replied that he loved me. He also thanked me! I don't think anyone other than my mother had ever told him that!
Sooo, I hate to place a burden upon you, but your job is to break the cycle of a dysfunctional family. If that means you need to seek some professional advice/help, then it will be well worth it!
Best of luck!
Fred's Dad!
Sounds like a typical abusive alcoholic. Don't take anything he says or does personally. Get out of the house and find a new life for yourself. You might also want to find a professional to talk things over with. They can help you see things from a different perspective.
he has always been this way. every since I can remember. He has always drank . He likes his beer.
your dad sounds bi-polar, has he always been this way ?
you need to give up some more history. if violence is involved
or the threat of violence then you need to talk to the police.
ther is no excuse what so ever for him to be violent. he has
no right to hurt you or any member of your family. even as your
father, he still has no right to hurt you, don't let it happen.
it may be up to you as the older child to protect the younger
ones, don't just give up or run away from the issue, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT !!! good luck l.e.
you need to give up some more history. if violence is involved
or the threat of violence then you need to talk to the police.
ther is no excuse what so ever for him to be violent. he has
no right to hurt you or any member of your family. even as your
father, he still has no right to hurt you, don't let it happen.
it may be up to you as the older child to protect the younger
ones, don't just give up or run away from the issue, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT !!! good luck l.e.
No im not im almost 20 now....and school cousnelors don't wwork we tryed when we were younger....
if you are of school age I would speak to the school counselor about these issues, and they would have the social services contacts and ability to help get this rectified
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