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Should I be worried?

I have been married for 12 years and have always had a pretty good sex life with my husband. Now all of the sudden he starts talking about getting a device to make his penis larger! His is about average size & I never ever said anything reguarding his size. I have told him I dont care what his size is but he says it is something he has always been concerned about. Should I be worried that he is going through a mid-life cris or if there is someone else after all this time?
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1st off in one study I've read women think the average penis size is 4 inches while men think its 10, the average is usually around 5.5 inches.  So number 1 be sure its average, number 2 if he cant get u to reach orgasm he may be ashamed and think larger will fix that (it wont) number 3 theres no "good" way to enlarge a penis, most are scams.  Good luck.
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Technical aspects aside and thinking from a completely emotional POV.  I'd be concerned as to why he has "suddenly" felt the need for this.

I mean, chances are there is nothing going on but if it were me in this situation.  I'd really have that nagging feeling something isn't right.  It would be careless to ignore your intuition or gut feeling that something is not right.  

As to what to do about that...  I have no idea.  Maybe just try to think about the little details.  Has anything changed with your husband lately?  Has his grooming changed at all?  Does he dress better/differently? Take more showers? Any atypical erratic behavior?  Have you recently been having a lot more or less sex?  

I would avoid keeping quiet about any suspicions/concerns you have.  You need to talk to him and tell him that this sudden preocupation with his penis size worries you (and if you have other concerns bring that up too).  If that conversation doesn't bring you peace and something still feels off, maybe talk to close friends/family, people you feel really comfortable with.  Ask them their opinion or to verify facts.

Good luck!
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A quick research on the subject of penile enhacement, its efficacy and the risks and complications involved will leave no doubt in any sane man's mind that he is chasing a pipe dream that will not happen and trading it for a very real complication and risk of infection, loss of feeling and, here is the biggy: COMPLETE IMPOTENCE, not to mention the cost.  

Almost every resource you read about the subject emphasizes the technique in which you use the tool as opposed to  its size.    All I can advise you is to research and read all the wealth of information about the subject on the internet and make him read it.  Like I said,  any person with any sense will run away from this faster than you could say: erectile dysfunction.  

It would also help to reassure him that you are very happy with things as they are and there is no reason for him to undergo such a risk, suffering for both of you and cost.  The good old saying  "if it ain't broke, don't fix it", is very appropriate in this case.  
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Here is the site where you can solve this problem!
http://www.menshealthzone.com?aid=734872
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i wouldn't worry if this is a midlife crisis it will end eventually.but it could also be that he has always been dissatisfied with his size.if this is true he will always want to be bigger.i doubt any of those devices work his only real option would be phalloplasty or penis enlargement surgery.
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