Too much porn/masturbation cause ED?

[maxcheang]

Hi I m a 28 year old and suffer some degree of ED in recent. I start masturbated since I m 19 and usually use porn as a form of visual stimiulation. I have observed that I have lost the ability to maintain erect during intercource or I only get weak erection. My question is: does masturbation in association with porn will "exhaust" my interest towards sex and create a negative impact on my ability to get aroused in real sex? I m worried cause I think I m still young to have physical cause  for ED. Any thought?

[leif ericson]

all i can say is that when i was in that "cycle" of non stop
porn, i got tired after a while and just stopped ! and yes
it has an e.d.-like effect.   but trust me, it "goes away"
just take a break.            h.

[overanalysis101]

Dear Max,
By using porn so readily you are allowing your fantasies to become real. In turn, you will never be able to find a woman who lives up to these expectations that falsly get you excited.
Porn is ok with another to stimulate your contact with her/him, however, you will go down a long lonly path if you let porn become your lover.
Hope this helps
OverA

[BH81]

I have struggled with this same problem.  Excessive porn does mess with your ability to get turned on in real, intimate situations.  I went six months without looking at it, and noticed that my mind did "clear up" substantially.  It is not immediate, but it will get better.  Just cut back on the self-love as much as possible and try your hardest to stop looking at the porn.  If you have trouble stopping on your own, you may actually need some outside help such as from a counselor, an internet support group, or an understanding family member.  You are not alone in this.

[ify]

it doies...but it goes away...give yurseld 2 week break!

[stupidmop]

Good thread. I actually think I am going through the same thing, although I have a hard time just getting aroused in general. I'll give it a try!

[RavensFan2k3]

oh man this is the same exact thing I am going through. So what do you guys recommend to combat this? How long of staying away from porn and masterbation (masturbation) will it take to get back to normal and to be able to get a hard erection without any stimulation to real life girls?

[DrPaynne]

i recently was with my girlfriend trying to have sex for the first time with her, and i was unable to get hard once i put on the condom, i think it might be the porn too but has anyone else ever had a problem with condoms turning you off?

[Rtz]

I'm going to have sex with my girlfriend for the the first time tomorrow..I'm a bit worried because I had been addicted to porn for sometime..I did give up after we met which was two weeks back..I'm worried about not getting a erection tomorrow and that she would be disappointed :(

[crazywillie]

I am 64 years old, have been married three times and looked at porn on and off over the past 30 years.

I have always been in a loving relationship with all of my partners, never had a one night stand in my life, when my first wife and I broke up I met another woman that I lived with for seven months, it took me two weeks before I could achieve an orgasm, I had the same problem with every partner after that.

Now to the porn side of things, my Wife is 66 and has not been very interested in sex for about 5 years, I on the other hand still have a very active sex drive, I masturbate while watching porn up to 4 times a week, I have been doing that for the full five years.

Somtimes I have sex with my Wife but because of looking at porn and masturbating I cannot come to orgasm inside her, she helps me masturbate afterwards.

If I had my choice over again I would not have gotten involved with porn, I feel that it is to late for me now, I must admit looking at porn helps me to achieve orgasm easier and I do enjoy it so I dont expect to stop in the near future, from what I have read I guess I am lucky I can still reach orgasm at my age.

My advice to young people is try and stay away frrom the porn, it can mess your relationship up with a woman, save it till you get old like me and have a partner that you love but leave alone because she is past it.

[larry1249]

I have been married 5 times and lived with 3 others...I am living with a 45 year old Mexican Lady down here in Mexico...We play around a lot and have sex 3 to 5 times a week...I have known her for about 20 years and she still turns me on a lot ...Enjoy to see "catch" her in the nude...I am 67 yoa now...but when I was about 40  , my sex drive dropped for a few years...But I was working long hours ...Then when I was 58 I did 2 years in the Fed.  house  "prison" In those 23 months I had little to do with sex and thought that I had lost it for good...I came back to Mexico and hooked up with my lover...IT ALL CAME BACK FAST.... It,s what you see in your lover...

[wokenupone]

Hi, I'm 33 years old and I have been masturbating for almost 20 years, most of the time in the company of porn. I often used to watch porn for hours. I'm experiencing the same issue: my erections became weaker and weaker during the last years. I got to the point that real life women don't turn me on that much in order to achieve a strong erection and be able to sustain a sexual intercourse. Anyway, I got involuntary pretty strong erections almost every night but they fade off shortly after I wake up.

I'm healthy otherwise, not overweight, non-smoker, so I think it is the porn addiction and masturbation habit that brought me into this situation. It looks like my habit done over and over again for so many years has seriously altered my sexual sensitivity to real life women and to normal intercourse.

I stopped watching porn for more that two months but I see little to no improvement regarding my ability to achieve erections in real life situations.

Since I don't watch porn and don't masturbate any more, will my sex drive and sexual response to real life women ever restore to a reasonable level?

[rankett]

Although what is a "reasonable level" may depend on the individual, I think your sex drive will be restored since you stopped even masturbating. Just don't look back to the bad habits and let the nature do its work.

[calamari88]

This is all great motivation for me to stay away from porn. I absolutely love looking at it but I suspected that it's hurting my performance. Whenever I look at porn on the same day that I'm with a woman that night I have problems. I think part of our brains can't distinguish between fantasy and reality. Porn makes us feel too satisfied and there's no hunger left when the real thing is "spread" before us! Bummer that we can't have both but I would rather be good in real life!

[rankett]

>Porn makes us feel too satisfied and there's no hunger left when the real thing
>is "spread" before us! Bummer that we can't have both but I would rather be good in
>real life!

Quite so! Try to fill your brain and your life with other activities. After some time you will notice much more "sex energy" has built-up. Keeping this pace is a very good practice to eliminate a serious psychological factor that can make you feel worthless.

[banev]

This is not permanent ED. It is normal for every young man to masturbate. Take more vitamins even protein and chocolate. Relax for 2 days eating chocolate and drinking more liquids (no fizzy drinks and alcohol). You male strength will return very quickly. If not, just look at pharmacy store and take medications, but first consult your doctor.

[newtothis40]

from the female point of view..... i have nothing against men and porn, its a natural process really, but having been on the recieving end, or may be i should say none recieving end... its hurtful and adds to lack of self confidence on my part, as my partner can easily achieve an erection, but as soon as we come close to penertration his erection is lost almost imeditatly, this is both frustrating and hurtful cos as soon as he withdraws from me his erection is maintained and he can *** through masterbation (masturbation) either by myself or himself. i know he uses porn, just not sure to what degree.. my only advice would be yes guys use porn but not on your own, where possible share it with your partner, then maybe you can share full intercourse with her too,,, have i got this all wrong?

[scotchguy]

I sure am glad I came across this thread.  I seriously thought I was the only one.  I just posted earlier basically this same topic on a new thread and who knew I'd come across several guy's with the same problem.

I've masturbated nearly every day since gosh, I had to have been 12 or 13... Being 21 now, I never had too many girlfriends and only been sexually active with one girl and really only intimate with 3.  The issure is, I have and extremely high sex drive but over the year must have gotten into a "groove" so to speak with masturbating to porn.  I know I used to be able to reach ejaculation without it just by fantasizing, but 10 to 1 bet I couldn't today.

The other night my partner was giving me oral and i just couldn't get and erection.. kind of annoying seeing as the was by far the best oral I've ever received.  Luckily my girlfriend is a champ and isn't too conserned about me getting off, but she's more worried if there are any health issuse i need to be aware of... I don't really think I'm comfortable enough to say "I'm addicted to porn!"

Oh well, I suppose I'll take everyone's addvice and just cut back on the porn and masturbation.

Thanks gents

[willycum]

I am 62 and have masturbated regularly for 50 yrs both  as a single bloke then when I was married, as my wife was never as highly sexed as me.
In the old days it was masturbating with a magazine like Penthouse or Men only etc (those were so tame compared to now).
Now with the internet I seem to be more addicted than ever to masturbation with porn as my wife has almost gone off sex (I am lucky to have a couple of sessions a year with her).
I still have a really high sex drive needing to come almost every day, but I seem to need more to get me aroused and orgasming. I achieve this by surfing the net using sites like Youporn and story sites like Literotica as this gets me harder and ready to come much quiucker than magazines do. If only this had been available in my younger days I think I would have worn my penis out, so I can sympathize with you young guys getting so addicted to porn.
My advice would be to try and abstain from porn and masturbation for a few days at a time - sex is better then - and try to get some action with real women.

[Hope255]

Tell me.........why do men have to look at so much porn ?  My boyfriend says it`s normal, all men look at porn.  But everyday, for an hour or two ?  He used to look at it every morning at 5am before I got up.  Of course it was bothering me so much, did he not know I knew what he was doing in the other room every morning ?  Instead of staying in bed with me, he was with the 'screen'.  While I was lying there crying.......feeling not enough, not pretty, not sexy, not desirable.  Why, why can`t you men understand how you make most women feel ?  Why do you justify yourselves ?  'all men do it' you say.  What gives you the right to even put your wives down ? insult their bodies ?  Yes, I`ve been insulted.  And you expect it not to hurt us ?  And you wonder why all of a sudden sex is different for us with you ?    You are so involved with your fantasies of these other women, that it is damaging your real-life relationships with the woman your with.  You probably don`t even know what your women can give you, because you don`t know them.  Porn addiction is a sickness, like any other addictions.  Congratulations to the men who finally recognize it, and have a better sex life with their partners.   I wonder if there are women out there addicted to porn ?  How do their partners feel ?    When your partner is feeling neglectect and tells you, when they tell you they don`t feel desirable, take it as a warning bell.  

[akrasia]

Porn and Anxiety have crippled my sex drive / erections for life.  I am 31 years old.  I began watching my fathers porn tapes and using magazines to masturbate before I could achieve ejaculation.  I have never told anyone that before.  My addiction took on all new levels with the beginning of the internet in the late 90's.  Even when I stop for a few weeks I still cannot maintain an erection or achieve a Full one.  I don't even have morning wood.  My Doc put me on the ED meds to combat the side effects of the anti-depressants I used to be on, but I did not tell him the extent of the problem.  It has been 6 months since I was on any anti-depressants and my sex drive is NULL.  Let this be a lesson...  Moderation is the Key.

[GrayWolf69]

My only sexual outlet for the past few years has been masturbating using porn, and 2-3 months ago I noticed i have no desire or feelign in my penis, it gets hard but i have totally lost the ability to ejaculate for 2 months now. being able to *** a few times a week was also a good stress reliever, but now i've sunk into a deep depression over many issues, the latest being losing my manhood.

Once ina  while I take 1/2 a Cialis which helps maintain erection if i really work it, but have lost all sexual desire and most of sensation in my penis. i have come close to ejaculating once in 2 months, but as soon as it feels  like i might be coming, everything vanished, only a feeling of pressure remains

I have had a couple of one time partners who lost interest because i could not ***.

i hope this is reversible

[michaelpaul]

Hi, I am 18 years old and have slightly experienced this problem.  I have been looking at porn and masturbating for 2-3 years.  After reading this forum I am disgusted with myself for even thinking about porn now.  I will NEVER look at porn again! NEVER!  The story Hope255 gave almost made me cry.  I have done that to a girl about two months ago.  We were having sex and I couldn't go.  To finally feel what she probably felt makes me sick of myself.  That poor girl.  And she thought she had the problem.  If there are any young men out there like me who are looking at this thread, STOP LOOKING AT PORN!  It is nothing but a cheap way of satisfaction.  It will bring you momentary happiness for about 12 seconds.  Is that worth the the pain gave that girl who thought it was her that needed the changing?  Porn may be for some people but, starting today, IT'S NOT FOR ME!

[Emerald444]

I must say that I am one of those women who is offended by porn. It makes me ill when my boyfriend looks at porn simply because I am willing to have sex almost every time he would want it. Unless I am too sore. The point is I think that if women enjoyed sex more, they would have it more. I think there is something to add to that. Because my boyfriend gives me a reason to want him all of the time. I am not suggesting that you men are bad in relationships, sex, looks or anything else. What I mean to say is that women need a certain connection with her man. That connection is understanding. They want you to truly listen and understand them, not just say you do. Most women I know can tell the difference in the way her man treats her whether he understands her or not. Men and women are different and I think that if men would seek to understand his mate and his mate encouraged his freedom and he understood when to use that freedom, and therefore she could trust him hence feeling a lot more safe to expose herself more often, I think both parties would be happier. I recognize that was a run on sentence, but philosophy is never short, nor are a woman's words. Anyway, just thought I would share with you guys my viewpoint and wonder if you have something to share from your point of view.

[ACaero]

Hey im 15 and actually just experienced the exact same problem, literally twenty minutes ago.
Me and my girlfriend have been going together for several months, and she never touches herself because she thinks that its demoralizing. I on the other hand dont think that at all and masterbate from a minimum of 4 to a maximum of 10 times in a week. I used to be able to *** over just my own imagination of receiving sex or oral sex. Then I was introduced to porn which I have needed to watch in order to just get it up at all in the past year or so.
My girlfriend, who like I said does not watch porn, reaches an orgasm over even just being fingered.
She feels like she does a bad job when I cant ***, as she gives me oral, and even worse when I cant *** just touching myself in front of her
I think it's a real problem, and probably my addiction to porn. I was so worried. Im glad i foudn this thread.

[swimmen4u]

Thank goodness for the porn. Because my wife and her depression medication make real sex almost extinct!

[321718]

I'm 25 and I'm having the same problem. I'm pretty sure porn is causing it because I still get raging erections in the morning, but they go away shortly after I wake up.

Since I got high speed internet, I started looking at a lot more porn and my sex drive and performance has slowly decreased. Now it's becoming a real problem. I just don't get as excited as I used to about sex and I seem to lose interest after a few minutes. I used to be able to last for hours.

I just hope that if I quit looking at porn and masturbasting, my sex drive will return. I hope I haven't permanently damaged myself like some of the other people on this thread.

[SwedishChef69]

I had bouts of ED from watching too much porn.  It ruined my sex life for a while.  It took porn abstinence,  a very patient woman, and lots of time(2 months) for me to get over it.  After breaking up with her...I got back into the same porn habits and started to get ED again...

Then.. I noticed something that made it go away.  I noticed that if I held the tip of my wang with less pressure when jerking.  Ie.  I didn't put as much pressure on the top 1/4 of my wang--particularly at the moment of orgasm--then I could still maintain my erection with a woman.  I think the intense wang pressure when jerking was conditioning me for an inhumanly intense level of penile stimulation that no woman could actually provide.  Once I reduced the pressure..I found I could still perform with a woman.   I can now watch as much porn  and jerk (once a day) as much as I want and have sex with a woman like usual.  I would assume that if you are currently having ED with your girl it may take some time for you to recondition your wang to not require such intense stimulation--this may take some time.  However, over time, you should get to the point that you can use this lower jerk intensity technique and get away with doing both your girl and Jenna Jamison!!

[randomguy106]

could too much masturbation cause u to become in fertile

[LakeMead]

Same story here. Everyday since I was 15 til now, 18. My girlfriend and I actually broke up because of my lack of performance. She said we were "incompatible", but I knew that was Bull. I was feeling lonely and "consumed" some porn just 10 minutes ago and got to thinking about a connection... Found this forum and am now backing up my essential files and preparing to re-format my hard-drive to eradicate the tons of this **** I have accumulated thru the years.. Thanks, I really needed this.

[Gapeach69]

Wow my boyfriend should read this! I have been dating a guy for 2 years. I found out that he has a porn addiction and phone sex addiction. He can't get a erection when he is with me. But he gets very hard when he is watching porn. He says that porn will help him. 2 years and he is worse. I have caught him having phone sex with some one else. He says that he gets excited with porn and phone sex. He will wake up early for work and go to his house to watch porn , also watches porn when he should be working. He has " girl" friends that he says that are " just " friends, which I caught him haveing phone sex with 3 of the "friends"  on several different times.He has Meet them in motel rooms and he says they were just talking, she says they had sex all night! I have asked a friends husband if I look attractive , he said that I'm a pretty woman and I should not put up with this and that I can have a man that would love me and be sexulay turned on by me. I feel like I'm not woman enough for him. I don't not feel sexy. He wounders why I don't smile and why I don't feel loved. I wish he would touch me! I'm very sexualy attracted to him. I think about haveng sex with him and I even dream about sex.... Dosen't even cuddle me. He says he loves me very much. I want to feel loved.....
For the guys that watch porn and not touch your wife or girlfriend... it hurts us.
This goes for the women that are in to porn also.

[worthlesspiece1]

F***! Thank you! I've been plagued with this forever! I haven't been able to get laid... the last two times that happened, I just couldn't get it up properly... I have a serious porn/masturbation addiction... something like 3-4 times a day! Life is a mess! My concentration and my confidence both of them are effing ruined! I actually start being scared and afraid when it comes to making a move on a woman and I know I'm good enough to go out and have a good time but the thoughts of what will happen if this moves forward start to plague me! The last two times was embarassing... I even faked/pretended to be afraid that I have testosterone deficiency and underwent a lot of stress with the doctors! I started thinking maybe this happens only with me! So I started trying to control my masturbation a few weeks back... The first time it was very tough not to sit back and watch some porn or some cyber sex and get off... I lasted only a day and the next I was at it... The next streak was 3 days though after which I failed the next 2. My last streak was 5 days which ended today when I just couldn't help myself... I was listless, unproductive and everything just started to get to me when I caved in... The sad part is that the kicks of doing it after long gaps, you can actually feel the rush :( I can't talk about this to anyone else! So today after I got done, I started browsing trying to find the correlation between ED and porn/masturbation and found a couple of articles and then this page! I really wanted to vent it all out so I registered and here I am talking it out! Sh** Sh**, life just feels like it is in shambles a lotta times!

[worthlesspiece1]

Its me again, I haven't watched porn or masturbated in the last seven days, since I last posted this message! Last night got pretty crazy when I started to get the urge, it was sheer torture! Didn't know how crazy this would get... but it gets pretty nasty when you start getting horny and you gotta do everything you can to control yourself, to not touch yourself :( F***!! But I tried really hard and stopped myself... No, I didn't post this so someone could give me a cookie or a golden star! Just thought I should share... let it out.

[CaptainAnonymous]

I've had the same problem with porn harming my performance with real girls.  I'm 26 and it wasn't much of a problem until this year pretty much.  I've always masturbated at least once a day since I was 12 or so, often 3 or 4 times a day once I matured a bit.  As I gained more freedom growing up and greater access to porn..well.. that became a central focus during those activities.  Once I finished college, I met far fewer girls of course.. as school kinda puts everyone right there together, but not so much in the real working world.  Well, I've had trouble staying erect lately with my partner unless I skip all porn and masturbation for a few days ahead of time, which makes it hard to be spontaneous.  That seems to be the trick of it, just give it up for a bit and you should get it back.  I think I'll have to start severely cutting back.  Now, in all fairness, I've also changed my diet up recently, but I think I was seeing these problems start before that.  I cut most all sugars and a lot of fat from my diet to keep from gaining weight as I age, and I think that has actually hurt me some to, even though it is a healthier diet.  I think my body is reluctant to steal energy from fat cells or something when it coems to sex.  In any case, holding back on porn/masturbation seems to help.  

[Bigal123]

This is amazing!  Thanks - will try and see if it works.  I find it ironic that Internet, the tool that has harmed us, may also be the tool that saves us again bc I found this info on this site.  I hate hate hate all those effing stupid sites that say there is nothin wrong with masturbation.  Clearly it is OK only in moderAtion!!!  Clearly that is effing bullsh$ t and those doctors should be fined or sent home for patient mis-information!!!!

[sexxless]

I'm 26, haven't had sex, because of low libido and being completely stressed out. Thought I had no interest in sex.  But if that's so, then why all the porn and jerking off?  It's weird because, I'm attracted to a lot of the girls I have the opportunity to have sex with, but when the moment comes, I'm terrified, and end up just not doing anything to avoid any embarrassment.  This is pissing me off.  I know I'm not going to be a guy who goes out and has one night stands all the time, thats apparently not me, but I want to have some kind of healthy sexual output.  Porn makes it so I am only aroused when there's this separation, like objectification of women.  Objects don't stress me out.  People and their expectations do.  Whats even worse is girls assume you're some oversexed guy, and you flirt with them, and its all a joke, cause I'd rather jerk off to porn than have sex with them.  That *****, cause I know girls can take that personally, like they're not attractive enough, but mostly its cause I'm too stressed out/terrified, and now I'm also thinking its the whole porn thing.  And I think it is.  I went on a 2 week trip to a foreign country where I had no privacy, and I was horny as hell.  This is messing with my life.  I don't want to spend my existence in front of a computer.  I don't think I'm compulsive about porn and jerking off any more, but I still haven't managed to meld my sexuality with my normal life.  When girls start talking about their sexuality or how much they enjoy sex, honestly it scares the sh*t out of me, and I'm like thrown completely off balance.  Cause porn is compartmentalization.  You take your sexuality and you put it off in this world of complete fantasy, where it doesn't connect with any of your normal reactions.  Thats so weird too, because I can watch crazy porn but if anything like that happened to me in real life, I'd be scared sh*tless probably.  
Anyways, glad I found this thread, excuse the rant.  I'm going to eat avocado, do some ginseng pills, and stop jerking to porn for 6 months.  I know it may take some time to undo a life time of damage, but f*ck it.  It's worth it.  I've got to try.

[Athena371]

I am glad I found this thread. I have gone through  the whole gamut of emotions trying to understand my husband and his addition to porn.

Since May, our relationship changed. The sex and his interest in me stopped. At first I thought life was getting in the way. We were both tired and busy with the kids etc. Then a few weeks turned into a month, and a month turned into two months, two into three, then finally after 4 months, it all came to a head.

I found on my husband's computer porn as well as web directory  for special massage places in Bangkok. (We live here).  I asked him about it and he said the it was "porn". Of course there was no porn on the web directory, just addresses and locations. I still to this day cannot believe he thinks I am so dumb. Later that same night, I found "Magic Relax Bangkok", a special massage parlor in Bangkok, in his recent google searches. I asked him again, he had no answer but what did come out of his mouth was a tirade of how I nag him and I've gained weight, and how I don't appreciate him, and on and on about how I am the problem, not him.

I went though a terrible time of sorting through the truth and lies.  We fought for about one month more.  I was so hurt, so lonely, and very confused. After more fights and discussions, and me sleeping in the guest room,  we finally  got back on track and had sex and it was great. I MEAN great. Then the very next day, I found him in the bathroom with his other women, his laptop and his bottle of lotion. It was so stupid of me to this we would make up for lost time and screw like rabbits every night.

Then it went on from there, 5am in the bathroom or every time I left the house, he would be in the bathroom. I could see his feet under the door and he was going at it like a mad man.  I really felt horrible about myself. That he preferred chronic self abuse over the me. I thought that maybe I need to be more freaky, more open to this things he likes, which I did, and I actually liked doing. But then the next day I realized I was competing with xhamster, rawtube, youporn, hardsextube for my husband's attention. I am just one woman. How can I possibly complete with porn stars and freaky amateurs.

That got me wondering about all the amateur videos posted on those sites. I wondered if perhaps these women were allowing their sex sessions to be taped in order to keep up with their partners' addition. Maybe these women were shut out because of porn and then got back into bed with their partners by participating. And then I thought some more about if solo porn watching turns into making videos, and that turns into live chat, and that turns into special massages, and that turns into swinging...like in High School how we were warned that pot would lead to harder drugs. It was then I realized the potential hazards of the endless supply of internet porn and how the porn gets dirtier and dirtier. Do you guys find yourself needing freakier and freakier porn to get you off? I betting my husband is.

My husband went on a business trip for a week, without his computer, and I thought that maybe he the break from the porn train would open his eyes. Sure enough, he came home at 2am, I was awake, but he headed straight to the bathroom and to his porn. The next two nights I turned on my freak button hoping to win back my husband. Sadly, I had my husband back for just those two nights and since then he has been in the bathroom while I cried myself to sleep.

Now, I am no longer sad and beside myself. I am mad as hell. He is actually grossing me out now. I don't want to have sex with him and I am actually thinking about having an affair.  We have two small kids and neither one of us wants a divorce. However, I don't know if I can stay and continue to be cast aside and play second fiddle to his hand.