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To: atergo
remember I told you on the 7th that you would be good to go this weekend because its been 25 days for you no PMO? So now you see how powerful excessive porn watching and excessive masturbation can affect your sex life or relationship. You had an explosive weekend and you pleased that woman like you wanted to.
I'm with you... I'm NEVER masturbating again and even if I do BEST BELIEVE it is once in a blue moon but it WILL NEVER be everyday or every other day like I use to do. Don't go back to your old ways and mess this up with the girl you're with now homie!
And now that you're 28 days clean, keep that going and become a leader on our forum. Continue to lead by example. Also post your tracker sometimes...
I'm with you... I'm NEVER masturbating again and even if I do BEST BELIEVE it is once in a blue moon but it WILL NEVER be everyday or every other day like I use to do. Don't go back to your old ways and mess this up with the girl you're with now homie!
And now that you're 28 days clean, keep that going and become a leader on our forum. Continue to lead by example. Also post your tracker sometimes...
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Well something i didnt plan on doing....yes having sex...Truth i still wasnt into it that much, i still wasnt that horny, erection was good, even when the condom was to small forcing it on i didnt loose the erection....so very pleased, even doubted myself about loosing it and telling her that i couldnt promise it would work, but shes a friend and didnt care, she wanted to be a test subject.... LOL
But i lasted about 20mins, i use to preform much better! hah stayed hard 90% of the time, deffinatly not at my best, going to tell her tonight that i want to wait longer, i did have sucess and the sex was awesome, best ive had (every other time i was in my porn addiction). But feel the sex could be more meaningful. but i was pleased it didnt go down!
24 days or so no PMO....im going to suggest to wait it right out, like i said it felt good. But i feel weird after it, like i broke my promise to myself.
Problem though....After sex we had a disciosion about BDSM......it was weird..i could feel my thoughts fighting each other, I felt like there were 2 differnt De_Caps inside my head fighting to get out, I described some Sex&submission stuff to her and i got angry, i felt my blood pressure raise, not angry at her, maybe i even felt powerful?.. i dont no though. It was weird....really ******* weird......i scared myself...i think its time for a shrink? hahah!
Im going to say right now, that porn has messed me up real bad, i felt like a headcase last night, really messed up....
But i lasted about 20mins, i use to preform much better! hah stayed hard 90% of the time, deffinatly not at my best, going to tell her tonight that i want to wait longer, i did have sucess and the sex was awesome, best ive had (every other time i was in my porn addiction). But feel the sex could be more meaningful. but i was pleased it didnt go down!
24 days or so no PMO....im going to suggest to wait it right out, like i said it felt good. But i feel weird after it, like i broke my promise to myself.
Problem though....After sex we had a disciosion about BDSM......it was weird..i could feel my thoughts fighting each other, I felt like there were 2 differnt De_Caps inside my head fighting to get out, I described some Sex&submission stuff to her and i got angry, i felt my blood pressure raise, not angry at her, maybe i even felt powerful?.. i dont no though. It was weird....really ******* weird......i scared myself...i think its time for a shrink? hahah!
Im going to say right now, that porn has messed me up real bad, i felt like a headcase last night, really messed up....
A in earlyer posts we were talking about the no libido, and some of the guys were saying they felt they had none what so ever, until there partner actually came in the room keen, and all of a sudden bang it kicks in.
Maybe you just need a little longer, im going to continue to hold out before i have sex again, i want to wait till the 3 -4 month mark.
Ill nver look at porn again, and i dont plan to masturbate ever again....id rather it be done for me from now on :D ;) hah.
Rory i never have a problem getting it up for a female when kissing, ever...but its when it come to the point of inserting, bang it goes down. But i also never feel horny when im kissing, its like it has to be done to please, but things are changing, I even felt anxious as but it still stayed up!
Yesterday i was looking at a chick, felt my heartbeat raise and felt some rushes, i never feel like that when im looking at women....unless there on the net hah
Maybe you just need a little longer, im going to continue to hold out before i have sex again, i want to wait till the 3 -4 month mark.
Ill nver look at porn again, and i dont plan to masturbate ever again....id rather it be done for me from now on :D ;) hah.
Rory i never have a problem getting it up for a female when kissing, ever...but its when it come to the point of inserting, bang it goes down. But i also never feel horny when im kissing, its like it has to be done to please, but things are changing, I even felt anxious as but it still stayed up!
Yesterday i was looking at a chick, felt my heartbeat raise and felt some rushes, i never feel like that when im looking at women....unless there on the net hah
"Yesterday i was looking at a chick, felt my heartbeat raise and felt some rushes"
That's a very good sign I felt sensations like that when I was at the supermarket about a month ago and the cashier was flirting with me. I know I must have looked like a dork because the feelings caught me off guard and it threw me off.
The feeling of anxiety is going to be there until you regain your confidence.
The lack of libido feeling is odd because unless I'm physically close to a woman or having racy conversation with one my meter is at zero. When I'm stimulated I can feel the battle stations getting manned and preparing for combat :-)
That's a very good sign I felt sensations like that when I was at the supermarket about a month ago and the cashier was flirting with me. I know I must have looked like a dork because the feelings caught me off guard and it threw me off.
The feeling of anxiety is going to be there until you regain your confidence.
The lack of libido feeling is odd because unless I'm physically close to a woman or having racy conversation with one my meter is at zero. When I'm stimulated I can feel the battle stations getting manned and preparing for combat :-)
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To: everyone
Get back on the horse and start over you will be fine. You are young and trust me you don't want to start out your sex life crippled by porn induced ED.
Going 2-3 weeks PMO free is good so you know you can go with out it.
The life changes you are making are well worth the reward.
Good Luck
Going 2-3 weeks PMO free is good so you know you can go with out it.
The life changes you are making are well worth the reward.
Good Luck
Don't worry mate. I am 19 and i've mastubated to porn since i was 13, almost every day. I have been trying to abstain for PMO for some time now but i already had 3 relapses in the last month and a half, and i had a no PMO period for 3 weeks 2-3 months ago after which i relapsed and went back to mastrubating. Its day 9 now for me, my 4th try and i have to say, all those no PMO weeks that i managed to put toghether have not been in vain. I woke up with a morning wood and a solid erection today. I was in a crysis first couple of days, nearly relapsed again, but now i have no urge for porn, i am in a flatline now, but the morning wood i had is really something that made my day today since this is my first morning wood in i cant even remember how many months...so dont worry. Even if you relapse you are not on square zero, you simply have to continue with the no PMO. its not easy, i really cannot belive how tough it is and how addicted i am, but if you want to be happy with a girl, enjoy sex, and have a happy life you have to press on. Mastrubating to porn is only going to make your life miserable since you will not enjoy your mastrubation, you will have awful girl experiences and you will be a slave to your addiction.
To: everyone
Day 17.
Just had sex with a girl that I met yesterday. I expected the whole thing to fail so I purposely choose a girl that I don't really like and I told her that I might not be able to perform as expected.
Observations:
- I didn't feel any attraction towards her, and I didn't get aroused by her naked body, but I managed to get it hard relatively easy from the touching and kissing and stuff. We did it doggy and I finished in like 3 minutes, with a condom.
-The fact that I got it hard without fantasy or heavy stimulation is a HUGE improvement. 17 days ago it was completely dead unless I watch super hardcore BDSM rape fantasy porn.
- Sensitivity inside the vagina is still low but better than before
- We did it a second time, 10 minutes later. This time I got semi-hard but I couldn't finish. We tried like 5 different positions during about 30 minutes and I finally managed to finish with her on top. It was almost impossible to finish in missionary. I feel that if I was hard enough I could do it for 5 hours straight.
- I think I did this during the "flatline" phase and that's why there was no arousal and I wasn't horny.
-I had a wet dream about 3 days ago so the time difference between the orgasms was 3-4 days and not 17 days.
- I don't think that it has set me back because I'm slowly starting to associate pleasurable feelings to sex with real girls, and it's also a self esteem boost to know that I could get it hard by command, regardless of the lack of pleasure.
- 2 hours later I got hard from the memory of the event but I didn't masturbate. This shows that porn and sex fantasy stuff still has a strong effect on me.
-I'm thinking of getting Cialis so I could stay hard during the second time. If I happen to get a girlfriend during the recovery, I might use Cialis and slowly lower the dosage until I'm cured. Any thoughts on that ?
Just had sex with a girl that I met yesterday. I expected the whole thing to fail so I purposely choose a girl that I don't really like and I told her that I might not be able to perform as expected.
Observations:
- I didn't feel any attraction towards her, and I didn't get aroused by her naked body, but I managed to get it hard relatively easy from the touching and kissing and stuff. We did it doggy and I finished in like 3 minutes, with a condom.
-The fact that I got it hard without fantasy or heavy stimulation is a HUGE improvement. 17 days ago it was completely dead unless I watch super hardcore BDSM rape fantasy porn.
- Sensitivity inside the vagina is still low but better than before
- We did it a second time, 10 minutes later. This time I got semi-hard but I couldn't finish. We tried like 5 different positions during about 30 minutes and I finally managed to finish with her on top. It was almost impossible to finish in missionary. I feel that if I was hard enough I could do it for 5 hours straight.
- I think I did this during the "flatline" phase and that's why there was no arousal and I wasn't horny.
-I had a wet dream about 3 days ago so the time difference between the orgasms was 3-4 days and not 17 days.
- I don't think that it has set me back because I'm slowly starting to associate pleasurable feelings to sex with real girls, and it's also a self esteem boost to know that I could get it hard by command, regardless of the lack of pleasure.
- 2 hours later I got hard from the memory of the event but I didn't masturbate. This shows that porn and sex fantasy stuff still has a strong effect on me.
-I'm thinking of getting Cialis so I could stay hard during the second time. If I happen to get a girlfriend during the recovery, I might use Cialis and slowly lower the dosage until I'm cured. Any thoughts on that ?
To: JonnyTz
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To: Over_And_Over
There's nothing wrong with feeling the urge but you have to fight to resist it. I used to M almost every right before going to bed and a few times a day on the weekends. It was like second nature for me to M now I rarely get the urge to M and when I do its no big deal I just don't do it.
Stay strong the further along you get the easier it will become to resist the temptation to M.
Stay strong the further along you get the easier it will become to resist the temptation to M.
To: neo85
To: GhostDog
Wet dreams are good unless they are wet dreams where you are watching porn. Wet dreams where you are watching porn are a telltale sign of your addiction. Your brain wants and demands porn. I used to have those whenever i started. Heck, i even orgasmed in those dreams 2 times. My brain is so addicted, it dreams about porn and then makes me mastrubate in my sleep! But as long as the wet dreams are about a girl and not about porn its good, it means you are recovering. Flatlines are also good and they will last, they can last alot, you need to keep up with your no PMO and you will have erections again...
To: Over_And_Over
At 29 days you are still in the beginning stages of rebooting. When you are with your girlfriend relax and just enjoy the moment. If you clog your mind with "I hope I can get it up" you are going to doom yourself. Having the wet dream is a good indication that you are on the right track.
My sleep patterns became horrible I could not go to sleep to save my life, I would end up laying in my bed tossing and turning. If I did fall asleep I'd wake up after a few hours and not be able to go back to sleep. I ended up buying a bottle of the Unisom sleep aid and that did the trick. My problem was that M was a nightly ritual before going to sleep.
My sleep patterns became horrible I could not go to sleep to save my life, I would end up laying in my bed tossing and turning. If I did fall asleep I'd wake up after a few hours and not be able to go back to sleep. I ended up buying a bottle of the Unisom sleep aid and that did the trick. My problem was that M was a nightly ritual before going to sleep.
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forgot to show my tracker......
To: KC4578
Here is what you have to understand. There is no full recovery to this process because the problem deals with the mind. In order to fully recover you would have to forget everything you done in the past. But we can't, porn will always be on the mind because you expose yourself to it.
But here is the thing, the longer you stay away from porn and masturbation, the more you are getting closer to your natural state of mind. I don't know why you don't get morning erections. I don't get them either but the bigger focus is getting/maintaining erections with a real woman during sex.
As far as libido goes, you are not going to feel your libido unless you're engaging into some sort of sexual act. I also feel like I have no libido but when I'm with my gf the libido kicks in. Therefore, the libido is really there.
If you are getting erections from fantasizing about real women then your penis is operating fine. Just continue the process for better sex results but keep in mind there is never a full recovery. People who go to a rehab are never fully recovered. They just learned to have more self-control with their habit.
But here is the thing, the longer you stay away from porn and masturbation, the more you are getting closer to your natural state of mind. I don't know why you don't get morning erections. I don't get them either but the bigger focus is getting/maintaining erections with a real woman during sex.
As far as libido goes, you are not going to feel your libido unless you're engaging into some sort of sexual act. I also feel like I have no libido but when I'm with my gf the libido kicks in. Therefore, the libido is really there.
If you are getting erections from fantasizing about real women then your penis is operating fine. Just continue the process for better sex results but keep in mind there is never a full recovery. People who go to a rehab are never fully recovered. They just learned to have more self-control with their habit.
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I need everyone on this forum to become leaders of tomorrow. If you're not thinking like a leader now, today is the day. Today is a new day! See.... If you think like a leader and not like a tester, you will succeed in this. Stop saying to yourself "I hope I can do this". Think as a leader and you will do it with no problems. When you think as a leader you are more focus than ever.
I'm a leader.
Palpateit
Ghostdog
Who else is a leader? You get over 30 days then you are a leader by example. And a leader continues to lead by example. Don't go back to where you came from. If you choose to go back, then you resign as a leader. You start over! I don't know about you but I love being a leader and I love my new self! I love that I have control over watching porn and masturbating. I love the excitement that I feel whenever I am around my gf. I love giving you all support, encouragement and advice.
That's all I have to say...
I'm a leader.
Palpateit
Ghostdog
Who else is a leader? You get over 30 days then you are a leader by example. And a leader continues to lead by example. Don't go back to where you came from. If you choose to go back, then you resign as a leader. You start over! I don't know about you but I love being a leader and I love my new self! I love that I have control over watching porn and masturbating. I love the excitement that I feel whenever I am around my gf. I love giving you all support, encouragement and advice.
That's all I have to say...
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To: Over_And_Over
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To: someguy85
First I’d like to thank everyone who posts on this board. We support and motivate each other and we are not judgmental upon each other.
I began rebooting about two weeks before I found this board; I just reached a point where things had to change. This board has played a major role in me having the strength not to relapse. Reading to stories of those who relapsed and getting back on track as well as those who are rebooting supermen.
I’m 45 years old so my exposure to porn was very different from younger guys who went straight to internet porn. If your initial exposure was to internet porn your rebooting process will probably be on the longer end of the scale.
Not feeling your libido is normal, I don’t feel mine until I’m in the company of a woman.
I wish I had the knowledge that I have now of this addiction years ago, this addiction has caused me to blow a few relationships.
love_a_challenge, palpateit I see you guys as the shepherds of the board and I strongly feel that others will come into the same role as we progress.
“One day at a time”
I began rebooting about two weeks before I found this board; I just reached a point where things had to change. This board has played a major role in me having the strength not to relapse. Reading to stories of those who relapsed and getting back on track as well as those who are rebooting supermen.
I’m 45 years old so my exposure to porn was very different from younger guys who went straight to internet porn. If your initial exposure was to internet porn your rebooting process will probably be on the longer end of the scale.
Not feeling your libido is normal, I don’t feel mine until I’m in the company of a woman.
I wish I had the knowledge that I have now of this addiction years ago, this addiction has caused me to blow a few relationships.
love_a_challenge, palpateit I see you guys as the shepherds of the board and I strongly feel that others will come into the same role as we progress.
“One day at a time”
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Wow i dont belive i managed to orgasm in my sleep again. This time i wasnt even wet dreaming. I was dreaming, and then a girl that i like appeared, and suddenly i was orgasming, i tried to prevent it since the orgasming sensation woke me up but it was too late. For it to be even worse, in my dream, i was on the internet broswering 9gag when suddenly porn appeared and i was like "wtf is this ****, where did 9gag go" and i tried to get back onto 9gag again. Im not counting this as a relapse (should i?), but i am really sick that every 2 weeks of no PMO, i orgasm into my sleep and **** everything up...
To: All
This has been quite a ride, guys. Even after a month of no PMO I still find myself thinking of porn (and obviously ogling women).
I spent the holiday weekend with my girlfriend and didn't have problems, though I did notice that often I mentally wasn't in the mood. I wonder if psychologically I'm in the flatline period.
Anyway, stay strong guys.
I spent the holiday weekend with my girlfriend and didn't have problems, though I did notice that often I mentally wasn't in the mood. I wonder if psychologically I'm in the flatline period.
Anyway, stay strong guys.
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To: modernhero2010
To: all
Having sex in the early stages of the reboot is not really a smart idea since your erectal health is not very good. Especially if you can't get a full erection even when watching porn, if you have semenal leakege and if you don't really enjoy the orgasm. These are telltale signs of sexual exhaustion and you need a break. Sexual exhaustion can also be cause of premature ejaculation. Try to avoid sex during your reboot process unless you are making you with a girl or have foreplay and you can achive full erection. Unsuccesfull sex can give your morale a drop and that is not really good for your recovery.
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To: suckersblood
that can be achieved yo, good luck with that! just stay focus, you can do it!
To: someguy85
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To: thegreat123
Its what happen to me the first time i tried to reboot after 2 and a half weeks. Since then i had 3 more relapses. It was really tough for me but i am trying to pull away from it and i am going for the home strech. The good thing is that those 23 days are not in vain, you are not starting from the beggining. You simply have to be persistant. Do not cave in no matter what, the "oh look an erection, why not take a look at porn" is a classic trap that your brain lays out. Your brain is still not cured and when it sees an oportunity to make you watch porn it will try to use it. You simply have to set yourself goals:
-no mastrubation
-no porn
-not a glimpse of porn
-fantasies to be kept at a minimum
-no penis touching
And you have to stick to this no matter what your brain tells you! Next time, if you feel like you will relapse gain all of your self-control and do some of the things i found myself useful and what helped me 2 days ago when i was near relapsing - simply yell to yourself "i am not weak" . i also find medidation useful, or simply start doing some excersise, push ups or an ab workout. Play a video game or phone a friend. If it is really getting to you - go outside. Simply go outside and do whatever you want because when you are outside you can't mastrubate(well you can, but you'll go to jail :D ) and it will help clear your mind. I hope i helped so next time you won't relapse. I am telling you this since i had 4 relapses in my attempts at PMO so i know what i am talking about...
-no mastrubation
-no porn
-not a glimpse of porn
-fantasies to be kept at a minimum
-no penis touching
And you have to stick to this no matter what your brain tells you! Next time, if you feel like you will relapse gain all of your self-control and do some of the things i found myself useful and what helped me 2 days ago when i was near relapsing - simply yell to yourself "i am not weak" . i also find medidation useful, or simply start doing some excersise, push ups or an ab workout. Play a video game or phone a friend. If it is really getting to you - go outside. Simply go outside and do whatever you want because when you are outside you can't mastrubate(well you can, but you'll go to jail :D ) and it will help clear your mind. I hope i helped so next time you won't relapse. I am telling you this since i had 4 relapses in my attempts at PMO so i know what i am talking about...
To: ben213
To: ben213
I'm finding it extremely difficult to restrain myself from M to O, even without porn. After a fun round of romping this past weekend, I'm craving that feeling again and have nearly broken down several times now. I keep trying to rationalize that as long as I don't look at P now I'll be fine if I just M once or twice a week.
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To: TheChieftan
I fully understand your point.
In a perfect world it would be great to be able to say "Baby look this is what I'm going through."
I have only told a few friends that I stopped M because I think it was messing with my libido. The women that I had occasional relations with I just eased back. I've have used the excuse which is partially true that I've been reading a lot and I working on improving myself as a person. Exercising, eating better abstaining from sex etc that worked pretty good.
One woman asked me one day after I refused her request to come "visit" her a number of times if I had caught an STD and was waiting to finish the antibiotics. I just told her no that's not the case I'm very busy with work and its consuming my mind.
Women will often throw crap in your face later when in arguments even if you are arguing over something totally unrelated. "Well at least I wasn't addicted to porn jerking off like some kind of freak and couldn't get it up!!!! What kind of man is that???"
Some of you have women that you can tell and are understanding you are very fortunate. While others will be taking the lid off of Pandora's box by explaining the situation.
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For those of you who don't know about Pandora's box:
"Pandora opened the jar, and all evil contained escaped and spread over the earth. She hastened to close the lid, but the whole contents of the jar had escaped, except for one thing which lay at the bottom, and that was Hope."
In a perfect world it would be great to be able to say "Baby look this is what I'm going through."
I have only told a few friends that I stopped M because I think it was messing with my libido. The women that I had occasional relations with I just eased back. I've have used the excuse which is partially true that I've been reading a lot and I working on improving myself as a person. Exercising, eating better abstaining from sex etc that worked pretty good.
One woman asked me one day after I refused her request to come "visit" her a number of times if I had caught an STD and was waiting to finish the antibiotics. I just told her no that's not the case I'm very busy with work and its consuming my mind.
Women will often throw crap in your face later when in arguments even if you are arguing over something totally unrelated. "Well at least I wasn't addicted to porn jerking off like some kind of freak and couldn't get it up!!!! What kind of man is that???"
Some of you have women that you can tell and are understanding you are very fortunate. While others will be taking the lid off of Pandora's box by explaining the situation.
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For those of you who don't know about Pandora's box:
"Pandora opened the jar, and all evil contained escaped and spread over the earth. She hastened to close the lid, but the whole contents of the jar had escaped, except for one thing which lay at the bottom, and that was Hope."
To: ALL
Wow... To the guys that are dealing with women, I totally feel your situation. I have a gf myself. Fortunately, I got lucky. I'm settled down with a woman that doesn't want sex before marriage so this allows me PLENTY of time to recover. But if she wasn't this way, I don't think I can tell her I had a porn/masturbation problem.
In my past relationships (before I really knew my problem) I hid my problem with taking sex pills (viagra, cialis, levitra). Sometimes I had great sex and sometimes I couldn't keep it up or couldn't get it up. It was always iffy and my ex-gf would just think I'm not in the mood, stressed out, can't focus, performance anxiety, don't want them, etc. This would go on/off in my relationship for 2-3 years until we both just not happy. She's not happy because she doesn't like it when I lose erection and I'm not happy because I felt they can't turn me on like I needed to be. But all along, porn/masturbation was the root of the problem. I probably be married a long time ago. But it don't matter. The woman I am with now completely makes me happy and is GORGEOUS out of all my ex-es. So I think God knows the ultimate plan.
I suggest all of you that have gf to get some sex pills to use during your recovery or until you build up enough confidence to perform in bed. Your excuses probably won't last forever. You can't tell a girl you wanna take things slow but a girl can tell you that. But if you gonna tell her you wanna take things slow I STRONGLY suggest you blame it on your religious beliefs, LOL. Or tell her you like to concentrate on building an emotional relationship ( a relationship not built on sex).
In my past relationships (before I really knew my problem) I hid my problem with taking sex pills (viagra, cialis, levitra). Sometimes I had great sex and sometimes I couldn't keep it up or couldn't get it up. It was always iffy and my ex-gf would just think I'm not in the mood, stressed out, can't focus, performance anxiety, don't want them, etc. This would go on/off in my relationship for 2-3 years until we both just not happy. She's not happy because she doesn't like it when I lose erection and I'm not happy because I felt they can't turn me on like I needed to be. But all along, porn/masturbation was the root of the problem. I probably be married a long time ago. But it don't matter. The woman I am with now completely makes me happy and is GORGEOUS out of all my ex-es. So I think God knows the ultimate plan.
I suggest all of you that have gf to get some sex pills to use during your recovery or until you build up enough confidence to perform in bed. Your excuses probably won't last forever. You can't tell a girl you wanna take things slow but a girl can tell you that. But if you gonna tell her you wanna take things slow I STRONGLY suggest you blame it on your religious beliefs, LOL. Or tell her you like to concentrate on building an emotional relationship ( a relationship not built on sex).
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Ok gentlemen, I stopped masturbating to porn January the 1st, the first few weeks, I would skim at it, check out my fav porn sites for updates. I did it out of curiosity and to see how I would react, to see if I could have the will to fight it. I would never skim it for more then a minute or two. Never crossed my mind to masturbate to it. I did this cause I knew porn would always pop up, wheather on a business trip at a hotel, an email, etc.... After about a few weeks, never even crossed my mind to look at it or skim at it. With the porn going away, my long extended periods of masturbating in front of the computer went away. After about a month, I tried to give up masturbating, that lasted 2 weeks. I still masturbate, but it's maybe once a day, or once every few days. Without the porn,I realised there is no fantasy, etc, to masturbate to. After about a week of masturbating to just thoughts of women I know, sexual experiances I had, the will to masturbate just left( guess my mind got bored of masturbating to the same thoughts and said screw it, I give up). When i do mastuerbate, It's either in the shower, or in bed at night......I wake up with great morning wood all the time......My story is I was a 100% addict of masturnating to porn, minutes, hours in front of the computer. It killed my sex life as far as normal sustained erections. January 1st I swore of porn for good. It has helped, I'm a differnt man, sexually, personally........ I did not buy fully into the "rebooting" process, give up masturbation, porn, for 60-90 days.........Sure that should help as studies have shown. But every person is differnt, every challenge is different. For me, letting go of porn was my goal, and I did that. It has helped my sex life like I can not describe it. Great erections, I get erected off a woman performing orals sex one me, and I stay hard. Am i back where I want to be as far as my erections and the 18 year old high school erections I long to have (I'm 38), I really don't know, only time will tell. But the challenge here was not getting my great normal erections back, the challenge was to get porn out of my life, then the healing process would begin.
The first few weeks I gave up porn, I would just masterbate in the bathroom, the first week I would masterbate 3-4 times a day, after the first few weeks it went down to once or twice a day.....Here I am almost 2 months later masterbation (masturbation) is just somethig that pops up a few times a week or so, i don't even keep count of it anymore...... Guys this is just me and this is my advice, get porn out of your life, stop watching it. Go from there, if you feel the need to masturbate, do it, screw the rebooting process, I didn't worry about the rebooting process. I just wanted to stop watching and masturbating to porn, cause that was the root of the problem that ruined me seuxally and to a point personally. If I felt the urge to masturbate to porn, I ran to the bathroom and masturnbated. As I said earlier, that first week or two, was masturbating 3-4 times a day( after about a month, was maybe once a day)..But I knew my goal was to get the porn temptation, longing, out of my life. And I did it........... Mentally it has woked, I don't care about the upsates on my fav pornsites, don't care what new porn tubes are outthere....... It's still a battle, a process. once an addict always an addict..............
The first few weeks I gave up porn, I would just masterbate in the bathroom, the first week I would masterbate 3-4 times a day, after the first few weeks it went down to once or twice a day.....Here I am almost 2 months later masterbation (masturbation) is just somethig that pops up a few times a week or so, i don't even keep count of it anymore...... Guys this is just me and this is my advice, get porn out of your life, stop watching it. Go from there, if you feel the need to masturbate, do it, screw the rebooting process, I didn't worry about the rebooting process. I just wanted to stop watching and masturbating to porn, cause that was the root of the problem that ruined me seuxally and to a point personally. If I felt the urge to masturbate to porn, I ran to the bathroom and masturnbated. As I said earlier, that first week or two, was masturbating 3-4 times a day( after about a month, was maybe once a day)..But I knew my goal was to get the porn temptation, longing, out of my life. And I did it........... Mentally it has woked, I don't care about the upsates on my fav pornsites, don't care what new porn tubes are outthere....... It's still a battle, a process. once an addict always an addict..............
To: alexdallas
Btw, no porn was used, just mental, but i felt disgusted.....and it was enough to get me to restart.
To: alexdallas
To: De_Cap
Well ****. What is it about today?
Right there with you.
Right there with you.
To: Palpeteit
To: dopaminecrutch
To: dopaminecrutch
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To: addict87
To: love a challenge
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To: De_Cap
Gahh, haha - same here. I figured that since I'd relapsed once yesterday, I may as well make the most of the day, likely to the added detriment of my reboot. Thankfully, that meant that cravings today were largely non-existent.
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To: petoria56
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Almost relapsed today!WTF?
I had suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuch a good wet dream 2 nights ago...it was the first real wet dream i had in a long time(i would usually had wet dreams about me watching porn). I dreamt of 2 girls that i know in person "giving a hand" to each other(could count as porn but there is a difference - earlier i would have dreams about me watching porn on tv or computer but now i was simply watching them doing it, like i was standing right next to them) . I was so excited that i again had an orgasm in my dream, it was sooooooo freaking sexy. I am starting to think more and more about having sex with women and less and less about watching porn so i think the reboot process is starting to kick in but i have serious cravings these days...
About mastrubation, this is how i view it - when i first stopped mastrubating my erectal health was very very bad, i had symptoms of sexual exhaustion, but if you can get hard with no problems watching porn but you can't get hard as easilly when using your imagination on real girls, i really dont see the problem in you mastrubating in your reboot process after a couple of weeks when you get your libido back, especially if you are single. But i had a different sort of problem. When i first tried abstaining from PMO 4-5 months ago i coudnt get any kind of erection, i had semenal leakege, premature ejaculation, watery semen...now my erections are strong and my sperm quality is good even though i relapsed quite a few times.
About mastrubation, this is how i view it - when i first stopped mastrubating my erectal health was very very bad, i had symptoms of sexual exhaustion, but if you can get hard with no problems watching porn but you can't get hard as easilly when using your imagination on real girls, i really dont see the problem in you mastrubating in your reboot process after a couple of weeks when you get your libido back, especially if you are single. But i had a different sort of problem. When i first tried abstaining from PMO 4-5 months ago i coudnt get any kind of erection, i had semenal leakege, premature ejaculation, watery semen...now my erections are strong and my sperm quality is good even though i relapsed quite a few times.
To: All
Porn has poisoned our minds, its best that you don't fantasize about crazy stuff. I remember when I first started the rebooting process, I had this one scene and porn star etched in my mind. Which was pretty much the last dose of porn I had prior to rebooting. I forced myself to stop thinking about it because it was just as bad as viewing the porn. If I had to fantasize it would be about a real woman and I did not M, edge or or touch myself.
Avoid the porn and porn induced fantasies and it will make the process much easier.
Avoid the porn and porn induced fantasies and it will make the process much easier.
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To: Loco007
2> If you can manage it with out causing major relationship problems avoid sex for 30 days. If you can't then just have sex with her it would be best not to use any ED pills. If you can't get it up then give her oral until she's cross eyed!!!
3> Once you are recovered you probably can M once in a while just not to porn. That's a personal decision that you have to make for yourself. For myself I feel that I've masturbated enough to last a life time LOL. I hope I maintain that state of mind.
4> You have a girlfriend so once you get back in the saddle you should be able to last a decent amount of time. Once you are recovered your sensitivity will be off the charts!!! I had to use Jedi mind tricks on myself to postpone O in record breaking times.
Not being terrorized by the thought of not getting it up is well worth it.
3> Once you are recovered you probably can M once in a while just not to porn. That's a personal decision that you have to make for yourself. For myself I feel that I've masturbated enough to last a life time LOL. I hope I maintain that state of mind.
4> You have a girlfriend so once you get back in the saddle you should be able to last a decent amount of time. Once you are recovered your sensitivity will be off the charts!!! I had to use Jedi mind tricks on myself to postpone O in record breaking times.
Not being terrorized by the thought of not getting it up is well worth it.
To: everyone
To: worriedprsn
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To: worriedprson
Welcome to the group.
What caused you to relapse?
If you made it 47 days that's a good accomplishment. Don't be to hard on yourself this process is not easy. I don't think your at the bottom of the well you just slipped down a little. Brush off your knees and get back to rebooting.
What caused you to relapse?
If you made it 47 days that's a good accomplishment. Don't be to hard on yourself this process is not easy. I don't think your at the bottom of the well you just slipped down a little. Brush off your knees and get back to rebooting.
To: GhostDog
To: petoria56
To: petoria56
Add me on the relapse list as well...this is my 5th relapse(yea, it is getting kinda of annoying) since i began abstaining from PMO.
It was a wierd day. I had another wet dream and another orgasm when i woke up on that thursday morning. I hate when that happens since that gives me the cravings the whole day. So while the day was passing i ran onto a erotic story. Now this part makes me feel sick about myself. Instead of just leaving the website i kept reading and i got a boner. And instead of stopping there i shut down my porn blocker on my computer and went to read erotic stories, where i found a story that made me so horny, so i mastrubated and that is how i relapsed. I was horny about real life girls these days but i don't think i needed that relapse, not at all...now i don't feel horny anymore...it's tough, it's so freaking tough. I was close to opening up porn again today but this time i resisted somehow. I noticed people who have a girlfriend or who do have opportunities to have sex are less prone to relapsing. I got rejected by a girl that i like a couple of days ago. It made me feel lonely again and it's not helping...
Oh well...back on the saddle again...
It was a wierd day. I had another wet dream and another orgasm when i woke up on that thursday morning. I hate when that happens since that gives me the cravings the whole day. So while the day was passing i ran onto a erotic story. Now this part makes me feel sick about myself. Instead of just leaving the website i kept reading and i got a boner. And instead of stopping there i shut down my porn blocker on my computer and went to read erotic stories, where i found a story that made me so horny, so i mastrubated and that is how i relapsed. I was horny about real life girls these days but i don't think i needed that relapse, not at all...now i don't feel horny anymore...it's tough, it's so freaking tough. I was close to opening up porn again today but this time i resisted somehow. I noticed people who have a girlfriend or who do have opportunities to have sex are less prone to relapsing. I got rejected by a girl that i like a couple of days ago. It made me feel lonely again and it's not helping...
Oh well...back on the saddle again...
For me today is a special day I have made it 100 days without PMO. For those who don’t know I am 45 years old and have been suffering from this since about 1999.
If someone would have told me that I’d be able to accomplish this I would have called them crazy. Once I got past a certain point it became normal and the urge to M faded away. As far as P I removed it all from my computer, unsubscribed from my favorite P forum. I remember when I contacted the owner and asked him to change my email address to something random and to alter my password because I was quitting the site. His exact words were “You’ll be back; guys do this all the time and come back in less than a week”. Now if that doesn’t sound like a drug pusher what does???!!!
My energy level is higher, I’m stronger at the gym, my mind appears to be sharper, the way I talk and use words has changed for the better, I feel more confident, I notice women a lot more now, everyday women can get mentally excited and more.
I am happy beyond words that I found this website and yourbrainonporn.com the education and sharing has been priceless.
I was thinking the other day of all the nice sexy women I let slip away because I knew I would not be able to satisfy them sexually because of my P induced ED.
Men, there is gold at the end of the rainbow but as with anything in life it MUST be earned by your discipline and dedication to rebooting.
Now I need to fine a steady woman :-)
If someone would have told me that I’d be able to accomplish this I would have called them crazy. Once I got past a certain point it became normal and the urge to M faded away. As far as P I removed it all from my computer, unsubscribed from my favorite P forum. I remember when I contacted the owner and asked him to change my email address to something random and to alter my password because I was quitting the site. His exact words were “You’ll be back; guys do this all the time and come back in less than a week”. Now if that doesn’t sound like a drug pusher what does???!!!
My energy level is higher, I’m stronger at the gym, my mind appears to be sharper, the way I talk and use words has changed for the better, I feel more confident, I notice women a lot more now, everyday women can get mentally excited and more.
I am happy beyond words that I found this website and yourbrainonporn.com the education and sharing has been priceless.
I was thinking the other day of all the nice sexy women I let slip away because I knew I would not be able to satisfy them sexually because of my P induced ED.
Men, there is gold at the end of the rainbow but as with anything in life it MUST be earned by your discipline and dedication to rebooting.
Now I need to fine a steady woman :-)
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