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Update
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update...
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update and still going strong...
To: chris5280
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I've made it 31 days with out M/P
This is the absolute longest I've gone since I started M in my mid teens. Porn really had my brain screwed up pretty bad. I noticed a major change in how I feel around women now, a certain level of excitement that I had lost.
Trust me when I say I've been tempted to M but I've resisted the urge by looking at how far I've made it. Before when I tried to stop I'd relapse after few days.
I'm going to continue to avoid porn and no M and just deal with real women.
This is the absolute longest I've gone since I started M in my mid teens. Porn really had my brain screwed up pretty bad. I noticed a major change in how I feel around women now, a certain level of excitement that I had lost.
Trust me when I say I've been tempted to M but I've resisted the urge by looking at how far I've made it. Before when I tried to stop I'd relapse after few days.
I'm going to continue to avoid porn and no M and just deal with real women.
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HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL AND KEEP THE NO PMO GOING FOR 2012.
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To: brokenman1
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To: brokenman1
I dont know why everyone is so focused on this spontaenous erection thing. Why is it important? The only thing that is important is that u get hard with a girl, not if u get boners randomly for no reason. I really dont think they have anything to do with the healing process.
And to the guy with the latin gf above:
She sounds understanding, and ur problem sounds mostly like performance anxiety to me. 4 yrs without sex would give anyone perf anxiety. But still, stopnthe porn and it will help, but make sureu relax! She seems like she wants to help
And to the guy with the latin gf above:
She sounds understanding, and ur problem sounds mostly like performance anxiety to me. 4 yrs without sex would give anyone perf anxiety. But still, stopnthe porn and it will help, but make sureu relax! She seems like she wants to help
To: revoangler
To: Guys with Porn-Masterbation Addiction
Relapsed, unfortunately. Restarting.
To: franktehtank
What made you do it? What exactly did you do? Was it just masturbation or masturbating to porn? I mean you're having great sex with your gf or wife so what made you want to touch your penis? Sorry to hear you relapse dude... I guess it will be me one day but I hope not.
To: franktehtank
This is not an easy thing that at all, it is truly an addiction.
Relapsing is understandable brush off yourself off and get back on the horse. I had reached a point where mentally I was trying to psych myself into relapsing but I fought the urge.
The feeling of not being able to perform with a woman because you can't get it up is horrible. After a while you run out of excuses and things go to hell in a hand basket. I remember being concerned [fill in chicks name] is probably going to want to have sex if I see her and then thinking how I was going to avoid setting myself up for failure.
When I think back on those failures it motivates me to not PMO
Relapsing is understandable brush off yourself off and get back on the horse. I had reached a point where mentally I was trying to psych myself into relapsing but I fought the urge.
The feeling of not being able to perform with a woman because you can't get it up is horrible. After a while you run out of excuses and things go to hell in a hand basket. I remember being concerned [fill in chicks name] is probably going to want to have sex if I see her and then thinking how I was going to avoid setting myself up for failure.
When I think back on those failures it motivates me to not PMO
To: franktehtank
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To: LeonardoMK
Is sexting making you want to touch yourself? If so, then you should really avoid it because eventually it may draw u back to porn.
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To: Hope0024
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To: dhbdman10
I'm a member of the downward curve club also. Trust me if over masturbation was the cause mine would probably be a complete circle :-). I've never gotten any complaints from women about it and some actually like the sensation from it. Just work on over coming PMO and enjoy the freedom.
To: jackboy18786
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To: Hope0024
The size of the penis is genetic. Nothing can increase the size of your penis. No over the counter products, nothing... No PMO will not increase your penis size and PMO will not reduce your penis size.
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I have made it 46 days with no PMO, I cannot believe it!!!
For those at the beginning it can be very difficult until you reach a certain point. I’ve read that it takes 21 days to form a habit. Once you hit the point where your new habit is not PMOing, its easier to make it to the next day. I actually took it one day at a time fought the difficult days with a passion, while keeping in mind the reason and benefits of not engaging in PMO. I was a mess for a few weeks due to the withdrawal symptoms mainly slight headache and my sleeping patterns were horrible. I did notice that my energy level, overall attitude and outlook on the day are different in a positive way.
For those at the beginning it can be very difficult until you reach a certain point. I’ve read that it takes 21 days to form a habit. Once you hit the point where your new habit is not PMOing, its easier to make it to the next day. I actually took it one day at a time fought the difficult days with a passion, while keeping in mind the reason and benefits of not engaging in PMO. I was a mess for a few weeks due to the withdrawal symptoms mainly slight headache and my sleeping patterns were horrible. I did notice that my energy level, overall attitude and outlook on the day are different in a positive way.
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To: alexdallas
Thanks for all the replies. Love_a_challenge, i dont know why i relapsed, really. I came home from vacation, from an awful travel day and didnt get a chance to have sex with my gf that daynand the previous day. Things have been going so good that i just kinda forgot that i was fighting porn and went to it, thinking there wasnt any harm in it. Looked at porn a couple time snthat week, now back to staying away. Luckily, sex is still going fine as i think ive been avoiding porn for a fairly long time, but im gunna start my day counting again from yesterday and stay off porn. Its fine now, but before long i know at the symptoms will return if i continue.
Interesting note, after having not looked at porn for so long, i found that i found a lot of it fairly gross lol. Nothing super weird, but found i just wanted to look at solo girls stuff and nothing involving sex. Felt a bit more natural.
Interesting note, after having not looked at porn for so long, i found that i found a lot of it fairly gross lol. Nothing super weird, but found i just wanted to look at solo girls stuff and nothing involving sex. Felt a bit more natural.
To: 25guy
To: 25guy
To: love_a_challenge
To: DJ_CB
Well here is some good news for you . since your gf knows you watch porn, why not introduce her to this forum and yourbrainonporn.com so she can understand why you want to try the 30-60 day no PMO program. That way she won' t try to give you blue balls or have sex with you.
To: love_a_challenge
To: DJ_CB
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To: 25guy
25guy. I'm following the same routine, kind of.... I just masterbate normally in the bathroom or in the shower(maybe once a day or 3-4 times a day). As I have posted before my addcition to masterbating (masturbating) 2porn(M2P) was seven years long, it consumed me like nothing else in life, and totally ruined my sex life; As it was impossible to often maintain an erection and sustain one. In Decenmber I tired quitting cold turkey and I was a wreck for 2 weeks. My body and mind just did not respond well. So, as of January 1st I just masterbate normally in the shower and bathroom when I feel the urge to eatch porn, when something tempts me. etc.... Wednesday a buddy emailed me a link to a porn website where the daughter of a guy we worked with did an amateur porn scene. I had met the young girl and she was always gorgeous. So to see her pop up in an amateur porn movie just sent my brain into complete scramble motion. I went as far as to pull my pants down watching the video. But I got up, went to the kitchen. 20 minutes later I took a shower and masterbated 4 times to the thought of the young girl I knew in the video. Thast night did it some more also. But you know what, I considered that a victory!
After 7 years of continued masterbation (masturbation) to porn, to be able not to masterbate to porn. To not sit in front of my computer for an hour, 2 hours, 6-7 days a week and not masterbate to porn. IT's a victory for me. The best pasrt is after I have released so many times, the temptation is gone. And I move on with the accomplishment that I did not masterbate to porn.
It would have been impossible to quit cold turkey, I even did some research where I read of some men needing inpatient treatment to get over the addiction.......Just masterbating (masturbating) normally for me has worked thus far, and I am fully confident IT will get me over the hump. I have sex all the time with different women( not very satisfying due to me porn induced ED) so the thought of having an actual fufilling sexual encounter where I can maintain the type of erection where I can switch positions, stay erect for more the 5 minutes, etc.... Is my motivation.......Qutiing cold turkey was not an option for me, so my routine is to just masterbate normally. The recovery time might be longer, but in that time my confidence will grow. As they days go by without sitting in front of my computer masterbating (masturbating) endlessly to porn go by, I will develp a greater outlook...........Already a great sign is for the first time in YEARS, I wake up with incredible morning wood..........
After 7 years of continued masterbation (masturbation) to porn, to be able not to masterbate to porn. To not sit in front of my computer for an hour, 2 hours, 6-7 days a week and not masterbate to porn. IT's a victory for me. The best pasrt is after I have released so many times, the temptation is gone. And I move on with the accomplishment that I did not masterbate to porn.
It would have been impossible to quit cold turkey, I even did some research where I read of some men needing inpatient treatment to get over the addiction.......Just masterbating (masturbating) normally for me has worked thus far, and I am fully confident IT will get me over the hump. I have sex all the time with different women( not very satisfying due to me porn induced ED) so the thought of having an actual fufilling sexual encounter where I can maintain the type of erection where I can switch positions, stay erect for more the 5 minutes, etc.... Is my motivation.......Qutiing cold turkey was not an option for me, so my routine is to just masterbate normally. The recovery time might be longer, but in that time my confidence will grow. As they days go by without sitting in front of my computer masterbating (masturbating) endlessly to porn go by, I will develp a greater outlook...........Already a great sign is for the first time in YEARS, I wake up with incredible morning wood..........
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To: jpobrn
I say you did a remarkable job and I can't wait till I get to 60 days no PMO or no PM because I have a gf. But if you think about it, you're suppose to be depressed from masturbatin to porn. I know how you feel because it is the feel of defeat. It's not making you necessarily start over but it will probably make you feel depressed and lost of libido for a good week. Let me ask you this....
What made you go back and watch some porn?
Was you just planning on watching it and not touching yourself or did you go to porn with the intention to masturbate?
Did you feel it was calling you?
Do you feel you have a stronger urge to masturbate more often now?
I admit I have seen some videos with naked women in it but I don't watch it, I skim thru it just to see what they are doing. I don't let the video excite me to make me want to start touching myself. Do you have a gf in your life to help you keep your mind away from porn? I say for the next 30 days concentrate on not touching your penis at all. You can do it man! I am definitely going to make it that 60 days. I am so focus it's ridiculous...
What made you go back and watch some porn?
Was you just planning on watching it and not touching yourself or did you go to porn with the intention to masturbate?
Did you feel it was calling you?
Do you feel you have a stronger urge to masturbate more often now?
I admit I have seen some videos with naked women in it but I don't watch it, I skim thru it just to see what they are doing. I don't let the video excite me to make me want to start touching myself. Do you have a gf in your life to help you keep your mind away from porn? I say for the next 30 days concentrate on not touching your penis at all. You can do it man! I am definitely going to make it that 60 days. I am so focus it's ridiculous...
To: hassassin30
Thanks for posting the link to the article. I sold porn on the internet for over 10 years amazing when I actually stop and think about it. I became totally desensitized by porn it ruined relationships and lead me down the dark road of PMO. It is true that the only thing that excites a porn peddler is PROFIT but it was profit at a price. What the article covers about porn becoming more and more intense is totally true. I remember when certain acts were taboo or at least non main stream. As time went on these acts became part of most main stream productions.
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To: So Are You Still Masterbating?
Ok Guys, look's like I have beat my persenol mark of 15 days are now on day 17 of not masterbating (masturbating) to porn. But I still masterbate all the time. Just in bed , the shower. Had a sexual experiance last night, very erotic. But I will admit, the effects of Porn ED still linger. I got erected, but it died down after about 5-10 minutes. Was able to get hard by jerking myself and came 3 times in 2 hrs. But still, no way close to a natural sustained erection.........My questions to you guys, and I wish we could be more clear in our posts...... Who is still masterbating (masturbating)? I mean I'm really not sure if you guys cut off masterbation (masturbation) all together, or we just caught off masterbating (masturbating) to porn...... Think would help me and the other guys if we were more clear on our masterbating (masturbating) habits....
To: alexdallas
To: alexdallas
To: alexdallas
I stopped masturbating 100% since I started the tracker. Prior to that I was beating of just about every day unless I had a woman in my bed and on the weekends/holidays sometimes 3 times a day. I totally cut off porn erased everything I could find on my PC and avoid it like it is poison.
I have a tattoo on my arm that I got many years ago that when translated reads "Victory or Death". I try my best to live by that saying.
Trust knowing that the relief from my sleeplessness and headaches were LITERALLY in the palm of my hand was a battle. But I knew what was at stake and the thought alone gave me the strength to over come the temptation to masturbate.
I think in order to reboot successfully you have to stop jerking-off because your mind/body has become used to that sensation leading to orgasm and not the feeling of a woman and the emotional desire towards a woman.
You will notice your excitement level and attraction to women will increase once your libido comes back. My libido left came back strong for about a week then went on vacation again which spooked me.
I'm sure my wacky sleeping pattern of 4-5 hours a night is what killed it.
You, myself and the members of this forum have an addiction. This is NOT going to be easy but few thing of any worth seldom are easy.
I have a tattoo on my arm that I got many years ago that when translated reads "Victory or Death". I try my best to live by that saying.
Trust knowing that the relief from my sleeplessness and headaches were LITERALLY in the palm of my hand was a battle. But I knew what was at stake and the thought alone gave me the strength to over come the temptation to masturbate.
I think in order to reboot successfully you have to stop jerking-off because your mind/body has become used to that sensation leading to orgasm and not the feeling of a woman and the emotional desire towards a woman.
You will notice your excitement level and attraction to women will increase once your libido comes back. My libido left came back strong for about a week then went on vacation again which spooked me.
I'm sure my wacky sleeping pattern of 4-5 hours a night is what killed it.
You, myself and the members of this forum have an addiction. This is NOT going to be easy but few thing of any worth seldom are easy.
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To: wingman333
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To: love_a_challenge
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To: Jaymaake
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To: fellow_fighter
To the people wondering if abstaining from porn works:
It did in my case. I feel back to a normal healthy guy again, for the most part. Sex with my gf is great and I can't remember the last time I lost it with her. I've been avoiding porn for a couple months for the most part, just had a small relapse a few days ago but restarted my tracker. However, I don't feel back to square one, in fact I feel just fine, and sex is also going great still.
It definitely worked for me.
It did in my case. I feel back to a normal healthy guy again, for the most part. Sex with my gf is great and I can't remember the last time I lost it with her. I've been avoiding porn for a couple months for the most part, just had a small relapse a few days ago but restarted my tracker. However, I don't feel back to square one, in fact I feel just fine, and sex is also going great still.
It definitely worked for me.
To: cms2010
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To: bear93
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So I'm approaching day 20, which is a victory in itself. The temptation is there everyday. I will even watch porn to take the beast head on, but don't masterbate to it. Had sex last night with a nice girl, I was very erect as she performed oral, but it went down as soon as she stopped and had to jerk myself to stay erect; And even that erection only lasted 5 minutes or so. I have been masterbating (masturbating) everyday since i cut the porn off. Maybe 2-4 times a day. Funny thing is last year, if I took 4-5 days off from masterbating (masturbating) cause I knew I had a sexual encounter coming up, during the sexual encounter I could get and sustain a very respectable erection( not the like before I had my M2P addiction) but a pretty good one, where I want to ejaculate immiedetly.................... And I wish I could do that now, but since I cut off the M2P, I just need the constant release. I'm not sure if it's taboo to say this or unhealthy, but I love porn. Not all of it, but like casting couch porn, humiliation, porn.......I really do. But I know it's unhelathy for me in terms of sexuality. I mean I functioned fine masterbating (masturbating) to porn, go to work, etc.......But the inability to maintain and sustain an erection for the past 7 years just was to much. My recovery time might be longer or who knows what it will be cause I still masterbate. But Masterbating (masturbating) to porn I'm certain is what cause my ED and I'm cutting that off......... My goal is to reach the 60 day mark of no masterbating (masturbating) to porn.....If the recovery is not there cause I still masterbate, will we will go from there as far as what to do. But I honestly think that having an addiction where the "drug" is two sided( masterbating (masturbating) and porn) is so easliy accesible (porn) just dropping it from one day to the next is a very difficult dynamic. Kudos to the guys that can accomplish that. I cut off the porn, but still masterbate. Yes my body and mind yearns for the feel and the rush of masterbating (masturbating) to porn, but I just reason myself to shy away from it. In the past 20 days there have been maybe 50 great and easy oppurtunieties to masterbate to porn, but have not done it. It's getting easier evbery day, but still a battle.
To: alexdallas
"The temptation is there everyday. I will even watch porn to take the beast head on, but don't masterbate to it."-------- Alex, this is what the devil wants you to do. Right now you're winning but eventually one of the porn videos is going to really get you excited and pull you right back in.
Also, I read your entire post and in my opinion you really need to stay away from masturbation AND porn for the next 60 days. Your constant masturbating habits are keeping your dopamine/prolactin levels high which explains you are still drawn to looking at some porn or masturbating. If you would have went 19 days without PMO you probably would have had a better and longer lasting erection with the girl.
Also, I read your entire post and in my opinion you really need to stay away from masturbation AND porn for the next 60 days. Your constant masturbating habits are keeping your dopamine/prolactin levels high which explains you are still drawn to looking at some porn or masturbating. If you would have went 19 days without PMO you probably would have had a better and longer lasting erection with the girl.
To: love_a_challenge
To: cms2010
To: cms2010
To: love_a_challenge
To: fthomas771
To: alexdallas
" I will even watch porn to take the beast head on, but don't masterbate to it."
"I was very erect as she performed oral, but it went down as soon as she stopped and had to jerk myself to stay erect"
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Alex the porn you are watching has and still is altering your brain & you are still masturbating just not while watching porn. Having to jerk yourself in an attempt to stay hard means you are still suffering from the PMO condition.
You have to banish porn like it is poison. Its like at person who smokes crack stopping and then sniffing coke. They are still a slave of the same addiction.
I'm telling you, YOU CAN STOP you have to dig in deep and find the will power within you. I used to masturbate like I needed it to live, now I hardly think about it. I look back and wonder why I was so damned hooked on it.
I've had sex a few times since my reboot and its totally different now. I had an excellent encounter with this very sexy young lady and afterwards my head was spinning from the release. I had not felt that sensation in YEARS!!!!
Its important that we understand that this is an addiction and we are going to try to psyche ourselves out to be able to give in to it.
I used to masturbate at least EVERY night before falling asleep for years and I stopped cold turkey. In the beginning I was tempted but I resisted. Now I don't even think about it because I know the dark side of doing it.
I'm 45 years old and I had a F&^#ing wet dream 2 weeks ago I seriously was like WTF!!!!!! I had not had one in so long I can't remember.
Rebooting WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!
"I was very erect as she performed oral, but it went down as soon as she stopped and had to jerk myself to stay erect"
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If I'm wrong forum members "fire at will"
Alex the porn you are watching has and still is altering your brain & you are still masturbating just not while watching porn. Having to jerk yourself in an attempt to stay hard means you are still suffering from the PMO condition.
You have to banish porn like it is poison. Its like at person who smokes crack stopping and then sniffing coke. They are still a slave of the same addiction.
I'm telling you, YOU CAN STOP you have to dig in deep and find the will power within you. I used to masturbate like I needed it to live, now I hardly think about it. I look back and wonder why I was so damned hooked on it.
I've had sex a few times since my reboot and its totally different now. I had an excellent encounter with this very sexy young lady and afterwards my head was spinning from the release. I had not felt that sensation in YEARS!!!!
Its important that we understand that this is an addiction and we are going to try to psyche ourselves out to be able to give in to it.
I used to masturbate at least EVERY night before falling asleep for years and I stopped cold turkey. In the beginning I was tempted but I resisted. Now I don't even think about it because I know the dark side of doing it.
I'm 45 years old and I had a F&^#ing wet dream 2 weeks ago I seriously was like WTF!!!!!! I had not had one in so long I can't remember.
Rebooting WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!
To: alexdallas
I believe love_a_challenge and GhostDog were correct in their statements above, alexdallas. While it may be unnervingly difficult to refrain from P entirely, it will be absolutely necessary to speed the process along. Being subjected to porn will still have effects on your levels of dopamine and prolactin, which are the very things you're trying to abstain from affecting.
The neural pathways associated with them will not be weakened or diminished unless you remove the agent that is sharply promoting their presence, namely P. While you continue to view P, your brain will continue to be used to its sensory overload, and therefore numb the receptors, which is what you're trying to avoid.
In other news, I've passed the 24 hour mark and while I'm proud of it, I know that the most difficult aspects are yet to occur. The longest I can recall having gone without PMO in 15 years was just under a week (I wasn't trying to refrain for addictions reasons, just curiosity. The dreams were amazing.).
I have noticed that sexual imagery is nearly everywhere, be it magazines or television shows. Sex really sells, and while in a stage of refraining one begins to really notice just how prevalent it is. Having said that, this won't fix itself. It's up to me, and there's no turning back.
The neural pathways associated with them will not be weakened or diminished unless you remove the agent that is sharply promoting their presence, namely P. While you continue to view P, your brain will continue to be used to its sensory overload, and therefore numb the receptors, which is what you're trying to avoid.
In other news, I've passed the 24 hour mark and while I'm proud of it, I know that the most difficult aspects are yet to occur. The longest I can recall having gone without PMO in 15 years was just under a week (I wasn't trying to refrain for addictions reasons, just curiosity. The dreams were amazing.).
I have noticed that sexual imagery is nearly everywhere, be it magazines or television shows. Sex really sells, and while in a stage of refraining one begins to really notice just how prevalent it is. Having said that, this won't fix itself. It's up to me, and there's no turning back.
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To: dhbdman10
Since you're on roll, try not masturbating at all. Just don't touch your penis. Get you a nice girlfriend or start dating someone special. But if you do masturbate, the best solution is not to use anything at all because you are using visual stimulation to reach your orgasm. And that's not how it is with a real woman...
To: love_a_challenge
To: love_a_challenge
To: fthomas771
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To: alexdallas
To: JonesJr
To: Everyone
I believe I'm on day 3 now (and so many more to follow) and still with a strong resolve. I've found myself increasingly thinking about P and have decided that the trick is not willpower but rather setting up one's life such that it's difficult to access porn.
My dreams have been, unsurprisingly, more erotic lately and I had the first morning erection I can recall having in quite some time, which is a great sign.
My dreams have been, unsurprisingly, more erotic lately and I had the first morning erection I can recall having in quite some time, which is a great sign.
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To: ashawo
You don't believe porn is the main culprit??? Okay, do this....
For the next 60 days, watch porn every day (no masturbation) and see how you treat and look at women on a daily basis, as sex objects or as women. See if you can remain faithful to one women vs. the need for a selection of women. Porn gives us the ability to switch screens from one woman to another which means this will make it hard for you in real life to be satisfied with one woman. Therefore, if you are not satisfied in the mind with one woman, your desire to continuously have sex with her will decline, which means your ability to keep/sustain erections will decline.
Watching excessive porn is just as dangerous as masturbating to porn.
Also, I tried your method before (no masturbating to porn). All it did was eventually made me go back to masturbating to porn. All it did was keep me thinking about sex all day long and getting it from whomever wants to open their legs. All it did was keep me looking at 2 people have sex as if this is a normal thing to do. All it did was make me lose my excitement the 2nd time around having sex with a woman. It was like once I got it, I didn't care for it anymore. Porn turns you into a sex hunter. Porn will make you think about cheating more in your relationship. Porn will make you ask your gf/wife to do abnormal sexual things a normal woman wouldn't do like asking her if you can bust on her face.
Bottomline, porn will eventually ruin your relationship/marriage.Porn will make you feel like your gf/wife is not doing enough to satisfy in the bedroom. Porn will eventually make you masturbate to porn again. Porn will make you not appreciate the beauty of regular women. Porn will make you think your gf/wife is not attractive enough. Porn will fukkkkk up your mindddddd!!!!!!
Porn is the culprit!!!!!!
For the next 60 days, watch porn every day (no masturbation) and see how you treat and look at women on a daily basis, as sex objects or as women. See if you can remain faithful to one women vs. the need for a selection of women. Porn gives us the ability to switch screens from one woman to another which means this will make it hard for you in real life to be satisfied with one woman. Therefore, if you are not satisfied in the mind with one woman, your desire to continuously have sex with her will decline, which means your ability to keep/sustain erections will decline.
Watching excessive porn is just as dangerous as masturbating to porn.
Also, I tried your method before (no masturbating to porn). All it did was eventually made me go back to masturbating to porn. All it did was keep me thinking about sex all day long and getting it from whomever wants to open their legs. All it did was keep me looking at 2 people have sex as if this is a normal thing to do. All it did was make me lose my excitement the 2nd time around having sex with a woman. It was like once I got it, I didn't care for it anymore. Porn turns you into a sex hunter. Porn will make you think about cheating more in your relationship. Porn will make you ask your gf/wife to do abnormal sexual things a normal woman wouldn't do like asking her if you can bust on her face.
Bottomline, porn will eventually ruin your relationship/marriage.Porn will make you feel like your gf/wife is not doing enough to satisfy in the bedroom. Porn will eventually make you masturbate to porn again. Porn will make you not appreciate the beauty of regular women. Porn will make you think your gf/wife is not attractive enough. Porn will fukkkkk up your mindddddd!!!!!!
Porn is the culprit!!!!!!
To: ashawo
I would highly recommend that you view the following video series in its entirety:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/your-brain-on-porn-series
Historically speaking, video porn- with multiple tabs/videos open, all fast-forwarded to your favorite, most intense moments, all with the girls you find to be the most absolutely attractive- operates on the basis of providing the greatest dopamine rush possible. This is a far cry from static porn, e.g. Playboy, in that it is too easily customizable and extreme. Given that we've only had access to a this type of stimulation for a few decades, it short circuits the wiring that we've evolved to have over hundreds of thousands of years and etches new channels with which dopamine can (erroneously) travel.
Put simply, video porn is a relatively new phenomenon that we are incapable of safely processing.
http://yourbrainonporn.com/your-brain-on-porn-series
Historically speaking, video porn- with multiple tabs/videos open, all fast-forwarded to your favorite, most intense moments, all with the girls you find to be the most absolutely attractive- operates on the basis of providing the greatest dopamine rush possible. This is a far cry from static porn, e.g. Playboy, in that it is too easily customizable and extreme. Given that we've only had access to a this type of stimulation for a few decades, it short circuits the wiring that we've evolved to have over hundreds of thousands of years and etches new channels with which dopamine can (erroneously) travel.
Put simply, video porn is a relatively new phenomenon that we are incapable of safely processing.
To: Opinion And Saturday Night Sex
I think everybody has different opinions, facts, theories, etc...... The only true fact that I know is constant masterbation (masturbation) will hinder your sex life as it has to me the past 7 years. I have 22 gone days without masterbating (masturbating) to porn. The longest I had gone before that was 14 days in Decmember and I was a terrible wreck, almost suffering withdraw symptoms(7 years of non sop masterbating (masturbating) to porn in front of the screen was not easy to stop cold turkey). This time around I'm more focused and motivated. I put myself on a program that I'm going to keep to. The most important one was starting to be Masterbation2Porn free on January 1st. That was a tremendous Psychological asset. Starting the new year off porn free. As I have said before, I still masterbate. In the shower, in bed, etc...... I still watch porn, just clips here and there. This past week watched it 3 times for maybe 5-10 minutes at a time. Did my body want to masterbate to it, yea, of course. But My mind is programmed not to give in to it. Si, I didn't and I wont. And as I mentioned this past week, I watched the porn to see how my body and mind would react, how I could handle it. Was I turned on by watching it, sure I was. But not an inclination to masterbate to it.It's my way of overcoming the addiction. PORN will always be around, weather I'm home, on a business trip, etc....... I don't want to be scared of it if I come across it. If I come across porn 1 month, 4 months down the line, I'm going to say to myself, hey theres porn. I use to masterbate to that all the time. Now it's just something to watch like a regular guy. I'm a recovering poen2masterbation addict. Again, to get to 40-60-70-80-90 days of bring porn2masterbation free, being free of not being in front of the computer for 1-2-3-4 hours a day masterbating (masturbating) to porn is going to be a lifestyle, life changing event for me. This is what I am realising. The constant and sustained erections when they come, that's going to be even greater. But I have realised it's not my only motivation. Being free of the masterbating2porn addiction and all the time, oppurtuneites, etc..... it has taken from me, and trying to make up for those losses is just as important.............. So guys, find your strengths, your motivations, the dynamic that will get you away from sitting in front of the computer masterbating (masturbating) to porn. Start from day one, start from zero. I did.......
Ok so saturday night sex....... Actually 2 dates on this night. Since I'm starting to build confidence that I can get, and sustain a respectable erection 21 days free of masterbating2porn( mostly because of the intense morning wood I now get that I have not had inmmaybe 8 years), I thought why not try and have 2 sex dates on the same night........ 1st date: Drinks and to a hotel. Mind you i masterbated 3 times in the shower after work on Friday night, needed the release after a long week. So, the great detail here is I stayed erect while she performed oral for at least 10 minutes. That NEVER hapened during my porn2masterbation addiction( execpt for
the few times last year where I refrained to masterbating (masturbating) to anything for upcoming sex dates last year)........ So the sex was good, maintained respectable erections for 10-15 minutes the first time, then again a 2nd time. Had to jerk myself in between to get erect, but again I masterbated all week and had masterbated 3 times the night before. Had a great orgasm to finsh. Not this is not what I call a complete victory in over my porn induced ED, but I was pleasently surprised that i satyed so hard during oral and the sex was pretty good, not great. Let's just say the first date sex Saturday night gave me just a small taste of what eventuallly cleaning my life of masterbating2porn will reward me with.
Date 2: Ok, she's a FWB: Very pretty, great body. She's on sitting on the couch and were having intercourse, it's good, I have a nice erection. But I catch a glimpse of her heels as I'm having intercourse, her feet are on the floor but shes sitting on the couch. I'm in the middle on my knees. But as soon as i saw her heels, My erection went from a 80% to a full 100%. That was just a pure natural turn on and it made me more erect. I'm attributing that to being free of porn2masterbation. Something as simple as seeing her sexy heels and feet planted on the ground as were having intercourse completly made me even more erect.So, that went on for 20 more minutes.
Went to the bed and had nice intercourse again, good erections, not great, had to jerk myself after I ost my erection to get hard then orgasmed. So, It's awork in progress I told myself........But this morning, wow. Woke up with morning wood, I felt it. I turned around and we were going at it like for 15 straight minutes. I had a full erection for at leat 15 minutes. And this is a night after 3 orgasms with 2 differnet girls and maybe 2 hours of sex. To wake up and be that ahrd, and have sex and stay that hard. Not that I needed anymore confidence and motivation that I have stopped masterbating2porn, but it just reaffirms my position that I'm not going back to it.....Friday Night I have a sex date witha gorgeous older lady who I saw maybe twice last year. The sex was good, but I had to have really quick pounding sex with her so that I could stay hard. I was lucky that both times we met, she orgasmed pretty quick. So losing my erection after 5-10 minutes was not an issue. But man, i was tired. So after I go to sleep tonight, I'm going to be masterbation (masturbation) free until my date with her Friday night. As I have mentioned in the past, If I can go 4-5 days without masterbating (masturbating) period, I can get and sustain some pretty good erections. This Friday it will be be 25 days of no masterbating2porn and 5 dyas of no masterbation (masturbation). I'm very intrugied to see what the results will be. Will let you guys know.....Keep up the fight, find your avenues to stop masterbating2porn.
Ok so saturday night sex....... Actually 2 dates on this night. Since I'm starting to build confidence that I can get, and sustain a respectable erection 21 days free of masterbating2porn( mostly because of the intense morning wood I now get that I have not had inmmaybe 8 years), I thought why not try and have 2 sex dates on the same night........ 1st date: Drinks and to a hotel. Mind you i masterbated 3 times in the shower after work on Friday night, needed the release after a long week. So, the great detail here is I stayed erect while she performed oral for at least 10 minutes. That NEVER hapened during my porn2masterbation addiction( execpt for
the few times last year where I refrained to masterbating (masturbating) to anything for upcoming sex dates last year)........ So the sex was good, maintained respectable erections for 10-15 minutes the first time, then again a 2nd time. Had to jerk myself in between to get erect, but again I masterbated all week and had masterbated 3 times the night before. Had a great orgasm to finsh. Not this is not what I call a complete victory in over my porn induced ED, but I was pleasently surprised that i satyed so hard during oral and the sex was pretty good, not great. Let's just say the first date sex Saturday night gave me just a small taste of what eventuallly cleaning my life of masterbating2porn will reward me with.
Date 2: Ok, she's a FWB: Very pretty, great body. She's on sitting on the couch and were having intercourse, it's good, I have a nice erection. But I catch a glimpse of her heels as I'm having intercourse, her feet are on the floor but shes sitting on the couch. I'm in the middle on my knees. But as soon as i saw her heels, My erection went from a 80% to a full 100%. That was just a pure natural turn on and it made me more erect. I'm attributing that to being free of porn2masterbation. Something as simple as seeing her sexy heels and feet planted on the ground as were having intercourse completly made me even more erect.So, that went on for 20 more minutes.
Went to the bed and had nice intercourse again, good erections, not great, had to jerk myself after I ost my erection to get hard then orgasmed. So, It's awork in progress I told myself........But this morning, wow. Woke up with morning wood, I felt it. I turned around and we were going at it like for 15 straight minutes. I had a full erection for at leat 15 minutes. And this is a night after 3 orgasms with 2 differnet girls and maybe 2 hours of sex. To wake up and be that ahrd, and have sex and stay that hard. Not that I needed anymore confidence and motivation that I have stopped masterbating2porn, but it just reaffirms my position that I'm not going back to it.....Friday Night I have a sex date witha gorgeous older lady who I saw maybe twice last year. The sex was good, but I had to have really quick pounding sex with her so that I could stay hard. I was lucky that both times we met, she orgasmed pretty quick. So losing my erection after 5-10 minutes was not an issue. But man, i was tired. So after I go to sleep tonight, I'm going to be masterbation (masturbation) free until my date with her Friday night. As I have mentioned in the past, If I can go 4-5 days without masterbating (masturbating) period, I can get and sustain some pretty good erections. This Friday it will be be 25 days of no masterbating2porn and 5 dyas of no masterbation (masturbation). I'm very intrugied to see what the results will be. Will let you guys know.....Keep up the fight, find your avenues to stop masterbating2porn.
To: alexdallas
To: palpateit
To: alexdallas, love_a_challenge
To: asdffdsa0412
To: Forum
I see your points on every end, I really do. I respect them.But as I said from the very begining, quitting masterbating (masturbating) to porn and masterbating (masturbating) all together was just not an option for me. This is my way of withdrawing from being in front of the computer masterbating (masturbating) for minutes and hours on end to porn. It was a 7 years addiction. For the first time in 7 years a daily routine of sitting in front of the computer 1,2,3, times a day for extended periods of time masterbating (masturbating) to porn is non-existent. I admit masterbating (masturbating) to porn was an addiction. And I enjoyed watching porn, but since I can no longer masterbate to it, and no longer will, the times I have watched it the past 22 days seemed fruitless. Yea, I get turned on somewhat( as any other guy watching porn), but it's not the same as when I could masterbate to it. Think the longest I have watched it was 10 minutes. So going from masterbating (masturbating) to porn 1,2,3 times a day for a combined 45minutes to an hour, maybe 2 hours, sometimes 4 hours on weekends, to no longer masterbating (masturbating) to porn, and only watched porn itself for a combined half hour the past 22 days; It a tremendous victory for myself. A year ago when I was in the midst of tube porn channels, signing up for free porn trials, just watching as much porn as I can; If you told me that I have come this far in beating this addiction, would never have believed it. It slowly feels like this giant weight off my back is on it's way out. When i wake up with full erections in the morning, as I did 4 days last week, it just reaffirms my knowing that masterbating2porn is something that will no longer control and linger over me. And yes I masterbate, soemtimes once a day, someties twice a day. Have noticed that over the last week, it's more difficult to enjoy it as there's really nothing to think about other then possible future sex dates. The first two weeks when I gave up masterbating2porn think i was masterbating (masturbating) 3-5 times a day, cause my body was asking for that rush of being in front of the computer masterbating (masturbating) to hot porn. But over the past week, the masterbation (masturbation) desire has subsided. But again, this is my avenue of beating the masterbating2porn addiction that so consumed my life for the past 7 years. Words like Dopemine, rebooting,etc,... sure their important and are major factors to consider for anybody trying to get over this horrid addiction; But as i said before, kicking the addiction of masterbating2porn was my complete motivation. The rebooting, dopemine levels, I will let them fall into place as they come. Beating the addiction is my battle. I have gone 22 days straight without being in front of a computer masterbating (masturbating) to porn. It feels dam good and my motivation only grows stronger each day. For you guys trying to beat this thing, it can be done. Find your strengths, set yourself up with some type of program based on your faith, knowledge. It's foolish to think that every guy out there with this consuming addiction can quit cold turkey from one day to the next.
To: alexdallas
To: asdffdsa0412
What you are experiencing in the mind is the "fear of change". Stop pulling up porn sites on your computer and stop feeling on yourself every time you feel the need to ejaculate and God will reward you with a beautiful woman that likes everything about you. I will admit your body is going to go thru some crazy changes while you're recovering but that is apart of the process. The same way people just can't stop smoking crack, cigarettes, etc. is the same reason why porn addicts just can't stop watching porn. But you can do it. Just say to yourself...
1) porn is fantasy
2) normal men do not masturbate everyday
3) my penis is here for penetration, not masturbation
IMPORTANT: STOP worrying about your penis size. STOP touching yourself. HANG OUT with your friends more.
VERY IMPORTANT: Write down everything that will trigger you to watch porn or masturbate and stay away from it. (porn sites, chat rooms, live webcams, dirty magazines, steamy sex movies, etc. ) Visit this forum on a daily basis, re-read the stories. Start exercising more and controlling your eating habits.
Do all this one day God will bless you with the woman you've been waiting for.
1) porn is fantasy
2) normal men do not masturbate everyday
3) my penis is here for penetration, not masturbation
IMPORTANT: STOP worrying about your penis size. STOP touching yourself. HANG OUT with your friends more.
VERY IMPORTANT: Write down everything that will trigger you to watch porn or masturbate and stay away from it. (porn sites, chat rooms, live webcams, dirty magazines, steamy sex movies, etc. ) Visit this forum on a daily basis, re-read the stories. Start exercising more and controlling your eating habits.
Do all this one day God will bless you with the woman you've been waiting for.
To: love_a_challenge
To: fellow_fighter
To: everyone
To: asdffdsa0412
Welcome to the community! I think it's great that you've come to terms with your situation and are ready to do whatever it takes to fix it. We have comparable experiences, both in terms of current age and duration of using PMO. The road ahead will be tough as hell, and I wouldn't be surprised if all of the side effects of deprivation you mentioned end up happening, but when has it ever been easy to stop something that comprised roughly half of our lives? It certainly won't be easy, but it's absolutely worth its weight ("wait"?) in gold.
I'm still in the midst of my first week and I've been increasingly tempted to M. I think about it constantly before I go to bed which has caused sleeping issues, and oddly enough I find myself wanting to M just to prove to myself how hard I can still get, which would unfortunately defeat the purpose of this whole exercise. Additionally, I've found that I've been checking out women a lot more often than before, which isn't to say that I didn't before (because I did quite a bit), but that I'm finding myself more interested in the particulars of a woman, rather than just thinking "she's hot" like it's a check list. My personal issue with PMO has never involved shame or regret, so it's surprising to start viewing women in a different light.
Tick, tock....
I'm still in the midst of my first week and I've been increasingly tempted to M. I think about it constantly before I go to bed which has caused sleeping issues, and oddly enough I find myself wanting to M just to prove to myself how hard I can still get, which would unfortunately defeat the purpose of this whole exercise. Additionally, I've found that I've been checking out women a lot more often than before, which isn't to say that I didn't before (because I did quite a bit), but that I'm finding myself more interested in the particulars of a woman, rather than just thinking "she's hot" like it's a check list. My personal issue with PMO has never involved shame or regret, so it's surprising to start viewing women in a different light.
Tick, tock....
To: palpateit
To: palpateit; Forum
To: palpateit; Forum
To: fellow_fighter
To: all
To: palpateit
To: TheChieftan
To: cms2010
To: TheChieftan
To: cms2010
To: wingman333, all
To: Guys
Ok Guys, I have been reluctant and even scared to a point. But I'm going to try and be masterbation (masturbation) free starting tomorrow. I have gone 25 days without masterbating (masturbating) to porn, but have masterbated constantly. It's to the point where masterbation (masturbation) does nothing for me and I have to fantasize really hard to get turned on. I think this is a good time to try to be masterbation (masturbation) free, that includes not skimming at porn. It's going to be difficult but I really want to try this. I need your advice though. I have sex at least 2-3 times a week, is this going to hurt me, or what effect will it have. The longest I have gone without masterbating (masturbating) was 17 days when I was 18, yes I remember it vividly. But I'm going to try it. Staying away from masterbating (masturbating) to porn was easy cause doing that takes watching the porn, pulling your pants down....But masterbation (masturbation) you can do it anywhere anytime, that's why it concerns me. I'm also going to start a new tracker to be free of masterbation (masturbation), porn, etc..........Please forward any advice that can help me in this attempt. I have confidence cause I have stayed away from masterbating (masturbating) to porn for 25 days, you guys have no idea what accomplishment that was, cause I challenge my addiction was as deep as anybody's here...... Wish me luck, faith!
To: alexdallas
Confession, I was visiting some forum today and clicked on the girl's name and it led me xxx porn. Satan has so many ways of trying to lure us back in... Anyway, I decided to click on 2 different videos and briefly look at it, probably 1 minute a piece. However, while I looked at it I can feel my libido wanting to kick in and get excited from what I was seeing. To me that was actually good news because that means my brain is re-sensitizing from the past 40-50 days of no looking at porn. The old me wouldv'e looked at the video in boredom and start touching myself just get the full libido effect of the video.
Here is more proof that no PMO is working for me.
To: Guys
To: milesaugust
To: love_a_challenge
To: alexdallas
To: Everyone
To: all
TIP: get the tracker. It makes you feel like you're leading by example. Right now I am at 40 days no PMO... I feel like I can't fail me nor you. And it feels good to come to this site to check my tracker and see the number keep going up. I am so focus, it's ridiculous.
To: love_a_challenge
To: everyone
To: suomafni
To: all
I have to agree, the tracker is a simple yet amazingly helpful tool. In addition to other reasons, I most definitely do not want to have to reset any of my progress and have it be known here. If one of us fails, we all sort of do.
On the note of progress, I just hit one week! My dreams are still increasingly sexy, and I've had a few erections after waking. Also, I notice myself wanting to fantasize about women more often, and occasionally indulging in it for a moment or two.
Also, today was the first time that I found myself experiencing thoughts of an addict moreso than ever before. I felt absolutely compelled to touch myself, felt that it was completely necessary, and felt craved it like a starved animal. Looks like I've entered a phase of withdrawal and my body is trying to put up a fight. But hey, I can't stop now - if for nothing else, I'd have to edit my damn tracker and confess to everyone on here how I'd failed.
On the note of progress, I just hit one week! My dreams are still increasingly sexy, and I've had a few erections after waking. Also, I notice myself wanting to fantasize about women more often, and occasionally indulging in it for a moment or two.
Also, today was the first time that I found myself experiencing thoughts of an addict moreso than ever before. I felt absolutely compelled to touch myself, felt that it was completely necessary, and felt craved it like a starved animal. Looks like I've entered a phase of withdrawal and my body is trying to put up a fight. But hey, I can't stop now - if for nothing else, I'd have to edit my damn tracker and confess to everyone on here how I'd failed.
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