Very unique penis problem

[Arvind]

I have been masturbating in quite an unusual way(putting my penis inside my legs while lying in my back and rubbing in between with the inner thighs) since I was 10(I am 27 now).I do not have a bad sex drive but just can not *** during intercourse and since then trying to stay away from intercourse. I like it but it does not get me an orgasm. So I guess don't enjoy it as much. I like it better with just blow job. But still can not come till I masturbate. My penis does not get real high and lately I see all kinds of side effects. I do not *** and it goes down and then comes back again. I have never talked about this with any body(lot of girls that I have tried to give a little hint just think I am not interested or I do not enjoy them enough and giving excuses etc..).
So, I took the courage to ask for help. I feel like the nerves that joints my penis to the brain is cut out or something due to my bad habit. I have tried to stay away from masturbation but just can't after a week max.

[monkeyflower]

It's nothing bad; you've just accustomed yourself to coming/masturbating in a way that's very different from the sensations of partner sex. You don't need to stop masturbating, but try masturbating in ways that better simulate partner sex, i.e. with lube, using a gentle grip with your hand or other materials, etc. You can alternate that technique with your usual technique until you're able to reach orgasm with new techniques. It's not an overnight fix, but you CAN change with just some time and patience. Generally speaking, the more ways you can reach orgasm, the better sex can be :-)

[who_is_this]

MF, we're going to have to give you another name besides "coochie guru" if you keep giving out such excellent penis advice!  

[Arvind]

Thanks, I feel a lot more confident.

[monkeyflower]

Lol ;-) Thanks.

[monkeyflower]

I forgot to add that I always appreciate your advice. I thoroughly enjoy reading your posts :-)

[balt. cream]

My initial thoughts are you are not one with a unique situation. You stated you have been masturbating for quite some time and it almost appeared that so many people encouraged you to just masturbate in other ways. You asked for advice and I would hope you  would take these thoughts as loving direction.
While masturbating as advised by others may seem to be a quick fix to your long term hobby, My andetode to your your dsyfunction is quite the opposite.
When it really comes down to it your seeking to please yourself and  not another and, pleasing yourself, quite frankly is not the direction you want to seek.
While there is so much more to say, I will say this, the urge does not have to be satisfied. It has to be transmuted to other things. (www.lds.org)
True prinicples when understood, can transform individuals faster than any social program.
I believe very strongly it is only through the cleansing power of the atonement of Jesus Christ that we can overcome addicting behavior.
Masturbation among so many others can be grouped under the term addiction.  
From my point of view you have been looking for love and peace in fueling a selfish desire to please yourself. It is the wrong direction my friend and always will be.
I remind you of the healing words found in 1 Corinthians chapter 13 and versus 4-5. Love thinketh no evil, is not self-seeking, is long suffering, and is kind.
Please be advised by a person I deem as a true Prophet of God today even Gordon B. Hinckley when he says,
"I know that we are not perfect men... but we do not always act according to our knowledge. But I think that for the most part we are trying. We are trying to be the kind of men our Heavenly Father would have us be. That is a very high objective, and I commend all of you who are trying to reach it. May the Lord bless you as you seek to live exemplary lives in every respect.

Shake off the chains of addiction that hold you bound and live a clean and pure life free of masturbation as I fully feel will bring you the most happiness.
Please feel free to check out the www.lds.org site which gives many insights and tips to overcome the addiction of masturbation.

[tommygunn2005]

I'm 19 and I feel as if I have an unusual problem.  Throughout the day, and mostly night, my penis is retreated back in my foreskin.  If I were to go to the restroom, I will sometimes have a struggle to get it out.  I'm also having a problem getting erect during sexual activities.  I have been smoking for a couple months, and I know this may have some affect on it, but this problem has been around longer than  that.