Why take Viagra before a massage ?

[lynn1003]

My husband (75)  has had erectile dysfunction for about 6 years and takes Viagra. He has also suffered from low back pain and gets a 2 hour massage at a very reputable Spa once a week. During the past few months I have noticed  that he takes viagra about 30 minutes before going for his massage. We have a very happy long term marriage and I'm not questioning his loyalty nor suspecting him having an affair. I am questioning why he or any man would want to have an erection during a massage. To me, it would seem embarrassing. Am I being naive? or could it have anything to do with his bad back? I don't feel comfortable questioning him about this as I  would have to fess up counting his pills. I don't have any male family or friends that I can ask so I'm hoping a man or even a massage therapist might be able to offer an explanation to me. Our sex life has dwindled through the years but we still have sex about 2-3 times a month. Thank you.

[YardBull]

I don't blame you for being curious.  Depending upon the give-and-take you two have with one another, you could either innocently or jokingly ask your husband:  Did you ejaculate during your massage today?  But then you would want to be ready for the truthful or feigned answer:  No, what do you mean by that?!  If you don't mind me asking, what sort of sex do you engage in 2-3 times per month?  I'm thinking you could work your way into giving your husband a good handjob  before he goes to the masseuse.  

[lynn1003]

definitely something to consider.....I will try to innocently inquire when the timing is right. Easiest if I can walk in as he's taking the pills !

[YardBull]

The simple answer here is:  no, there is no reason for a man to take a Viagra tablet thirty minutes before going to get a massage.  However, if you are sure that is what is going on, then obviously your husband has his reason(s).  (I'm curious about what brought you to count his pills.)  It could not logically have anything to do with his bad back.  I also question a two hour massage, since one hour is the usual limit.  Of course, there are several kinds of massages.  Some are strictly for the back, while with others, the massage covers every inch of the body.  Some men enjoy "innocently" showing off their erection, so perhaps he likes to show off during his massage?  One's imagination can run wild, but Viagra is usually used for one thing.  You could ask him about it or even ask to go with him next time, but perhaps that is more than you want to get into.            

[lynn1003]

Thank you YardBull. His 2 hour massage was actually medically recommended by his surgeon and he has had one for years. (even tax deductible). He has a full body though primarily concentrating on his lower back and glutes.

As for me counting the pills, I guess it started by my curiosity. It's listed as Sildenafil so I googled it. It is prescribed by our GP, covered by our insurance, and it arrives via USPS. The refills seem to be arriving closer together than I would have expected. I fess up, I was nosy and saw the correlation of disappearing pills consistently on the same day and time as his massage.I get a 90 minute massage at the same time he gets his 2 hour so we go in one car. I have met his massage therapist,  nothing indicating she's anything but professional. It is a mystery.

Thank you again.