anxiety of loving a best friend

[Christine2]

Guys you have to help me. I am a married woman and my best friend is a guy who is also married. I fell in love with him along the way.  I know I cant act on it but its getting difficult. Not having him in my life is not an option. Having him in my life is getting harder.
My question  is should I discuss with him what Im feeling,getting it out in the open,cant act on it i know but if I dont say anything at all I will withdraw from him and he will never know why. Im scared, i never meant for this to happen. i dont know how he really feels about me.  We talk about everything but there is always a nervous tension between is. Again,Im very scared.

[complete]

Hi, I would go ahead and talk to him about it,but I would try to not act on it.If you have an affair with him it will never be the same.It will hurt you,your husband,him and his wife.Then both of you will always hate the fact you did.What you thank would be wonderful will turn into a nightmare!It will never be the same for either one of you again.I am giving you this from a males point of view.And please if for some reason the two of you do have an affair,please neither one of you tell your spouse.What you may think is a ease of your guilt and to quote get it off your chest will come back to cause both of you great pain in the long run.Kept your mouths shut and find your own self forgiveness,and interpeace.Remember the old saying and it is true,Friends Can Become Lovers,But Lovers Can Never Be Friends once its over.Good luck.