feeling like i don't satisfy him

[babyb2010]

Okay..so my problem is...
My boyfriend has absolutely NO PROBLEM getting an erection, but then when it comes to getting him off...nothing works. However, he masturbate..and get himself to ***, but no matter what I do sexually, and i've tried pretty much EVERYTHING, nothing works! When we first got together, he told me that he has a lack of sensitivity in his penis..but is there anything we can do, medications, creams, ANYTHING, in order to get him to the point where I can actually satisfy him. Satisfying my man, is EXTREMELY important to me, so it feels terrible when i can't get him off...PLEASE HELP!!!!

[SeriousSam]

Hmmm.. You sound a lot like my lady...lol  

Here is something that I think rocks  that would help.  Practice squeesing your vaginal muscles while he is inside you.  start of with sets of 20 then try doind as many as you can (squeezes) in progressively longer time periods when he is not inside you.

[SeriousSam]

You shouldn't worry though.  Honest to god if he says you rock his world, you probably rock his world.

[SixStringer]

You cannot bring your boyfriend to the point of ejaculation, and this is greatly troubling you.  At least you have a wonderful attitude which puts you a lot further along than many.  Sometimes, try as hard as one can, a person cannot bring the partner to orgasm, but over time that should not stop one from being sexual.  As a male, I can say that having an erection feels very very good, with proper stimulation, so even if you can't bring your boyfriend to ejaculation, keep trying, but have a stopping point so as not to make it into a marathon with no end in sight. Then let him get himself off.  Just keep things varied by giving him a blowjob or a handjob or do "69" position along with p-v intercourse, and maybe try anal intercourse.  Also, prostate massage very often allows men more intense orgasms, so that is something to try.  Eventually, I believe, you will hit upon something that works, and you will see him ejaculate by your actions.  

[Dalubaba]

Yes prostate massage appears to be right thing.Squeezing vaginal wall can be learnt by squeezing pc muscle.This is the muscle you squeeze while stopping urine.Male  and female can squeeze alternately establishing a rhythm.This may culminate in multiple orgasm for you and ejaculation for your man.This is probably called Cogel or Kogel method a doctor suggests to strengthen the vaginal muscle and perenium (a triangularly muscle between vagina and anus.

You can also massage perenium of your man.Deep the finger in the muscle and have a rotatory movement. this is a hot spot as per chines view point.(Taoist)
Ask him to take Penis bath(probably called sitz bath.) Stretch the penis foreskin with a two fingers and pour water on the stretched part for 15 minutes a day.Many nerves end at the tip of the penis(skin) The  bath stimulates the nerves and most of the penis problems are solved.If he is circumscribed pour water on perenuim with cloth dripping water. Contracting perenium alone also strengthens genitals.

[Dalubaba]

I have typed circumscribed in stead of circumcised. Please read as circumcised( an operation wheres skin is removed as Mohammedans do.(Isrills too)

[SeriousSam]

Prostate massage?  Talk to him first.  I once had a gal sorprise me with at a rather intense moment and it didn't go over real well with me.  lol

[Dalubaba]

Search the word Kegel.DR.Kegel has devide some method to develop peilvic floor muscle.website wikapadia has given full descrption about these exercises.I am pasting part of it.
A popular way to identify the pelvic muscles in men and women is to stop the flow of urine midstream. This is accomplished by contracting the pelvic floor muscles. Restarting the flow of urine is accomplished by releasing the pelvic floor muscles. Once identified this way, the pelvic floor muscles can be contracted and released independently of controlling urination. Kegels are most frequently performed in sets. Here are a few techniques:

    * Quick pumps: do 15 reps of quick pumps, pause for 30 seconds and repeat. Start at 15 and work your way up to 100 reps two times a day.
    * Hold and release: contract the muscle slowly and hold for 5 seconds, release slowly. Work your way to at least 25 reps two times a day.
    * Elevator: slowly contract 1/3 of the way, pause, then 2/3 of the way, pause, then all the way. Do 10 reps two times a day.

I am sure your problem will be solved with there exercise. you should visit the website  and know about Kegel exerxises.Best of luck

[babyb2010]

Thanks for your suggestions, hopefully with time and experimentation, we can get something figured out that will work

[jwboh]

I posted this in another forum, then saw this discussion which is active, so thought I would post here. I am seeing a new man, and the three times he had orgasm while making love, was through him masturbating and me stimulating his nipple. He was very direct in what he wanted. Prior to this we had a great love making session of kissing, intercourse, oral and manual stimulation, and he seemed to enjoy all of it. I have had orgasm multiple ways with him - oral, manual and intercourse. After the second time of him masturbating to orgasm, I asked him why (in a non-judgemental way) and he indicated he knew exactly what was needed for him to climax. He also told me he masturbated multiple times a day when younger. He has also told me stories about a very active and varied sex life. We are both 48. This is very new to me, and I have not had any where near the variety of sexual experiences as him, as I was married for 23 years. I am wondering about him ever ejaculating inside of me, and how important that is to me. I really like him and he says he has fallen for me, too.

[Dalubaba]

search orgasmic problem link and you can get medical explanation for the inhibition of orgasm.The words which are underlined or under scored  give enough inlo