husband seems to be getting angry over simple things..even just questions

[kevieb]

My husband has Hashimoto's, and he had a testicle removed after two failed hydrocele surgeries.  He was like living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde for quite a few years...it was pretty ugly. I think he had already had his surgery and was on testosterone therapy, when I felt like he should be tested for Hashimoto's...he only has half of a thyroid and had been on suppression therapy for years. When I requested more than just a TSH, about 5 tests, we learned that he was hypothyroid and that both antibodies were elevated...definitely Hashi's.  We seemed to do better after they got his thyroid levels up.  The first part of this year we were getting along better than we had in a very long time.  My husband has always been funny about sex..turned me down a lot....years later tells me he was turned on, wanted to have sex with me, didn't know why he was turning me down. We went through a period a little over 5 years ago, when having sex on Sunday afternoon was really important to him. It kind of faded away at some point.  My husband has no libido now. I really don't, either, but I feel like sex is important in a marriage. We both can get aroused and enjoy sex...if I can get him to agree to it.  At one point he said I needed to let him know ahead of time, so he could get prepared for it. I assume mentally?? and like maybe a day ahead??  We have sex about once every 3 months or so.  Besides the lack of libido, he has started getting angry really easy.  He has always kind of been a yeller, but we could have an argument, he would calm down, and we could talk things out.  We can no longer talk about important things without him becoming almost immediately angry and lecturing me and chewing me out....things that aren't worth getting angry over...just asking him a question about a heater last night he got mad and lectured me about 110 and 220 power and how we had tried running 110 heaters in some areas and it didn't save us any money......I asked why he was so angry at me, he said it was because....I am not even sure..maybe he said I didn't remember what he had told me about this before. I told him I didn't remember, because we had not compared the bills..then left to avoid a ridiculous argument.  I pay the bills, we did not compare prices...I also remembered that we ran two 110 heaters because the bathroom heater wasn't working, and the wall heater in our bedroom was so loud, he couldn't hear the TV. The 110 heater was quieter.  If that was confusing to follow...you now understand what I am dealing with. He seems to get angry at me at the drop of a hat.  I know in the past his testosterone levels were about 900, but his urologist said they were still in range.  That seems awful high to me, and I am wondering if that could be causing him to get so angry so easily and to also affect his libido?  he give himself a shot every week, instead of every two weeks.  The amount is supposed to be the same, just divided.  I thought that every week would keep him more stable...I am thinking maybe every two weeks would avoid a testosterone increase on a regular basis.  Should I let his doctor know that he has started getting so angry?  Any idea if Hashimoto's could be the cause instead?   Can I leave a message with his doctor?  I know his doctor cannot tell me information, but can I let the doctor know that he is becoming angry way too easy?  please help.  He has an appt next week for his testosterone.