i dont think he's interested anymore

i am the girlfriend of a man who only wants sex when HE wants it, when i want it he's not interested.
he used to watch porn until i explained that i feel uncomfortable about it and he said he'd stopped
we have been together for nearly a year and we used to have sex daily, sometimes twice, but now im lucky if i get anything once a week sometimes once a fortnight!
he says that he is tired and stressed about money and work and that he doesnt feel like it (unless he wants it!)
however last night i awoke (from noise and movement) during the night to find him masturbating and moaning as if he were acting out a porn!! i was discusted that he's telling me he's too tired and making me go without when he's 'sorting himself out' in his sleep while thinking about other women :(
i am not a fan of porn and would not consider watching it with him, but i am worried that he is no longer interested in me or perhaps the fact that im not filthy is making him resort to these habits, i dont want to go without sex because he's already sorted himself out the night before thinking about someone else, how can i stop him thinking about other people in his sleep so that we get our sex life back on track?? IM SO UPSET!! :(

[Luv_Luvs]

Guys will be guys:) But he probably doesnt know how this is affecting you, talk to him and explain how you dont like him doing that. Be the girl in control, get him on a routine that its not ONLY when he wants.. Hope I helped!!
                             -xoxo

[AnnieBrooke]

How do you know who he was thinking about in his sleep?  My husband has sexy dreams about me.  (So he says.  lol)  You jumped pretty fast to the conclusion he was thinking about other women.

[Dalubaba]

you can't control dreams of yours or others. If there is satisfaction in waking stage, you do not dream about it. Best way is to make some changes in techniques. Kegel exercise is one of them. If you practice kegel while doing intercourse, he will have some different type of sensations. Another is massaging perineum, small muscle between legs.Massaging or pressing this spot may create differnt sensations.Deer exercise for male and female are good for overall improvement of sexual energy and  performance.Mutual cooperation in improving sexual relationshp adds synergy to the results.

[lacey765]

yeah i have explained how its making me feel and he cried :( he doesnt like the fact that he cant control that hes doing that at night and then being too tired for me coz he feels like he's neglecting me xx

[lacey765]

he was definately not dreaming about me because the noises and actions he was making was nothing like anything we've ever done or ever will do, when i spoke to him he thinks that he was dreaming of the porn that he used to watch, which upsets me coz i just think he wants more than what i can give him :( xx

[lacey765]

thanks, i have massaged his perinium before, but i will look into the other things, thanks for your help :) xx