lowering spem count ??

[iwaswondering]

I was wondering if there is anyway of safely lowering my spem count. or makeing it so that am infertal all togther ( Reason is that my wife will not take any kind of birth control !!  and so are sex life is difficult, ether we have sex and posibaly have anouther child, or we dont have sex at all. or use a condom, but ofcouse truelly the condoms all hurt me and her. am 43 years and she's 34 years.

[siren of the sea]

so im guessing she wouldnt mind another child you dont want one . no you cant do this with meds. why not get a vasectomy? sounds like you need to talk to each other about this. condoms if used right (no dont feel as great) are fine. i dont understand why they hurt i have been with some extemely large men and they used them. i dont have any other answer .

[iwaswondering]

((so im guessing she wouldnt mind another child you dont want one . no you cant do this with meds. why not get a vasectomy? sounds like you need to talk to each other about this. condoms if used right (no dont feel as great) are fine. i dont understand why they hurt i have been with some extemely large men and they used them. i dont have any other answer .))

yes true she would want more childern she looks at baby name books daily. as for myself i see the reallity to this i cant afford anouther, as well i would like to go out to diiner , a movie, have a sex life. condoms hurt her more then me theres a rib at the base. for me to use them 3 times a week for ooh what years to come.thats to much..they are TIGHT !.latex
Vasectomy well was hoping that before i cut into my wallnut sak that maybe there be some other anwser. how much would a Vasectomy cost anyway ???.

[iwaswondering]

(( i dont understand why they hurt i have been with some extemely large men and they used them.))

sounds to me as if they may have been 1 or 2 night stands. in dateing thats fine, am taking about my wife.

[siren of the sea]

that was rude, no my exhusband was quite large. if your going to ask a question and want an answer lets be mature here. well it sounds like you have an ego problem. sounds like she wants to get knocked up again. sounds like the 2 of you dont talk and well then all that is left to say is you both deserve what you get.

[iwaswondering]

(( that was rude, no my exhusband was quite large. if your going to ask a question and want an answer lets be mature here. well it sounds like you have an ego problem. sounds like she wants to get knocked up again. sounds like the 2 of you dont talk and well then all that is left to say is you both deserve what you get)).

Sorry no I dont believe it was rude at all, and i don't have an ego problem. and for u to say ( we both deserve what we get ), Whats that all about.
FACT : condoms hurt, are uncomfortable, and make the act of having sex NUMB !!.  
agian am taking about my wife that i love and wish to be close to. maybe your husband just didnt know to say to you ( ooh hey honey this condom HURTS )!!!.

[siren of the sea]

you dont have to repeat everything i have said i think i might figure it out. if you love your wife and you dont want kids then get a vasectomy. if she is reading a baby name book every day as you say then yes she wants another. and for you to not be sure sounds like you dont talk much. condoms shouldnt make things numb. id bring up the vasectomy issue to her and see what she says. if she is agianst it then you need to talk about what you want as far as kids go. nothing you take will lower sperm and nothing but condoms or vasectomy will work if she wont use birth control herself. not sure what your wanting to hear other than that. i think you should be discussing this with her.

[girl522]

There are large condoms.  Have you ever heard of Trojan magnums??  Size isn't an excuse when it comes to using condoms.