married men viewing other women

it has been brought up on the relationship forum that married men dont get together with their friends (or maybe they do) and discuss other women.  since no men have answered over there i thought id bring it here.  being a woman i believe that men and women might get together with their best friends and talk about how hot another is. not that we want to do it, but in general.  a woman accidentally overheard her dh talking with his best friend how he would like to smash this girl .  now is this something that has happened either by yourself or a friend saying as well>?  be truthfull lol.  

[marra315]

of course they do , we girls talk about men and look at them married or not . so why should nt men ? its human nature ! it acting on the impule that is wrong , for that there is no exuse !

[Trialanderror]

I wonder if there will be any responses here either, this probably falls under the male code of silence... anyway, to actually hear a partner directing all their sexual and other attention to someone else can be hurtful but in said case she overheard it accidentially. As long as it is not done in presence of a partner to make them jeallous or as a control tool, I have no problem with freedom of speech and thought, married or not. I would have a problem if I were there and ignored or degraded, disrespect is something I do not tolerate but no doubt that most men talk like that. Some of it may even be peer pressure.

[chellybeans]

being a girl who owned a construction business and now working in another construction business i see and hear it all the time. girls, guys, married or single. sometimes the girls and guys bantering about another girl. lol. i think it is harmless for the most part. we do it joking, blowing off steam and kidding. i know when i am talking **** with my girlfriends we don't actually "want" to go be with that guy. we just enjoy the way he looks and are being rowdy.

i hope alot of you guys will chime in and tell us we aren't horrible pervs. lol

[wunabnorm]

How come there aren't any MEN posting damn it?!!!

[pertykitty]

because they dont want to admit the truth is why. what doe stha ttell you? they dont realize we dont know them and cant tell on them lol.

[wunabnorm]

alright now, duh! Viewing other women is A-OKAY in my book, just not in the presence of myself, and I never disagreed with that. I was talking about saying that they would like to screw another woman. It's like you're forgetting the whole topic. Everyone knows that men AND women look and google over the opposite sex.  Married or not! It is just normal! I am not a dumbass! But to say such things as they wanna "smash" IS out of line whichever way you take it. For example, If your husbands went to the supermarket, and there was a hot blonde girl with huge boobs, and you overheard him saying he wanted to **** her,(excuse my language!!!) then you too would be upset about it, and if you weren't then your view of a respected marriage is whack! Now let's just hope some men on here have something to say, because that's what I want!!!! And, No, I don't need to reevaluate my marrieage, or whatever you might think, I just wanna know what other men have to say. Thank you very much!

[wunabnorm]

ok, I feel that!!!! It is like  a code of silence!!!! How ****** is that! Damn! Anyhow... It's my turn to let this one go, and I guess charge it to "men being men". Because I can't get anywhere with it. I just love forums. muah!

[Blooddragon]

the way my mum put it was. its ok to window shop as long as you don't go into buy. my girlfriend is from a very different background as me she is very much "in the clouds" you might to say. that i should only be attracted to her and her alone. which is, as all men and women know IMPOSSIBLE!  it is in human nature to find multiple mates (sex partners), women especially we still would be doing this if not for the way we live today. when i boils down to it our core "programming" if you like consists of a few things.
1. the hunter gatherer instinct (getting food for yourself and people that benefit you e.g. family)
2. creating offspring ( making as many children as possible so our genes live on, this is best accomplished with multiple mates)
3. ensuring our offspring survives, this applies to mothers more than men ( basically that motherly feeling women have for their kids, which men have too but in primal situations they would have very little to do with the up bringing of their children)

what i am trying to get at is we have been doing it for millions of years and ill do till we die out. if your husband/ wife bf/gf was attracted to you that means that they have the abbility to be attracted to other people also so you should not.

on the other hand if you hear your partner talking about "SMASHING" some 1 else it is not to be taken literary (unless you have reason to suspect other wise) men will me men around other men.. which basically means that men will be more honest and out going and all around more confer-dent around other men, and will, with out doubt live up to the standers of their stereotype, they all love a bit of eye candy.


sorry for all the incorrect spellings and punctuation i have dyslexia and i am very bad at English :'(. now Physiology , that i can do :) i bet i spelt that wrong :P

[Blooddragon]

im male btw.. :P

[mithras]

Yes.I have been in a happy relationship for over 2 years now and I dont think its wrong. My girlfriend agrees with me. I dont think even you can deny looking at some guy that you thought was good looking. Its human nature. Just because us guys stare at other wormen dosent mean we are going to leave you or sneek around behind your back. I live in Cali where hot women grow on trees around here. I love my girl very much and I would never be unloyal to her, but i agree with blooddragon "its ok to window shop as long as you don't go into buy." I know my girlfriend looks and even flirts with other dudes, but I do trust her. Plus...flirting is fun!! and if you keep it innocent then it shouldnt be a big deal. As far as saying he wants to SMASH a chick..well...thats normal guy talk...intended for guys only. Any guy would be lying if they said that they havent had a conversation like that with his friends.

[wunabnorm]

FINALLY some MEN comments!!!! God Bless You!!

[lilbonk]

I'm male and have been married for 11 years. I have not and would not cheat on my wife. I look at porn and she knows about it and doen not consider it cheating. In regards to looking at other women, she does not mind because we are very honest and open with each other. I have friends who are female but dont go out with them. I think what sets this relationship apart from all my others is that we have been honest with each other from day 1. We know each others pasts and future intentions. My wife looks at a guy she likes and gets all excited and I tell her, go ahead. I know she wouldnt actually go with him. she does the same to me. We know what the other thinks. I think honesty is the best part of  a relationship, it keeps it together

[Macphisto]

Hot looking women probably makes up 75 per cent of male talk (whether single or not). Hey, we can't help being pervs. ;)