men and porno

I have been with my finance for 9 years now and was very contend and happy with our relationship till last night.  My 20 year old daughter has just moved back home after breaking up with her boyfriend.  Last night I woke up at 3 a.m. and noticed that my partner wasn't in bed so I got up to see what was up.  I figured he was talking with my daughter since she is going through a break up and does need to talk.  That is when my world just crashed.  I walked into the living room to see my daughter chatting with friends on msn and my partner on the other couch watching porno with her in the room.  This is just wrong on soo many bases I cannot understand this at all.  I flipped and turned the t.v. off I just couldn't believe what I was seeing.  You watch porno for sexual arousal not entertainment!!  This was so disrespectful in front of my daughter.  We are liberal with the children and talk openingly with them but this just makes no sense to me.  All he said to me was I would be justified in my  anger if he was hitting on my daughter.  My daughter said he asked if it bothered her and he would change the channel.  She did tell me it felt weird.  Of course it felt weird it is just so wrong.  I am so confused this is sick.  Please help me understand.

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Well I think your finance's actions are totally and absolutely inappropriate.  Although your title is "men and porn" this is not just about the fact that we men like porn.

I know that this will be hard for you to hear... as a 41 year old male if I was watching porn with another woman (20 is a woman in my books) it would be for sexual reasons, to get a reaction or sexual response out of your daughter.

I wish you luck.