need a guys perspective here...

I think I need another man's point of view on this subject - why is my husband so obsessed with anal sex?  Is it because I find it repulsive and won't give it to him?  i've explained my feelings about the subject but he never lets it go and is always suggesting/joking around about "sticking it in me when I'm not looking" or "slipping" during sex.  I know he's just trying to be funny, but why is he so obsessed with it?  Another male's view on this would be great insight.
Thanks!

[Johnnyboi]

Personally as a guy, I have never done it, however I've heard from others that it brings about more pleasure to the guy physically, and mentally I guess.  Although, many women find the idea rather disgusting.

[Johnnyboi]

I couldn't help but to respond mom.  Doesn't the fact that it hurts make you wonder why some men are gay lol? Sorry just the idea of picturing your statement about pain and gay men together got me crying from laughter.

[leif ericson]

i knew a few girls in my life (just a few) that loved it in the
rear. they said (more or less) that it rubbed against something
or other that made it all the rage for them. one girl liked to
feel the "dominant" male aspect of having this kind of sexxx.
oh well, everybody has their "buttons" to be pressed. most girls
and even some buddies i know don't ever do it, and could care less. the real deal in your case is the strong desire he has
for this. is there something more than the physical aspect that
turns him on  ?  is he going to bug you forever and not take
your lack of interest to heart and deal with the dissapointment ?       good luck with this guy, buy him one of those rubber rearend dolls that i've seen online. let him go nuts.                    l.e.

[siren of the sea]

carrots and rubber dolls. this is crackin me up. i tried it once and i will never again. of course you have to "work" up to it. you do have to stretch it before you enter it. we didnt do that. i know women who find it enjoyable but not me. i think you need to respect her wishes and let it be. if it were me and you kept joking or prodding id stick a dildo in your booty while you slept to show you how much its going to suck!! lol.

[sparkeler]

I think men love it because it's alot tighter and not as moist as vaginal sex.  My boyfriend likes it too.  He gets excited when I allow him to enter.  Once in a blue moon.  I usually need some kind of lube and it needs to take place very slowly. To each his own.  If you really don't enjoy it, you shouldn't feel like you have to do it.

[BasementJack]

My girlfriend also does not allow me to try the rear.
Being someone who always wants what I cant have, i plan to never stop asking and poking until she gives in to try. It doesnt help that all my friends have tried it, including the females, and the fact that most pornos these days have to have anal shown in them.

She said she would let me try it if i let her stick a carrot up my ass. I said Ok (nervously). She still said no. Then i had mixed emotions. I was pissed off she still wouldnt try it, but also happy that i didnt loose my anal virginity to a vegetable

[tinaet]

don't drop the soap!!!!!!!!!!!

[HIS GIFT TO US]

Now we know the rest of the story as Paul Harvey (I think thats his last name) would put it (u know the guy on the radio telling stories:) LOL

[tinaet]

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[monkeyflower]

Lots and lots and LOTS of men and women love anal. It can be intensely pleasurable to both give and receive... and contrary to popular belief, should never hurt. The trick is to go slow, use lots of lube, start small (finger or tongue first, then maybe small toy), the receptive partner should be in total control, and should push out. Oh, and did I mention go slow and use lots of lube? Lol. If you want more info, read "Anal Pleasure and Health" by Jack Morin, and "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristan Taormino. Great books. You'll learn everything you ever wanted to know about your anus and anal sex, and then some.

[HIS GIFT TO US]

LOL a tongue YUCK :)But I imagine they make tons of $$$$ off selling the info :) Oh the more we learn!!

[tinaet]

well that's pretty funny and gross at the same time. I wouldn't let my husband get near that ex. with his tongue. How would in their right mind would put their tongue in some one's butt. It reminds me when i was reading about a man that likes his wife to poop on his chest before sex. ( how Gross) I guess some people just like wired things.

[HIS GIFT TO US]

Thats why I said u know maybe animals r not so gross after all, no matter all the things u see them do. I think humans r just willing to go that extra mile no matter how nasty :) LOL U know how when a dog jumps in someones face it gets pushed back b/c it licks it's butt. If nothing else this will make everyone think before kissing someone new :) LOL

[tinaet]

Well not trying to hurt the men's feeling, but that's why some women call men dogs! LOL

[HIS GIFT TO US]

Maybe monkeys r not so gross, they may throw there own poop, but goodness look at humans putting body parts inside of where poop comes out :( Poop comes out & it stinks & it's gross I think it's a given all should stay away from that area all together besides cleaning it :) LOL Hon if he sneaks this on u, you have to think of something very clever to get him back with :)LOL

[leif ericson]

you have a point, lots of woman like it as well as men. and you
see it in porn (non stop) for a reason !       l.e.

[sk2006a]

i was eating a starbucks mud pie when i started reading this thread.  sigh.  it's now back in the freezer.  maybe tomorrow :)

[BasementJack]

LOL

I actually got my girl to read this forum. She almost died of laughter. Although, she did say that there are alot of good points being made in these posts. It really does show how different everyone is. However, not everyones cup of tea.

I still want to try it. No tongue please. That would be like....eating the carrot....afterwards.

Good luck sorting your boy out. Offer him the vegetable treatment and see what he says.
Better yet, let him read this thread
(:

[BasementJack]

oh yeah, and buy this book

The Surrender by Toni Bentley

An interesting story about a girl who never wanted to try anal. She finally gave in and found orgasms she never knew she was capable of.

[surfergirl602]

God, I've never laughed so much in my life.  Thanks for all the responses.  I've GOT to get my hubby to read this!

[JC221]

You ask why are men obessed with anal sex? Well, let me give you my personal expierence on the subject. It seems to me anal sex is pleasurable to either mate, but its a matter of speculation for each person. I find that my girlfriend (last time we did this) seemed to be very mentally effected. As said earlier in this forum, its the male dominance that turns on either partner. It may just be this that turns him on for anal sex.  

If enough lubricant is used, the more pleasure for both partners I think. I believe the slower I wen't the less pleasure I felt(but of course I took her into consideration and not myself) Anal sex can also be quite disgusting to people (the chance of fecease getting on their partner or vice versa is disturbing)But that may turn some people on aswell(sadly)

I believe that there is probably a great deal of pain (considering the circumstances)Once I had to go a physician and he put his thumb (or index finger I wasn't sure) in my anus and I tell you, that was NO picnick!!!

But despite everything...it really depends on the person and how anal sex is preformed. Therefore, I encourage you to read up on anal sex (and your mate) to get an idea of what to do, and what not to do. Good luck:)

[JC221]

Sarcasm again I presume? Does it matter how old I am? I have done plenty of research on the subject due to me girlfriend..Haha:)

[JC221]

Your on here quite often. Has it become a hobby for you as it has for me? Yes, sarcasm rules..
Some of these forms seem to be more of a chat room..how nice.

[leif ericson]

you rule !!!               l.e.

[BasementJack]

Mam, you have quiet the skill for posting.

You havn't (by any chance) written a book...?

I take my hat off, and toast this shottie to you, and the rest of the interesting people that have made this thread so fascinating to read. Very anal educational.


Sarcasm rules the free world of humour.

(Just came back from a wedding very drunk. It has taken me over an hour to fix all of my granma mistakes in this post. Hope i managed to fix them all)

[JohnnyBravo]

Read the book "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristan Taormino, it is a great book and very informative. Also, it is written from a Woman's perspective.

[Plunket]

My boyfriend does exactly the same thing he is very turned on by the idea of anal sex but I just cant give in.  
He has a whole collection of pornos that are all about it and i've watched some and the guys really give it to the girls.  
Even if i allowed him to try it who's to say he's not gonna try and mimic what they do and end up split me in two.  
Whats so good about your ass hole anyway when you have a perfectly good pink bit at the front!!!

[Nikonarou]

I've tried it, i thought it was great. i'm usually in sex for the long haul, a "she always gets hers" kinda guy. When i tried it for the first time i was gone in 60 seconds. Of course it felt great to me, she was able to enjoy it later when i got more adjusted to it.
From a womans prospective though, i'm sure it hurts. ya gotta do it right. If your iffy about trying it, heres a few tips. Make your man work up to it. and i dont mean in one session. let him play around and make just being around that area enjoyable for you. Kinda like a big tease. But never let him get what he wants until YOU are enjoying it. and that does not men to let him start jabbing fingers in there like a kid and a light socket. you will know what you like. But keep it up during different session. Eventually YOU will want more. maybe a little more and more at a time. it may take weeks. But as long as you are liking it, you will want a little more and more. Untile you find that it's you who want it more than him. You can take it from there. Just learn to play it right, and make him play by your rules. As long as he is getting closer and closer to what he wants sexually, you can expect GREAT sexual experiences because he will be trying his hardest to get you to let him there. Bam, you gotta him where you want him! YA BOTH WIN!

[SixStringer]

Wow!  I'm kind of surprised at all these posts, especially the negative ones.  I wonder how old you two are and how long you've been married?  I second that recommendation on the book mentioned above:  "Anal Pleasure and Health"; it's one of the best heterosexual books out there.  Also, there should be no pain involved, as also mentioned, if it is done right.  The anus can expand greatly as it does with a bowel movement, so no problem there.  Your husband should take it slow and easy and not try to get his whole shaft in, unless it can be done without discomfort.  When he is done, he could orally satisfy you, so everyone comes away satisfied.  Anal sex, like sex in general, is often a mind game as to what turns one on or not.  For myself, I am not as attracted to the female's vulva as I am to her butt hole.  To me there is nothing like seeing an attractive female's butt and then seeing those butt cheeks spread, as she bends over, revealing the anus.  So, because of the view, I like the "69" position.  All of this goes beyond anal intercourse and enters the realm of female butt and its attraction to men down through the ages in literature, fashion, movies, art, music, and so on.  Many men get married based to a large degree on the shape of their spouses' butt.  I don't think that some women have accepted that.  This is too deep of a subject to cover here; one can only massage the surface.  However, a computer search can lead one to a large quantity of information.  

[everyminutelive]

I like it because its different and a little more freaky, you pickin up what Im throwin down

[bizzie]

Any sex act can have multiple meanings depending on the intention behind it.

I suggest you accept his request for anal "sex": allow him to lick and tongue your ******* as much as he wants. Then if you are aroused and want it, you might allow him to insert a finger.  See how that goes.

I also suggest you get a harness and dildo - one at least as big as his hard-on and give him a good gentle *******. When you see what a great time he's having, I'm sure you'll feel eager to have him reciprocate.

If he acts repulsed by any of these suggestions, he's on a power trip and you should dump his misogynist ***. (no pun intended)