not sure what to do

[confused_girl_24]

I have been married to my loving husband for about 3 months. We've been together for about 2 1/2 years. He takes very good care of me in a lot of aspects in our relationship but I'm concerned that he may not be attracted to me anymore. During our "courting" period the sex was hot and romantic. I'm a realist and know that relationships evolve and sex lives may change..... Lately he seems not to be interested in me sexually. It feels like we only have sex when he is interested or has time for me and negates the fact that i'm a sexual person. It hurts me and confuses me because this is someone who has devoted his life to me but can't seem to give me that part of him. Any suggestions as to helping me seem more like a sexual being to him ...rather then just his "wife".....

[trapshooter]

It's surprising that he has lost interest so soon, especially with a romantic wife.  Talk to him about it, make sure he knows how you feel.

[Mac711]

From what you wrote, you don't mention  what you are contributing to the marriage.  You say how he gives you 100% towards your needs. Maybe you need to step up to the plate and give a little more than expecting him to carry you to your climax highs also.  Do you initiate sex with him or do you wait for him to each time?  Basically, it seems all is fine except his interest in sex.  It could be stress related or it could be that he feels so much in love with you that sex is not the most important thing in his life right now.   Just show him how you feel with actions.

[rlstatedotcom]

I wish we could trade spouses!  My wife has very little interest and I have a ton.

[Sarah_Harvey]

I have exactly the same problem, but in my case my husband lost interest in sex about year after we got married. He loves me and does a lot for me, and tells me how much he loves me but just isn't interested.

Sometimes I think there are different types of love... like you can love them deeply, but are not in love with them or just not that sexually attracted to them and in this case, I feel that way too.

I hope things work out for you.