reaching climax

I have been plagued by this all my life.  I am 37 yrs old bi sexual male and I have never produce sperm doing sex while awake.  However, I produce sperm in my sleep in a wetdream.  I have seen two urologist who keep telling me its psychological.  I have had long sex sessions and not come close to producing sperm.  It is strange.  In my wet dream, I seem to reach a climax with little effort.  I can remember the feeling.  However, I have never been able to reproduce that feeling in the actual act of having sex.  Has anyone else experience this.  Its very embrassing when the other person ask have I climax(sperm).  I can't even produce sperm when I jerk off.      

What is it like to reach a climax?  What are some of the things you do to reach a climax?  I've been told to relax, think of the person I would like to be with while engaging in sex.  I have don all this.   There are two times when i thought I would reach a climax.  One is where i was being penetrated and the other is where the guy was jerking me off vigorously.  It was like taking me mentally to a new horizon.   I just need some help.  I know its going happen one of these days.  I want to experience for once while being awake. LOL!

[tlh777]

maybe you need to be in love with a person to feel right about having sex try to find a person you love.

[marra315]

i am a little stuck on this one mate but you say the two times you nearly did . have you tried both together ? or even a vibrator ? not really sure but i think its psycological too as i hada problem myelf  that was however it is diffrent for me being a woman ! i hope you can figure this out . have you never ever c ome ? awake even young ?

[alone and scared]

to answer tlh777--  I have been in love three times.  Once as a teenager and twice in my twenties.  The crazy thing about this is the very people I've been in love with, I never had sex with.  hmmm!

to answer marra315-- I have never c ome while being awake, even when I teenager and my hormones where out of control. LOL!  I had plenty of wetdream!  They used to feel so so gooood.  I even spent $100 to talk with a hypnosis counselor over the phone.  That didn't work. The guy could not hypnotize me.  I need to see a real hypnosis person to hypnotize me to reach a climax.  This has been the most imbressing thing in my life!  

[jml1986]

I have no clue what your problem is but I will through this out there and you can take it or not cause seriously I am clueless. I don't even know if this is possible but when a man has a vasctomy they close things from going out one way but it can still come out from another area. I wonder if it a possibility for you to be having this problem natually. I think I rememeber someone calling it a dry orgasm. Like I said, I have no clue. But wanted to give you my best guess.