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to circumsize or not?
Hello,
I'm 18 years old and at 15ish I realized that I had an uncircumcised penis. This really bothered me because I realized I was different. I've watched movies where uncircumsized guys are made fun of, and naturally I've tried to keep this a secret. So I never bothered to try to get a girlfriend and at times I even blew off subtle approaches by women for fear that they would find out, and that then everyone else in turn would find out and make fun of me to no end.
I have a few questions. For the women out there ( I guess men can answer this too), do women mind if a guy has an uncircumsized penis?
I've been trying to do research on the internet on where to get circumsized and if this is the right choice. I don't want to tell my parents because they aren't from this country and it'd be hard to explain. I'm 18 now so if anyone has any information regarding where I could get circumsized in northern new jersey (phone number and preferably address) I'd greatly appreaciate it. Also, does anyone know approximately how much an adult circumcision costs?
Am I just being paranoid by thinking that women are put off by an uncircumsized penis? I saw an episode of Sex and the City where Charlotte wouldn't have sex with a guy becuase he was uncircumsized. Then naturally, she tells all her friends. Any feedback at all would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
I'm 18 years old and at 15ish I realized that I had an uncircumcised penis. This really bothered me because I realized I was different. I've watched movies where uncircumsized guys are made fun of, and naturally I've tried to keep this a secret. So I never bothered to try to get a girlfriend and at times I even blew off subtle approaches by women for fear that they would find out, and that then everyone else in turn would find out and make fun of me to no end.
I have a few questions. For the women out there ( I guess men can answer this too), do women mind if a guy has an uncircumsized penis?
I've been trying to do research on the internet on where to get circumsized and if this is the right choice. I don't want to tell my parents because they aren't from this country and it'd be hard to explain. I'm 18 now so if anyone has any information regarding where I could get circumsized in northern new jersey (phone number and preferably address) I'd greatly appreaciate it. Also, does anyone know approximately how much an adult circumcision costs?
Am I just being paranoid by thinking that women are put off by an uncircumsized penis? I saw an episode of Sex and the City where Charlotte wouldn't have sex with a guy becuase he was uncircumsized. Then naturally, she tells all her friends. Any feedback at all would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Ok after reading most of the comments I have to say something: I hate uncircumsized penis!
My ex-boyfriend was(well still is) uncircumsized,that's the first uncut penis I have ever seen,anyway,I am the first girl he slept with,we were together for more than a year,I was so miserable regarding having sex with him during this period! Let's just forget about the disgusting urine smell I could smell before he took off his pants first,he was always have erection problem!and when he was able to get it up,the stupid extra skin was like the huge rock on the road,the head of his penis couldnt get out and feel all the plasesure,we tried to pull the skin up when having sex,but he always complained it hurts,or it just fell back down very soon.and the biggest issue was, he coulndt ejeculate! we could had sex for like ever( about 30-40 min),and he still coulnd reach the point,most of the time I felt like i was having sex by my self,he was just an blew-up doll,it felt so lonely.and guess what's another big issue that bothers me? he wasnt into sex after a while,it was always me that started it,you have no idea how lonely that i felt.
I mean not every body was like my ex ( read some posts online some ppl have no problem with uncricumsized penis,lucky u guys!) but my one girlfriends experienced the same ppl like mine,I mean,not talk about yourself,it makes anothers painful,it could make u not able to have babies,so talk to your doc!
My ex-boyfriend was(well still is) uncircumsized,that's the first uncut penis I have ever seen,anyway,I am the first girl he slept with,we were together for more than a year,I was so miserable regarding having sex with him during this period! Let's just forget about the disgusting urine smell I could smell before he took off his pants first,he was always have erection problem!and when he was able to get it up,the stupid extra skin was like the huge rock on the road,the head of his penis couldnt get out and feel all the plasesure,we tried to pull the skin up when having sex,but he always complained it hurts,or it just fell back down very soon.and the biggest issue was, he coulndt ejeculate! we could had sex for like ever( about 30-40 min),and he still coulnd reach the point,most of the time I felt like i was having sex by my self,he was just an blew-up doll,it felt so lonely.and guess what's another big issue that bothers me? he wasnt into sex after a while,it was always me that started it,you have no idea how lonely that i felt.
I mean not every body was like my ex ( read some posts online some ppl have no problem with uncricumsized penis,lucky u guys!) but my one girlfriends experienced the same ppl like mine,I mean,not talk about yourself,it makes anothers painful,it could make u not able to have babies,so talk to your doc!
Well, I was going to post this until I read back through and saw that you already had it done... I guess I'll post it anyways for the sake of other readers.
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I'm not circumcised. It USED to bother me. I realized in elementary school that I was different. It had never occurred to me before because all my brothers and my dad were uncircumcised like me. So when I went to school and saw everyone else was different I stopped using urinals til I was about 15... But I've come to peace with it and I use urinals again, although I can get a little pee shy still when there are people all around me. (Just anxiety)
Anyways... I can tell you the majority of the pleasure nerves of the penis are in the foreskin, the foreskin protects the glans from abrasion and such, which keeps it more sensitive (better for intercourse), and the foreskin helps keep the glans moist! This is very important because being circumcised causes your penis to get very dry, so when you have sex, your penis actually draws moisture from the vagina, making it way more common/likely that you'll need lubricant.
Additionally, like previously stated, if a woman actually cares that much about such a detail, then better off to forget her anyways, cause if that'd stop her, she's not in love with you.
Additionally, this subject has come up between me and my step-dad, (he's circumcised) and he said that some women CAN be a little weirded out by an uncut penis, but it's just cause they're not used to it, and if they'll give it a try, they'll realize it's not a big deal.
Other thing he told me was that being circumcised never bothered HIM, but every guy he knew who had gotten circumcised as adults had been miserable. I think it doesn't bother the guys that get it done as infants cause they don't know what they're missing...
I hope this helps you. And if you ask me, I say you probably don't want to do it. But if even after all this, it still interferes with your social/sex life, that's a reasonable enough reason to try it.
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I'm not circumcised. It USED to bother me. I realized in elementary school that I was different. It had never occurred to me before because all my brothers and my dad were uncircumcised like me. So when I went to school and saw everyone else was different I stopped using urinals til I was about 15... But I've come to peace with it and I use urinals again, although I can get a little pee shy still when there are people all around me. (Just anxiety)
Anyways... I can tell you the majority of the pleasure nerves of the penis are in the foreskin, the foreskin protects the glans from abrasion and such, which keeps it more sensitive (better for intercourse), and the foreskin helps keep the glans moist! This is very important because being circumcised causes your penis to get very dry, so when you have sex, your penis actually draws moisture from the vagina, making it way more common/likely that you'll need lubricant.
Additionally, like previously stated, if a woman actually cares that much about such a detail, then better off to forget her anyways, cause if that'd stop her, she's not in love with you.
Additionally, this subject has come up between me and my step-dad, (he's circumcised) and he said that some women CAN be a little weirded out by an uncut penis, but it's just cause they're not used to it, and if they'll give it a try, they'll realize it's not a big deal.
Other thing he told me was that being circumcised never bothered HIM, but every guy he knew who had gotten circumcised as adults had been miserable. I think it doesn't bother the guys that get it done as infants cause they don't know what they're missing...
I hope this helps you. And if you ask me, I say you probably don't want to do it. But if even after all this, it still interferes with your social/sex life, that's a reasonable enough reason to try it.
This sounds good, you know what, iam equally uncut and have leant this this great presure.
Thank you very much girls for being honest.
Thank you very much girls for being honest.
I am an uncircumcised male and I have had sex with plenty of women and none have hyad any issues with this. Many in fact have been interested in seeing my penis, because it's not circumcised!! That I can deal with ahahha! All have enjoyed and say it is the same except of course the fact that sex is more gentle and less forceful. This comes from the fact that circumcised men have a callas around their penis, which reduces feeling. Uncircumcised men do not have to thrust as hard to sustain arousal and pleasure.
Do not get circumcised you'd be joining the world's minority. Less than 1/3 of the World's male population is circumcised.
Do not get circumcised you'd be joining the world's minority. Less than 1/3 of the World's male population is circumcised.
Here's a woman's point of view again. I prefer uncircumcised -- that was the way you were created and meant to be. If for health reasons, you need to be circumcised, it is a different matter. Cheer you, there are lots of ladies would love you as you are, far more than if you were after the chop, so forget about the worries and have a good time.
DO NOT be discouraged its natural look at the picture of Adam & God very closely you will find out it is how we were ment to be.
When Googling "circumcision" and various topics such as penile cancer, pleasure, risk, abuse, rights, etc. I've found:
1. Penile cancer risk may be avoided by uncut men with good hygiene, safe sex practices, and non use of tobacco. European men who are mostly uncut do not suffer more penile cancer than USA men who are cut. "Circumcision prevents penile cancer" is a myth starting in the early 1900s when doctors had almost no understanding of cancer.
2. HIV infections may be reduced by safe sex practices and good hygiene just as with circumcised men.
3. Sensitivity (and pleasure) is reduced by circumcision. For young men this is sometimes good, but for mature men it is most definitely bad.
4. Risk is small and benefits are also small. The cost of the surgery keeps going up. A good motto: If it isn't broke, don't fix it!!
5. Recently female child routine genital surgery has become prohibited in USA. It is considered to be a mutilative operation with injury to body or health and often considered as aggravated assault. Male child circumcision is also mutilative, requiring force against the child and should be looked as in the same light. Unfortunately little boys are not as protected as little girls. Read "The Myth of Male Power" by Warren Farrell to get a feel how males are more abused in our society.
6. In USA and many other countries religious freedom is guaranteed and naturally it should be respected. But we in USA must distinguish between physical acts on the one hand, and the culture that supports them on the other. People cannot legitimate assaults on others by invoking religious freedom.
7. Genital surgery on boys and girls has been used through out history as a preventive of masturbation. Masturbation has been thought the cause of insanity, cancer, etc. In some states in USA masturbation is illegal and grounds for divorce,
8. In USA we are ignorant concerning circumcision. It has become a powerful ritual. We are very superstitious and afraid to go against the ritual. My uncut sons (now in their 30s) have had no problem.
1. Penile cancer risk may be avoided by uncut men with good hygiene, safe sex practices, and non use of tobacco. European men who are mostly uncut do not suffer more penile cancer than USA men who are cut. "Circumcision prevents penile cancer" is a myth starting in the early 1900s when doctors had almost no understanding of cancer.
2. HIV infections may be reduced by safe sex practices and good hygiene just as with circumcised men.
3. Sensitivity (and pleasure) is reduced by circumcision. For young men this is sometimes good, but for mature men it is most definitely bad.
4. Risk is small and benefits are also small. The cost of the surgery keeps going up. A good motto: If it isn't broke, don't fix it!!
5. Recently female child routine genital surgery has become prohibited in USA. It is considered to be a mutilative operation with injury to body or health and often considered as aggravated assault. Male child circumcision is also mutilative, requiring force against the child and should be looked as in the same light. Unfortunately little boys are not as protected as little girls. Read "The Myth of Male Power" by Warren Farrell to get a feel how males are more abused in our society.
6. In USA and many other countries religious freedom is guaranteed and naturally it should be respected. But we in USA must distinguish between physical acts on the one hand, and the culture that supports them on the other. People cannot legitimate assaults on others by invoking religious freedom.
7. Genital surgery on boys and girls has been used through out history as a preventive of masturbation. Masturbation has been thought the cause of insanity, cancer, etc. In some states in USA masturbation is illegal and grounds for divorce,
8. In USA we are ignorant concerning circumcision. It has become a powerful ritual. We are very superstitious and afraid to go against the ritual. My uncut sons (now in their 30s) have had no problem.
No, do not get circumcised! I don't know why Americans let circumcise their baby boys and in every other county in the western world and Asia people think it is disgusting!
America has got to modernize and stop circumcise on innocent baby boys! It's a crime to do this to a person that has only been alive for few hours!
Good bye from Europe!
America has got to modernize and stop circumcise on innocent baby boys! It's a crime to do this to a person that has only been alive for few hours!
Good bye from Europe!
Hi. Please help. Is a uncircumcised man supposed to have a smaller penis than a circumcised man when not erected? or are they similar?
Hey pal! You are normal "au natural" - be pleased. Also sexula intercourse is usually much more pleasurable for uncircumsised guys. Here in NZ it is now routinme practice NOT to be circumcised. Stay that way - but keep it clean.
> What you see on TV isn't real life. The only difference is that uncircumcised guys have
> an easier time masturbating (they don't need to use lube) and also it sometimes feels
> more gentle and sensual with an uncircumcised guy, which is really nice.
At last, the voice of reason from a girl! Of course it is more gentle and sensual to be with an uncircumcised man. It feels more natural, sensitive and vibrant, qualities that you can safely assume a girl would appreciate. It takes less effort too for the man to get aroused, as he is more sensitive and he does not need lubricant, and this obviously can only augment the pleasure of both.
Many can be said, but one is to retain: never go for circumcision unless there is some serious problem with the foreskin.
> an easier time masturbating (they don't need to use lube) and also it sometimes feels
> more gentle and sensual with an uncircumcised guy, which is really nice.
At last, the voice of reason from a girl! Of course it is more gentle and sensual to be with an uncircumcised man. It feels more natural, sensitive and vibrant, qualities that you can safely assume a girl would appreciate. It takes less effort too for the man to get aroused, as he is more sensitive and he does not need lubricant, and this obviously can only augment the pleasure of both.
Many can be said, but one is to retain: never go for circumcision unless there is some serious problem with the foreskin.
I just wanted to post a girl's point of view. I have dated 2 men who were circumcised and 2 men who weren't and there isn't a big difference. Many guys aren't circumcised these days, so girls are getting used to it- I wouldn't worry about it! What you see on TV isn't real life. The only difference is that uncircumcised guys have an easier time masturbating (they don't need to use lube) and also it sometimes feels more gentle and sensual with an uncircumcised guy, which is really nice. So, please don't get circumcised. You'll be sad at what you gave up! Plus, I would never do a medical procedure unless I had to (I just gave birth and that sucked!)
> has NEVER been as issue for either one of us.
How could this be an issue? Nature designed us to be like that. The sad thing is that in many circumstances (and in the U.S. in particular) remaining intact is not evident.
> If a girl is turned off by the fact that you are not circumcized, she's not the right girl for
> you.
I suppose that girls learn that? I cannot in my wildest imagination think that they instinctively react like that.
How could this be an issue? Nature designed us to be like that. The sad thing is that in many circumstances (and in the U.S. in particular) remaining intact is not evident.
> If a girl is turned off by the fact that you are not circumcized, she's not the right girl for
> you.
I suppose that girls learn that? I cannot in my wildest imagination think that they instinctively react like that.
I have been married for 32 years to a man who is not circumcized. It has NEVER been as issue for either one of us. If a girl is turned off by the fact that you are not circumcized, she's not the right girl for you. How shallow. Don't mess with nature.
don't worry about being circumcised it is better to not be.the benefits are.
more pleasure for you.
http://www.prweb.com/releases/2007/03/prweb512999.htm
http://www.blackwell-synergy.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1464-410X.2006.06685.x
and more pleasure for the woman in your life.
http://www.healthcentral.com/drdean/408/60750.html
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0838/is_1999_March/ai_54308894
http://www.cirp.org/library/sex_function/bensley1/
more pleasure for you.
http://www.prweb.com/releases/2007/03/prweb512999.htm
http://www.blackwell-synergy.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1464-410X.2006.06685.x
and more pleasure for the woman in your life.
http://www.healthcentral.com/drdean/408/60750.html
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0838/is_1999_March/ai_54308894
http://www.cirp.org/library/sex_function/bensley1/
Wow, I came back to this site after a year and to my surprise this thread is still alive. The reason I came back is that I was circumcised a few days ago so my penis is no longer EWWW, yucky!
If anyone needs information regarding circumcision/where it could be done I recommend going to www.circlist.com. The site has tons of information and even a section for finding a physician.
I'm really glad that I got this done and all I have to say is that in about 4 weeks all you hot women watch out.
If anyone needs information regarding circumcision/where it could be done I recommend going to www.circlist.com. The site has tons of information and even a section for finding a physician.
I'm really glad that I got this done and all I have to say is that in about 4 weeks all you hot women watch out.
I WAS CIRCUMCISED WHEN I WAS 45, THINKING IT WOULD BE CLEANER,BUT AFTER A WHILE I WAS SORRY THAT I HAD IT DONE SEX WAS BETTER BEFORE THAN AFTER, BESIDES THE THINKING HAS CHANGED AND BETTER LEFT ALONE THAN TAMPERING WITH NATURE,.
It's funny but in the UK guys are normally made fun of if there penis IS circumcised. I guess it's a culture thing. Personally, I'd rather be uncircumcised as sex feels a lot better.
I'm uncircumcised and I've been with a lot of women. I've had a lot tell me I'm good in bed, but none complain about it (I don't think some of them even notice). It baffles and angers me that we're still performing this barbaric procedure in this country. Consider yourself lucky, I know I do.
I'm not circumcized myself -- I'm 40. I understand your desire to keep it secret -- I did the same thing. HERE IS HOW YOU SHOULD LOOK AT IT -- be thankful you are a virgin. I was a virgin when I got married -- I think in large part because of my fear of people knowing I was uncircumcized as well as my beliefs -- but I beleived I shouldn't do many things but did them anyway. For me -- looking back it was a blessing. When I got married at 23 -- for me and my wife -- it was both of our first times -- it is very special. FIRST OF ALL Be Thankful.
My wife hasn't known anything else since she was a virgin as well. It hasn't been a problem for her.
I am here because I am looking into it as well -- I have found that as I get older -- I have had problems staying clean all day -- primarily because of bladder issues.
I can't advise you to get circumcized at your age -- I am looking into it myself for the cleanliness issue only.
My wife hasn't known anything else since she was a virgin as well. It hasn't been a problem for her.
I am here because I am looking into it as well -- I have found that as I get older -- I have had problems staying clean all day -- primarily because of bladder issues.
I can't advise you to get circumcized at your age -- I am looking into it myself for the cleanliness issue only.
Yeah, comments like this...I still can`t believe how any female can talk about surgery like circumcision as if it were a haircut. Hopefully since this post in 2006 deprivedteen has not changed his mind and is aware that uncircumcised men in the US are about to be the majority as in most other countries of the world.
Uncircumcised cocks are EWWW, yucky!
Sorry for being so negative but get it circ'd, contact your doctor, he'll tell you where.
Sorry for being so negative but get it circ'd, contact your doctor, he'll tell you where.
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