we can't "finish" together...

[pepperrr]

I'm with my boyfriend for few years. Since we met and we made love for the first time he's been finishing much quicker than me. I'm generally a person who needs lots of affection and long foreplay to reach orgasm. The point is when we make love and I'm warming up he's finishing, during the long foreplay he's so much aroused that he's able to finish before even having intercourse. At the end, to make me finish he has to touch me or I hold my needs for the next time and the second time he lasts much longer. It's not like I never finish making love with him, I do but it's not each time we do it. Sometimes it takes me too much time or he's too quick - I don't know how it is...

It wasn't really bothering me but he doesn't feel well with this. He says he feels useless, that he's not good enough for me etc. I feel bad when he says so... I feel like I have a problem... I've been like this all my life with other guys as well. Actually, he's the one I want to make love to almost every day (that has not happened to me before) and he says that his "case" hasn't happened to him before, that it's only like this with me...

I know he watches porno and touches himself. I was hurt by that because to finish with him I need to cumulate all my feelings from the whole week (which requires a lot of energy from me)  and he relieves himself quite often. I felt like he didn't want to make love with me. I played with myself when I was younger but since I enjoy sex much more I stopped. I prefer to wait for it. Being with him, knowing he's doing it I tried as well. I still enjoy sex more so I stopped. He says he's doing it because he's alone at home and bored. I asked him few times to try and wait for me (coz I love making love with him) but I guess all this time he managed only once...

We make love quite often but e.g. we make love once or twice and the next day when I go to work and he stays home he touches himself. Sometimes because of that we don't make love anymore that day but mostly it doesn't bother him to make love with me anyway but the outcome is the same - he finishes very quickly and it takes me ages.

At the beginning I told him not to worry, that we're just different and it will equalise with time but it hasn't and each time after making love he feels sad and worried and I dont know anymore what to do... I just hug him and tell him how great it was (even if I havent finished).

I wish I knew what the problem is and how to deal with it. He's like Ferrari and I'm like VW Beetle...