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Lack of Sex drive and Erection Problem
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Roger Gould, M.D. - Mental Health, Wellness
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Lack of Sex drive and Erection Problem
by moo8441, Mar 29, 2008 02:08PM
Hi,
I'm a 26 yr. old male married and I have been with my wife for seven years collectively. She has sexually abuse in her younger years. She used to tell me she didn't won't have sex with me plenty of times, but did it anyway out of love. Also she claims she never had a orgasm, but she really didn't know. Those words bothered me for many years and now she has found her sexuality. I feel like I lost my mojo somewhere between in helping her finding her sexuality. What do I do? I love this women dearly. I can't keep an erection and my sex drive has hit rock bottom. Is there any help for me?
I'm a 26 yr. old male married and I have been with my wife for seven years collectively. She has sexually abuse in her younger years. She used to tell me she didn't won't have sex with me plenty of times, but did it anyway out of love. Also she claims she never had a orgasm, but she really didn't know. Those words bothered me for many years and now she has found her sexuality. I feel like I lost my mojo somewhere between in helping her finding her sexuality. What do I do? I love this women dearly. I can't keep an erection and my sex drive has hit rock bottom. Is there any help for me?
Doctor's Answer
by Roger Gould, M.D., Mar 31, 2008 03:47PM
, Mar 31, 2008 03:47PMTo: moo8441
yes, there is definetly help for you and your wife...this is a very frequent occurance, and an important transition in your relationship. By being oversensitive and curbing your own assertiveness for so long, you have lost contact with a core of yourself. You and your wife can work this out, but best to do it with the help of a very sensitive therapist, or a sex therapist who understands these things.
Are you taking any medication for depress such as SSRI's, I have found through experience ALL of the SSRI's cause impotance (well they do in me anyway) failing that there are very good swx therapists around that your doctor can refer you to to find and cure the underlying problem
regards
vangellis