Low Sex Drive

[Melissa]

My husband and I have been married for 5 1/2 years.  We had a very healthy sexual relationship until I became pregnant with our first child.  Now we have two children, and things just aren't the same when it comes to sex.  I just don't have any desire to have sex.  When we do, I enjoy it once we get started.  Could there be something physically wrong?  Hormones or something?  I am not on any medications.

[HFHS MD-JM]

Melissa,



       Decreased libido can be a result of mental illness(depression/anxiety), endocrine(horomone) disorders, and may represent other problems such as partner relational issues or just being fatiqued from raising two children.  It may be helpful to discuss this issue further with your primary care or OB/GYN physician.  Good luck.



Sincerely,



HFHS MD-JM



Keywords:  Libido

[Joe]

Melissa,



You and your husband sound VERY normal.  Raising 2 children can be draining and your focus is on the kids.  No big deal.  Talk with a professional to rule out any other possibilities, but I think you'll find that many couples with your stats (5+ years of marriage -- not to count the time you two dated before getting married, 2 kids, other responibilities, etc, etc) have the same "problem".

[GGS]

I am 32, widowed from first husband,remarried for 5 yrs in May, with four children. I am having the same problem. When my husband asks me why I turn him down, I can't answer because I have no clue. I have been suffering with medical problems that are associated with severe pain, but I am not even sure that that is even part of the problem.