Somthing is not right mentaly ...what can i do for her?

[jacobkat]

Hello! my wife who is 35 has suffered from "problems" since about 12. At the start she said no one would listen to her. She was told that she had a bad attitude. Over the years she has become a pharmacy tech and med tech. she is quite smart about drugs and also too smart to talk to a psychiatrist. If I were to admit her to the hospital, she could talk her way out of it. She has worked with the elderly and also meds.The problems she has been having for the past few years are as follows.She is depressed. doesn’t want to do ANYTHING but sleep, lazy around.. She says she has chaos in her head. all thoughts going a thousand miles an hour. thoughts of hurting herself even killing herself. this all scares me, she’s deeply religious and knows that killing herself is not an option. there are days of clarity and normalcy. lately < past 4 mo>she has been on line chatting. on my discovery,she has been lying to kids about who she is and says she is 14-15 has been raped and just general bad life. she said she did this to make her feel pain and make her sick.she also liked the attention she got.we’ve been married for 6 yrs now and she wasn’t like this, too bad over our relationship but now its getting bad. she brings up the past and cant forgive wrongings. it consumes her thoughts. she’s really a talented and practical person. she knows shes irrational but when she is being irrational she doesn’t know it. oh yeh she also thinks people are always looking at her. also she gets mad real quick whoa!   and even before when she was young, she couldn’t go to the store by herself and still cant. she is not social but at times can be. she is introverted she is also a perfectionist- not extreme but is.. when she was 6 or 7 a grandpa touched her..but she told and wasn’t liked by the fam after much although he touched others too.As it was found. it bothers her but she is not anti sex. when she was young also she slept around a bit about 4 to 8 guys im not sure. somehow I am ok with it, because I understood that she was not thinking right she also had a termination of preg because of her health she would have prob died she dropped to 98 lbs and could not eat. Sleep in around stems from her irrationality and now feels strong guilt even though God forgives. I want to help her I would like to find a good smart doc in Denver/ Littleton area to meet. it maybe hormonal, chemical in the brain. oh yeh  also no kids, no smoke or drink at all. no drugs is allergic to animals <also a source of aggravation. also has asthma. her mom smoked when and after birth. Her sis had clef pallet. She is gullible, innocent thinking, has the mind of a 18 to 20 yr old doesn’t act her age<34>at all.Wants people to call her but doesn’t want to talk to them. Wants friends but doesn’t like people in general she gets irritated easily, no patients. I know I make her sound like a horrible person, but she really is a caring person funny at times. She says God should give her peace and joy but doesn’t. she says she feels miserable all the time then I have to remind her that she does have good days  Please and thank you God Bless!

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

Your wife needs to be evaluated and treated by a good psychiatrist. There is a very reliable directory of therapist on the internet, the best is at psychologytoday.com.

[doggies3forme]

It sounds like she could possibly be bipolar.  Does she ever have highs where she feels on top of the world, energetic, not needing much sleep, or instead of feeling good is very irritable, is more interested in sex than usual, poor judgment, racing thoughts, speaks rapidly, goes on spending sprees?

I am bipolar and sometimes I have paranoia.

You sound like a wonderful caring husband and you know all her qualities and it sounds like you are really trying to understand her situation.  That is great.

Good luck to you both!

[doggies3forme]

One  more thing, I don't know your spiritual situation, but I am a Christian and had a horrible time when my doctor wanted me to take psychotropic medications.  I felt I should have more faith, or that I was weak.  I talked it over with my pastor and he helped me make the decision to take meds. The Bible says "a merry heart doeth good like a medicine."

[goldengirlmining]

Hi, Im sorry to hear of the problems with your wife, but it reminds me of almost what my husband must go through.  I had similar childhood experiences.  But the main thing that caught me was the anti social thing.  I want people to call me  but I leave the phone off the hook, or dont answer.  When I was younger, all the other kids cruised main street, I hid in the mountains on the back roads.  Lately, I ve tried different medications, and a new baby has made things mentally worse.  Now I fear things that are almost impossible, like planes crashing in to my house and killing me or car wrecks.  If she has tried many perscriptions, I would try marijuana.  So far, that has been the ONLY thing that has changes things, slowed my mind down a bit, and helped me relax and enjoy life without constantly worrying. Its grerat for PMS also.-K

[Inflight]

Your wife sounds JUST LIKE me.  I was diagnosed with Bipolar 6 months ago.  I'm scared of the medicine they gave me (Lexapro & Geodon), so I've been resorting to my "self" treatment, which I no is wrong but at least I know how alcohol affects me.  I hate taking any kind of medicine.  I have no choice but take my Xanax because my panic attacks are so bad.

But I would also suggest she seeing someone.  It's very likely that she's got Bipolar also.  I do understand how she feels.  This desease is very crippling and it's hard to get "normal" people to understand. Like her, I have a very supportive husband who has been there for me through it all.  We've also been married for 6 years and boy has he went through hell.

I started feeling these symptoms since I was 8 and over the years it only got worse.  Thank God somebody finally found it.  Now at 34 years old, I've got to find the faith and strength to start taking the medicine and finally start living.......

God bless you two and I hope she gets relief real soon.

[melanie54]

Your wife sounds like she has some of the same symptoms I do.  I used to think that I was naturally low...That I was different from everyone else and that I enjoyed feeling that way.  I never used to want to take any kind of medicine.  I was scared of it.  For a long time I too was a perfectionist.  I would obsess about everything.  I have been doing that a lot lately and I don't know why. Like I buy things at the store and then find something wrong with whatever I bought and take a lot of things back.  I also get in really wierd moods and get annoyed at people for little things. Maybe things from her past are driving her crazy.  I had a rough childhood and at night I obsess about everything!  I have been married for only a year but with this guy for 3 years and I am happier than I have ever been, but I think and obsess about all kinds of things in the past until it literally makes me not want to go out or do anything.  I have been diagnosed with PTSD and borderline personality order.  If she is a pharmacist it is no wonder she doesn't want to take any medications.  I am currently going off of klonipin and it is the worst thing I have ever been through EVER!  The withdrawals are horrible.  Maybe she should talk to someone.  I think it would help to get the feelings out that are bothering her.

[Prozac Is Poison]

Prozac causes irreversible damage to the brain and nervous system.For info look at the prozac survivor support group website ,do a google search on Peter Breggin MD

To date a chemical problem in the brains of depressed people has never been proven.In fact its failed to be proven countless times.Your GP may believe you have a lack of serotonin in your brain but there is absolutely no reason for this to be true.

In any case you can get all the serotonin your body could need from eating any food rich in tryptophan (this is the amino acid which is a precursor to serotonin).Turkey for example if very rich in this .

If you get your serotonin from eating naturally you wont damage your brain functioning and your nervous system and permanently damage yourself and your sensitivity for the rest of your life.




Prozac was never trailed properly.It proved no more effective in treating depression than a placebo and the company who make prozac,eli lilly hid secret evidence about its harmful effects.People on trail had violent and suicidal tendencies and some of them carried it out.
People who didnt respond as they liked to the drug was withdrawn from the trail and they were given other drugs to counteract prozacs harmful effects.

Eli lilly are so corrupt they have tested their drugs on homeless alcoholics before and the body who is supposed to approve drugs for safe use (who has also said that many drugs that are now banned were safe before), the Food and Drugs Administration(FDA) have close financial ties with the drug companies.

Prozac is harming you and wont stop harming you even if side effects wear off .Your doctor doesnt need to worry about it he/she gets their commission from eli lilly for giving it to you!


I quote you from "talking back to prozac" written by Peter Breggin MD,the man who testifies in court against Eli Lilly the company who produce prozac whose expert medical evidence they have never contested but have had to pay out millions on the basis of :

"prozac induces severe biochemical dysfunction in the brains of people and experimental animals,not only in the serotonergic neurotransmitter system,but in the dopaminergic and adrenergic as well.Can this dysfunction become persistent or permanent?In a sad commentary on my profession i must state that seemingly no one including Lilly Research Laboratories, is trying to find out."


  Prozac has more reported side effects than any other in history.It is an SSRI just like cocaine and amphetamine.It proved to be no more effective than a placebo in initial trails and it was only after manipulating test conditions and doctoring results that it was approved.     Hidden information about its psychosis-inducing effects has now been exposed which the Food and Drugs Administration (FDA), who approved the pill to be marketed in the first place, have admitted they originally had no knowledge of.


No form of mental illness has EVER been proven to be a biochemical condition,not OCD `s,ADD or clinical depression.The brain is simply too complicated and if very little understood.The only people found to have chemical imbalances in their brains are the people prescribed this "medication" and thats because they cause brain abnormalities not cure them.


If youre a guy and youre on prozac i hope you dont enjoy sex because the first independent study carried out revealed 75% of men suffer some form of sexual impairment on prozac (all SSRI` s have this affect).Most of them have loss of labido many others become impotent.Not everyone regains their sexual functioning after they discontinue the drug.  

Support group for men and women who suffer permanent sexual dysfunction caused by SSR`s ;-    http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ssrisex/