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being emotionally needy
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being emotionally needy
by firenze, Apr 13, 2000 12:00AM
Is being emotionally needy related to OCD? My husband is the complete opposite of me re: emotions. He doesnt need to hear I Love you all the time or little love notes here and their. I onthe other hand have to say it "I Love you" maybe I do say it to much, sometimes I do it just to tease him, but he feels I'm depending on him a little to much. He feels like I leaning on him and I dont see it. I'm on paxil and klonopin and I go through spurts of maybe for 2 weeks at a time of I dont care about anything. Some weeks I feel almost human. I dont feel pretty or sexy and he thinks I keep trying to get him to say something to make me feel good.
I dont know, I know I'm needy to a degree, but how do I get over these needs. I am looking into CBT therapy.
firenze
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I dont know, I know I'm needy to a degree, but how do I get over these needs. I am looking into CBT therapy.
firenze
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Doctor's Answer
by HFHS.MD-AJ, Apr 17, 2000 12:00AM
I am not aware of any studies linking increased emotional needs to Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). It sounds like you may benefit from psychotherapy, as well as conjoint/marital therapy with your husband.
Low self esteeme, lack of self confidence and being emotionally needy all seem to go together. You may want to discuss those issues with your psychiatrist.
Many men don't show their feelings like many women do. Many women complain of their spouses not saying I love you often enough or being romantic enough etc. So your husband may be just another one of those men that never learned to share his feelings with others. Try not to take it personally unless he actually criticizes you, then that's a different story altogether.