what is my daughter's problem?

[sue]

My daughter has been seeing a psychitrist since last April... when she seriously considered killing herself. She is very depressed and is frustrated because she does't know what she has. We would really appreciate a list of some possible disorders she may have with a listing of what they are, symptoms of the disorder, treatment, etc. Her situation is complicated, however, partially because she has memories of some past lives. In one one these memories she was raped and this is causing her a lot of sad feelings, as well. She rarely expresses anger, too.
   I would appreciate your feedback,
    
    thank you-
     sue

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

Sorry I won't be able to give you all that you asked for. That would be a whole book about psychiatry. Also, I don't know enough about your daughter, or even how old she is, or how she functions on a day to day basis.

The obvious fact is that she has a serious depression that must be treated, preferrably with a combination of antidepressants and psychotherapy.

Although the past is important, in my experience the present and the future are much more important for her treatment. If she can make her life work better now by solving problems, making decisions, and keeping committments, she will be on her way to recovery.  Seeing a psychiatrist is important. Taking care of herself better in this way is also important.

Our mastering stress and depression program could help her do that...or at least get started, and then take her printout to her psychiatrist for more focused help.

Hope this helps you.

[mark thompson]

-your daughter has let herself loose to all the double edged swords of life, she should follow her path with the guidence of good thaughts. Self knowledge will set her free of such cynical thoughts. dreams are day to day thoughts turned upside down by your sub-concious that need to be figured. All she really needs is someone to share her fears with.
God surely would not permit such evil past-life thoughts instead it is coming from her own deep seated emotions that have manifested into overwhelming anxiety in thought. I believe that to be free of these thoughts you must find reasons to not think them, to learn from them and gain strength by facing them so to speak.
At that age she has to realise that you dont know all the answers. Psychiatrists are frightening places, a few carefully chosen words can do wonders at such a tender and impressionable age. .

[mark thompson]

-your daughter has let herself loose to all the double edged swords of life, she should follow her path with the guidence of good thaughts. Self knowledge will set her free of such cynical thoughts. dreams are day to day thoughts turned upside down by your sub-concious that need to be figured. All she really needs is someone to share her fears with.
God surely would not permit such evil past-life thoughts instead it is coming from her own deep seated emotions that have manifested into overwhelming anxiety in thought. I believe that to be free of these thoughts you must find reasons to not think them, to learn from them and gain strength by facing them so to speak.
At that age she has to realise that you dont know all the answers. Psychiatrists are frightening places, a few carefully chosen words can do wonders at such a tender and impressionable age. .

[sue]

My daughter is 15. She doesn't want to get rid of her memories of past lives. She feels as though she learns from them. There are good memories as well as the bad. I know that she isn't sure if maybe these 'memories' could be just a part of her mind. Aside from that, she often hers people in her head when she is upset who yell at her and make her feel horrible. This causes her to want to hurt herself. Would the memories be hallucinations? I don't think so because she can tell them apart from what it real. Often they appear on a wall as a 'movie' type of projection.
  She tries to stay positive, but fails often because she has a hard time with friends. She's never sure if someone really likes her and she questions it often.
   I appreciate the advice given. We are trying to get an appointment with a psychiatrist and aren't in need of any help. I am curious, however, about some different terms I've heard such as 'bipolar'.
  
    thanks for your help-
         sue

[Constance Jones]

My daughter is very mentally ill she has been diagonsted with bipolar disorder she is 33 and started with alcolol then to drugs periods of off and on problems since she was 14. Nothing seems to help I am her mother and I seem to be at wits end with this.  Tonight she went in the hospital this is the second time in three weeks.  I cannot even say how many times this has been she has lost all self esteem is putting on a lot of weight and sometimes gets out of bed to only eat.  All that seems to work for awhile is hospitalization for 2 weeks gets on the meds again goes for a month stops and starts all over again.  This is some of the medication she takes.  wellbutrin 150omg once a day.naltrexone50mg once a day,zoloft50mg once a day,zypreza10mg once a day.  Social Security has diagonsted her as disabled..My question is what is next rehabs hospitalization only works for awhile.  She seems to be able to fool all he doctors and if in any kind of troublemwith probation, police, and just lies.  I was told onight that my only next solution would be commiting her to some kind of mental health home.  Please help me if you can.  I have custody of my grandson she cannot take care of him either.   Thank you hope to hear from you again I must say one more thing when she goes to the hospital she tells them she is fine and will not do it again do they believe her or is that one way of just closing the medical record until the next time.

[Franc, to Constance]

Your daughter's problems sound to be a moderate schizophrenia along with a very largely extended adolescence, and beeing reluctant to face life as it really is and committing with people, included herself, to get things done in life. What might help her to a good extent is to realize that fooling other people about her life means no other thing than fooling herselfe, and that will never lead her to what life should have been, according to what (I guess) she expected life to be when all such problems began, but now things have gone out of control.

Memories from past lives would not make her to behave self-destructively, as far as I happen to know, but facing the fact that those events took place in a time which is not the present time, and also facing the fact that what really matters in the present time is the present time itself, and that dedicating the present time to another time's worries is the biggest waste of all in life, should shake her head enough as to realize that what is going out of her hands is her life and that she might do something to get it back.

Helping your daughter on these matters might take more attention than one tends to think about, but does pay a huge lot back, especially not for you nor for her, but for the boy you have custody of.

Regards
Franc.

[Chanel to Constance]

I'm not a mental health professional, but I can very much relate to your problem. I don't think Franc is correct by saying she may have moderate schizophrenia, but her diagnosis of bipolar disorder sounds 100% correct to me. My own mother suffering from Bipolar disorder, I should know. Everything you say she has done, or everything that has happened recently or in the past is very normal for someone suffering from this illness. It is a very serious illness as you expressed, and extremely difficult to cope with or even understand fully. I sympathise with you, as I have been through moments similar to your with your daughter - the abuse of alcohol and drugs, the lies, the fooling of every proffesional who's tried to help, weight gain, weight loss, the police, self-esteem.. highs and lows, hot and cold .. oh.. and the mountains of medication! I really don't like giving advice, but in this case I'd like to make an exeption. She needs help, but not just any person. You've got to go on a search, you've got to talk to proffesional psychiatrists yourself and ask them for advice on how to get her to come if she refuses, or how to get her well again, or how to cope with her yourself. The right medication, perhaps only one would be better ie. Lithium or a combination of both Lithium and an antidepressant, this medication (once a psychiatrist has found the right one for her needs) should not be stopped and started again - the cycle is broken and this does not help . You really need a psychiatrist who is really good with people, very knowledgable and excellent at talking - you know.. using the right tone of voice, the right words - believe you me, it's very important. I don't know if any of this will help, but I'm giving it a shot.. If your daughter has had any bad memories relating to men, then it is obvious that this person should be a female. If she gets along better with males.. you get the picture I'm sure. If you can get her to see this psychiatrist on a regular basis, you know everyone has got a chance. Keep an eye on her, watch what she does or says and when she does it or says it. Watch her mood swings closely, is she rapid cycling, ultra rapid cycling.. ect it's helpful to keep a chart or record therefore expressing whether it is a bipolar I, II, or III. Most importantly try to find out as much as you can about the disorder if you haven't already done so, this helped me a lot. But don't confront her head on in any situation, or 'bite' her, cause you could get yourself in a ugly situation - only speaking from personal experience, perhaps your daughter is not that defensive though. But I'm happy that you have custody of your grandson, it would be hard for him to cope with a bipolar mother, and it's hard for a bipolar mother to cope with a child at the same time as the illness. I know all of this because I am the child of a bipolar mother. Bipolar disorder is a chronic illness - you basically have it for life. But it shouldn't be disabling, she can get help, but she needs a little push, perhaps from you. But you have to find the right psychiatrist for her - remember she's not going to do it. I do however think that when she says "everything is fine, I won't do it again" - it's all a big 'act'. If you knew what went on in the mind of a bipolar patient, you'll understand why I say this. Sorry to be so straight forward, but there is really no other way of putting it. Just remember that she doesn't understand what is going on in her life and mind, and she perhaps feels embarraced and this is why she defends herself by saying everything is fine. Just support her, she needs one lonely person to hold out there hands to a confused human being who feels she has to break out of herself to feel truly free.

She can be treated as an outpatient if she co-operates and understand her illness. If it comes to having to be treated as an inpatient, then it will have to be that way, but personally I don't feel that is nessasary at this point in time, however I could be wrong. But she needs to stay on the right medication. Just give it your best shot, things will come right. What needs to happen will happen, I know how difficult it is for me, so I can imagine the pain you and the whole family are going through. I hope my words were of some support. All the best for you, your grandson and your daughter.

Good Luck,
Best Wishes
Chanel

[Chanel to Constance]

Sorry Constance, I'd just like to correct a big error I made in my typing in my second sentence of my first letter above. I ment to say that I feel Franc is incorrect (not correct) in saying that your daughter has moderate schizophrenia. It doesn't sound to me like she has the symptoms of a schizophrenic. I apologise for my having to correct that.

Best Wishes
Chanel

[Cathy]

sue, have you tried taking your daughter to a doctor who practices Alternative Medicine?  You may want to do this soon.  If she's been seeing a Psychiatrist since last April (and I'm assuming is taking an anti-depressant of some kind to assist), you need to find out what is causing the Depression--not cover it up with medications.  I don't believe Past Life experiences are "evil" at all.  I think we all have something to learn from them...whether we remember them strongly in our dreams or deeply in our sub-conscious mind.  Hang in there.  You're close to the answers.  See the Alternative Medicine doctor.  Make it a priority.