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Mental Health (Expert Forum)
wut gives?
Answered by
Roger Gould, M.D. - Mental Health, Wellness
Questions posted in the Mental Health forum are being answered by Dr. Roger L. Gould, author of the Mastering Stress and Depression program and affiliated with the UCLA. Department of Psychiatry. Topics covered include anger, attention deficit disorder (ADD) , bipolar disorder , dementia , electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) , learning disabilities, memory, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) , panic , personality disorders, phobias , post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) , schizophrenia , stress , transitions, and work problems.
wut gives?
by mars304, May 06, 2009 03:07PM
is it normal or ok that my fiance does not get aroused at all by my privates? she has never been turned on by me(my penis) even when trying to arouse me, which is a simple task. she says touching or rubbing "it" is the same as rubbing my shoulders or back. she only goes near "it" because she knows it feels good for me. she has a low sex drive already due to depression and or medication, and forget about oral! the combo of these issues is like a trifecta of resentment and feelings of low self worth that comes upon me every month or so. our relationship otherwise is awesome but i"m afraid of being sexualy miserable and unwanted for the remainder of my years. I need to know why she (being a woman) would not be aroused by my parts yet girl on girl porn turns her on?
Doctor's Answer
by Roger Gould, M.D., May 07, 2009 05:18PM
, May 07, 2009 05:18PMTo: mars304
There are many possible causes of this, including the depression and the medication, some of which have the specific side effect of diminishing the sex drive. It is something to deal with now, and you may have to see a therapist together who specializes in these kind of issues in order to find the real cause. The answer may be as simple as changing the medication, or something more complex.
Member Comments (3)
by ReVeRs, May 07, 2009 05:32AM
well it seems like she may be a lesbian and doesnt even no it yet if she gets turned on by lesbians and not u ,that be the only thing i could think of
by zack32, May 07, 2009 08:26AM
Maybe she needs more from you but doesn't know how to express it. When a person is depressed and has a low self esteem it is hard to give of yourself. You can't give what you don't have type thing. Try talking to her about it, get her opinion. This is a matter to be taken seriously, before you get married. Sexual tension has been the cause of many a divorcing. I am however not a doctor but do hope that things turn out well for you both.
