20 week still born

[becca613]

Hello, I recently had a still born (last week monday morning to be exact) I am still bleeding, and having a lot of emotional distress. My doctor has not seen me since the day of the disaster. Should I be seen by an OB to make sure the surgery went okay, when can I start taking birth control, and when will my husband and I be able to make love again?

[Shenda]

I am so sorry but I understand what you are going through. I went into labor four months early and I had my son on 11-21-10. He did not live due to his lungs not being develop. I had him vaginal without any medications. I did not see my OB until 1-4-11. Since it appears that you had surgery you may want to call your OB and set up an appointment to make sure eveything is going well. But after I had my son my OB told my hubby and I not to have sex until after my six weeks check up but I understand some people may have sex two weeks after birth or just when they are up to it. My OB asked me the other day if I wanted to take a form of birth control but i refused because I am ready to have another baby although my OB told me to give myself six months to try again. I know this is hard for you it is still hard for me bc I wanted my son soon bad but you will heal with time. I find that talking about how you feel at this time will help you. Stay encourage.

[superchoc]

im so sorry you went through this. you may be better making an appointment with your doctor to discuss it all, im not sure of what to do but your doctor could help. you are in my thoughts and prayers