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Anyone whos had a missed misscarige?

This is an awful period in my life, and need to find someone who can relate to me, un less you have felt  this pain, you could never understand it.
Around a week and a half ago I was rushed into hospital after collapsing, I had no bleeding but had a niggling that something was not right. I was supposed to be just over 11 weeks pregnant, but when they done the scan, my baby had passed at 9 weeks.
The words "I'm sorry, your baby is dead" will haunt me forever, and I just can't get over the grief,
I'm 23 and it was not a planned pregnancy, but once I found out, I wanted this child so much. My fiancé however was negative and made a massive point of how much he didn't want a child yet. Even so I fought through and he said he would stay by my side. Now that the baby has gone, life's gone back to normal for everyone but me. I deperatly want to try again, but my partner said he wants to wait at least 3 YEARS!!!!
I can't imagine doing this. And I just don't know what to do, and feel like I have no one to talk to.
I had a d & c 5 days ago, and every morning I wake up feeling robbed.
Someone must know what this feels like?
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Hello its **** x I was 15 weeks I had just one friend thats has gone though it so I talked to her x I just ketp telling myself they are people out they that are going thought more then me x I am now 12 weeks and 4 days x you need to talk to your fiancé xxx
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Yes it helps to know I'm not alone in how I feel. I will try again with my fiancé and pray for a positive outcome, sadly I can't see it happening xx
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I lost my babe at 17 weeks and 5 days. My babe was born in my houre to be at my house is depress ing some people don't feel our pain. Its horrible im sorry to heard that ♡
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I lost my babe at 17 weeks and 5 days. My babe was born in my houre to be at my house is depress ing some people don't feel our pain. Its horrible im sorry to heard that ♡
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I'm so sorry to hear your story, you were a lot further along than me. Have you tried again?
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I just got my period Dec 30 and we trying  hopefully I get pregnant soon. My doctor already gave us the approval so we just waiting.
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Sorry for your lost... I had a MC on Thanksgiving day and Hubby and I are starting to try again... hoping we get pregnant this mth...

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I am so sorry for ur loss, it's such a painful experience and one that will always live with you.

I have no children and I had 2 missed miscarriages! Missed miscarriage are the worst as you don't find out till ur 12 week scan and u think all is going smoothly. I never bleed and I still had all the pregnacy signs, so i had no idea that my baby died at 5 weeks! made me feel sick.

Same thing happened on my 2nd, though all was well and found out on my 10 week scan that my baby died at 9 weeks and 4 days.

I am very worried that my body cannot support a pregnancy, and scared i will face a third one, it's such a nightmare.

Look after urself and take each day at a time. You will learn to smile again and u will heal in ur own time x
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I found out I had a missed miscarriage the day after christmas. We want to try again next month but I am terrified it will happen again, especially since they don't know why it happened. Rach- I've also had two, one was chemical like six years ago  and now a missed mc at 8 weeks. I'm just hoping this next time around will be perfect.
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Awwww am really sorry to hear about that Courtney. I know exactly how you feel. It's very painful and am scared too. To face a third miscarriage would be the end of the world for me, because then I would feel that's it, there is no hope for me, and that's the worst feeling ever.

Regarding my 2nd miscarriage I found out I lost the baby due to Triploidy. My little boy, had 69 Chromsomes instead of 46, so he died at 9 weeks and 4 days, On my 1st miscarriage I never did testing, but from the hospital report the baby was normal ( i hate the world normal, but can't think of another word), so must  have been a problem with the fertilzation process etc...

I really feel for you having to go through this a day after Xmas, that's really harsh. Please be gentle with yourself and try not to rush into it too fast, give it at least 3 months, let your period become regular and focus on getting urself into top health, take pre-conception pregnancy tablet for 3 months, and buy some folic acid tablets too. Moderate levels of fitness would also be benifical for your body.

I hear that going on super healthy diet such as eating lots of veg/fruits
(especially berries) and eat healthy meats ie chicken as this really helps with maintaining hormones levels in your body.

If you can I would also suggest some basic testing. That's what am doing because I can't face another miscarriage so am trying to do all I can to aviod this. Have you had your Progestrone levels tested? This is one of the main reasons why woman miscarry, there are other reason too, but this test is important. see link:

http://www.livestrong.com/article/120509-progesterone-deficiency

I have gone private and paid over £1,300 for blood clotting, Karyotyping for me and my husband,and testing for infections too. I will get my results in 21 days, so we shall see.

Really hope you and I are third time lucky as it's so cruel to keeo going through this and having to put urself back together in the emotional sense, only to be broken again, when it keeps happening, let's try and be positive now, it's really hard i know. I have only just managed to piece myself back together and am learning to laugh again, but will try again in March, and after all the hard work of putting myself back together emotionally, after this heart break, only to be shattered and broken again really scares me to death, so although i will try to br positive it's not always easy.

Wishing you many blessing and I hope we both are successful, no wonder should have to face this for a 2nd time never mind a third.

God bless you and lets try to be positive :-)


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Thanks, I really needed the support and understanding from someone else who has gone through it. No one else understands. I have been taking a prenatal vitamin for a year now almost and eat very healthy. I also do yoga for exercise. I tried to do everything possible for a healthy pregnancy, but it just didn't happen. It is killing me not knowing why.
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Since this has happened, I'm amazed at how many people miscarry. It is so important to get your body into tip top shape, but you also need to remember that it may not happen when you want it to, so try not to over think it. The thought of being pregnant again is so daunting, all I can think of is it happening again, so I know how you feel.
I've been mourning for 3 weeks now, but I think it's time I get up an try to go back to as normal as possible!
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