D & C

[bandhan1983]

What could have been my happiest day turned into an extremely enotional day for me which turned my world upside down.

I went for my 12wks scan for the first time today and found out the fetus stopped growing and had been dead inside me for three weeks at around 9weeks.

I am grieving and still struggling to accept it and have been bawling my eyes for the whole day. The more I think about it the more I start crying.

The hardest thing that I'm facing is accepting the fact that it's still there inside me and I'm still carrying it until I go to hospital on Monday for D&C.

I know this might sound weird but I would like to know if there's anyway I could ask the midwife/nurse who will carry out the procedure to see the dead fetus?

I'm worried about the effect and the pain during and after D&C.

[BinaBops]

Im so sorry to hear your horrible news. I can't begin to imagine the heartache you must be feeling. Regarding seeing your baby, speak to whoever carries out the procedure and ask whether you can see your baby. It may help with your grieving process and no one should deny you that.

[SabrinaBaby]

Omg I'm so sorry to hear about this. Don't worry god will make everything better. And I don't think it's wrong to ask to see your baby. You should go ahead and ask if that pleases you.