So I am getting a D&C Tuesday probably the latest. My doc told me that she would use a tube which will go up my cervix and will suction everything out. On here I've been reading a lot on D&Cs and how the doc would scrape out the uterus.
Now I know that your uterine lining gets really thin when it is scraped but I am wondering if your uterus being suctioned will cause the lining to be very thin? I want to start TTC immediately after as long as I stop bleeding and I'm not in pain. Also if I do ovulate right after then that means HcG is below 5. However, I am nervous of another m/c and keep thinking that if my uterine lining is really thin than that will cause it. So will my uterus get thin with the method the doc will use? And if it does then does this increase my chance for another m/c? I have heard that regardless you have like a .05% chance increase of having another m/c and that seems pretty low but does this percentage include the uterus in that type of state?
I just can't believe I am bleeding right now and that I am losing my baby at 13 weeks. This is so upsetting and all I can think about is getting preg again. Its hard when you thought everything was going fine and then its ripped away you just want it back...I just want to make the right decisions but I want to at least be able to try then I have something to work towards, focus on and have hope for...
I believe with any procedure like that it would make it thin (though I'm not 100% positive) and it's normally recommended you wait a few cycles to allow your lining to build up to avoid another miscarriage. It's normally recommended to wait at least 3 cycles after a D&C, but you will be able to talk to your doctor about it. They also should be able to answer any questions you have and will be able to work out what's best for you.
Sorry for your loss =(
I experienced the same thing last year lost my baby at 12 weeks (stopped developing at 7 weeks) and I didn't bleed at all, so I had to get a d&c. As much as it killed me to wait the 3 cycles, I managed to get through that time and follow the doctors orders. My doctor told me as well that if you have thin lining there is a slightly higher chance for m/c if you concienve immediatley after a d&c, but I have heard of many people not following that rule and it turning out just fine. I just figured I would try to emotionally heal and do what the doc says because I was so devestated. Even though I felt so empty and wanted to try again ASAP I would have been even more heartbroken if I lost another baby again right away.
I am so happy that I waited. I concieved again on the 4th month from my d&c, and I am almost 9 months pregnant with a little boy. Best of luck to you and sorry again for your loss!
Thanks so much HeatherLF and Clysta for your responses! I know some docs say its alright right after, some say 1, 2, 3 or even 6 cycles. I am just so wanting to start trying again and I haven't even had the D & C. It makes me feel really guilty, but I keep thinking maybe it's my way of coping.
So after much thought last night, I am definitely going to hear out my doc's orders, but after this she will no longer be my doc. Honestly I don't trust her...After we looked on my ultrasound last Tuesday there was a sac and a fetal pole. Everything looked normal for 7 weeks and the only thing that didn't add up was that I said I was 13 wks. Well she kept telling it was a blighted ovum. I have read about BO's on many website's and that is when there is nothing in the sac. Some websites say "The sac doesn't include an embryo, fetal pole, etc." So that just wasn't possible. Plus if I told you the way she treated me that day you probably wouldn't believe it...
So ya I think in the end I will listen to my own body. If I stop bleeding just a few days after the D & C and actually ovulate, and have no pains or cramping then maybe we will ttc. But if I'm still bleeding or just dont' feel like its right then prob not. I read up on a few things also saying that when you get a suction D&C you don't have to wait because it doesn't make you uterus inflammed or anything.
I just really hate no being in control of my body and even worse not knowing what will happen. Every woman is different and I could go through 4 wks of bleeding...which would be horrible but possible...I just hate not knowing...
I am also listening to my dr.'s suggestion of waiting for 2 cycles. Although the wait is killing me and I have not even have my first period yet.
I know what you mean about not being in control of your body, I felt the same. I feel as if there is nothing I can do to assure the health of my next pregnancy and also I am very afraid it will be difficult to conceive again (although I conceive easily the first time, right after I stopped the birth control pill).
All I can do is to watch my diet and load myself full of vitamins. Other than that, I can't think of anything else I can do.
Do not worry, we are in this together and we will support each other. We will have our sweet angels before you know it.
Yes, we will both have beautiful little babies to hold soon enough. And ya know what? When we finally do get preg whether it is this cycle or 9 more as soon as we do it will feel like we didn't even wait at all because we will be in the moment.
I definitely think you need to do what is right for you and what you trust is right in your gut. And soon enough the 2 cycles will have come and gone. Honestly, I don't know if it will be right for us to TTC right off. I feel it is in my heart and I know my body won't jump into anything it can't handle. I just hope everything will go good when it does happen...
I am wandering if doctors recommened different things when you miscarry naturally and if you have a dnc. I only say that because straight after my miscarriage at 14 weeks (my son stopped growing at 10-11 weeks) the doctor at the hospital said we could try again when we are ready. My miscarriage was pretty straight forward, the heavy bleeding, waters breaking and then my son and placenta came out. I wander if miscarriages that have no complications you don't have to wait as long.
My hubby and I weren't emotionally ready straight after my miscarriage. We did BD once around ovulation time but I was about 4 days too early and I wasn't ready to BD so we didn't do it again during the prime ovulation zone. I got my first af 37 days later and then we tried again the following month and fell pregnant.
I am only 5 weeks pregnant and I must say it is very scary but in the same sense I am very positive - a feelling I didn't have when I was pregnant with my son I miscarried. I have chosen not to have any blood drawn or have any ultrasounds because I saw my little man's heartbeat at 7 weeks 5 and only realised there were complications a day before I miscarried. I don't want to know if I am going to miscarry if it happens again, I just want it to happen like it did with my son so I can cherish every moment I have while pregnant.
I think everyone can say when you should start trying again but I think it is best to listen to your doctor because they are the only ones that know the complications you had during your miscarriage so they could probably offer the best time frame. You will know when it is right to try again. I knew it was right when I could be intimate with my husband again and not burst into tears after Bding. The last time I cried after Bding with hubby was a day before I released my egg during ovulation time.
It will happen when you are ready :) Try not to push yourself or put to much pressure on yourself and you will get your bfp
Congratulations on your new pregnancy. I wish things will go smoothly and without complications for you. I will keep you and everyone here in my prayers. I am sure everything will be great.
My dr advised 2 cycles because my uterus is very thin after the d&c and he says chances of m/c is higher if I get preg b4 two cycles because the uterus lining would not be able to sustain the pregnancy.
I will definitely get a green light from dr. before ttc. I wish I will be as lucky to get preg as soon we ttc. I keep having fear it might be hard for me to conceive again or that it will happen again. But still, I will try to brush these negative feelings aside and try to relax.
I completely agree with you! Personally I don't think it matters if you have a d/c or go naturally. I think if your doc says you should wait because you could m/c again I don't think that is true. I think if a m/c is going to happen again it will and it won't have anything to do with waiting. Like supposed your uterus is way to thin to support a preg and you start ttc immediately after your m/c. I just don't think your body would allow the egg to implant ya know? This will sound funny but before I did research and all that I kept thinking "well what if we try to soon and then my lining is messed up and the egg implants but doesnt do it right and then falls and I have a m/c" After researching and talking with my doc I don't think thats possible. If you uterus isn't ready it just won't attach at all. I just don't think waiting will stop another m/c from happening ya know? I guess that just seems to make the most sense to me.
Now I think emotions def play a big part in ttc after a m/c. So if I wasnt emotionally ready then I def wouldnt be trying right off. I would prob wait a couple months. Honestly I just can't handle the wait. I really am having a hard time swallowing the fact that I thought I had six months to go to hold my baby and thats gone and now Im starting all over. I think about being preg all day and its almost sickening but i dont know what to do about it ya know?
So in the end I think everyone has their own thoughts in which emotions play a big role and all of us women have totally diff bodies, hearts and minds. All these wonderful women who have had a m/c will start ttc when they are ready!
Gracie and rccresswell I just wanna say that you ladies are so supportive and i looked forward to talking to you each day!
Gracie I know this will happen for us and rccresswell this is going to be the best happy healthy 9 months for you! I just know it in my heart!
Congrats on being pregnant with baby boy. Baby had no heart beat at 11 weeks and had d&c, bleed for a few days that was Oct and in Feb had a brownish color discharge and have not had a period yet and its April. I wonder if anyone else has had this problem. I might add that I am 44 years old but have never missed a period before I got pregnant. Do you think something happened with d&c or am I going into menopause.
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