Depressed

[Nickname16]

Hey there. About a month ago I found out I was pregnant 2 days later I was rushed into surgery because we found that it was an ectopic pregnancy. The pregnancy wasn't planned. After the surgery I was feeling ok, pain from the surgery but emotionally ok. But the past week has been hell. I am feeling really depressed. All I want to do is sleep. And I feel really alone. My partner tells me he doesnt understand what I'm feeling and how should he. Which leaves me feeling even more alone. it wasnt a planned pregnancy yet still I feel so depressed all the time. I have no sex drive because I can't handle the thought of going through something like that again and this too my partner doesn't understand. I find myself crying at the most inappropriate times.

[Ecologic]

Men have a much harder time to understand how we women feel after a miscarriage. Your hormones are also crashing right now, it makes you even more depressed.

You may want to go see a counselor or even take antidepressant medication for a little while.

Take time to grieve and cry: it's very normal!!

[MMiles27]

I completely understand. In 2 days it will make 2 months since my miscarriage, and I am still emotional over it. I get days where I don't want to do anything. Although my partner has been supportive, I know that he just doesn't feel the same. Probably because of the attachment we feel instantly the moment we find out we're pregnant. Just so you  know, there is never an inappropriate time to cry. That's just your way of healing. I've told myself that I can not make myself get over it, with each day it's a little easier to live with, but I know I will never be over it. And if there are times I can't get up, or times I cry or times I just need to take a deep breathe, I do. So, what I am saying is that it will get easier, it may take longer then you would like, but it will. Take care of yourself, Melanie

[Scout8601]

I'm really sorry too, and the way you feel is normal after something like this.  People who haven't been thru a miscarriage, just don't seem to understand.    Take all the time you need.  Again, I'm really sorry you're having to go thru this.

[HelloKittyGurl]

It's normal to feel that way. Men will never understand, so don't expect him too. It's going to take time. If you need to, you should se a grief councelor. I'm sorry for your loss. Also, maybe you should consider going on bc if your not ready to be a mom. There is nothing wrong with the way your feeling, just remember that.