Did I accidentally cause a miscarriage?? =[

[jca90]

Please Read. It may look like alot but I NEED YOUR HELP!

Hi everyone--

Recently, my best friend of all my life has become extremely sexually active, and she is only 15 years old! And on the past January 27th she had missed her period, and was very sexually active! During this time she experienced lots of flu like symptons, was not eating well, and was on prescription medication..all of which were reasons she claimed for missing her period. I didnt think so. I became very concerned for her and began saving up money for a test and researched like crazy online! What a crazy concerned friend I was, huh? Around the 15th of February, still being late, my anxiety for her took a turn for the worse....
She was hanging out at my house and we began to joke around, pretending to wrestle each other, when unknowingly I squeezed her stomach slightly hard enough for her to say "ouch" but not super hard, and it only lasted about 3 or 4 seconds.Jokingly, she said"i bet you killed the baby". Right then, I freaked out! I felt like I was gonna lose my mind and for days couldnt sleep because I thought I killed this possible baby.
Now, being a guy and all I dont know much about pregnancy and whatnot so I did research on miscarriages. For the next week and a half she showed no symptons of a miscarriage like bleeding, back ache, or cramps(she did have some, due to her flu).I began to question whether or not I did hurt the "baby".Then the 27th of February rolled around, one month TO THE DAY that she was supposed to get her period last(Jan.27) and she gets her period!(or is it?) After this, many people have told me to relax, I did nothing wrong that shes just young and had an irregular period,or that i didnt use enough force to hurt a baby that wouldve been inside her, or that maybe her illness or medication threw off her period.The bleeding she said seemed to be a normal period..it last 5 days..she had her usual PMSing(lol),cramping,etc.So my question to you is does this seem like an irregular period story to you guys or a miscarriage?Im still freaking out! And I also read that it takes 4 to 6 weeks for periodto return after a miscarriage, so it wouldve been to early (1 1/2 weeks) for her to get her period even if i did give her a miscarriage? Do all signs point to me being ok?
If it was a miscarriage,was it my fault, and if it wasnt..does it seem to have occured after the whole stomach squeezing? My fear is that I squeezed her stomach, and a freak accident happened and she didnt show any symptons of a miscarriage like bleeding..and then got her period 2 weeks later because the fetus was gone and the miscarriage was over. But that just seems impossible right, and im just freaking out?

PLEASE HELP!

Thank you so much in advance!
-Jared

[ArmyPrincess819]

Ps I drew a blank at the top of the forum there is a post it's the first one there is a link on it which will give you all the acronyms etc! I hope that helps....

AP

[ArmyPrincess819]

Oh sorry pg means pregnancy or pregnant and hpt means a home pregnancy test! How is your friend feeling? What has happened since the post! If you need to know abbreviations go to the bottom of the page in the m/c fourm and there is a button to click on that will give them all to you. If you need anymore help let me know!
Take care and best wishes to your friend!

AP

[jca90]

Hey Aarmyprincess-
basically she got what seemed to be a normal period like she said that lasted normal time, with normal symptons and that was it since then.
But can you rephrase your last post? Whats is pg hpt?

[ArmyPrincess819]

Jared- For me it was I bet you killed my baby that tipped me off. Even if your friend hadn't confirmed her pg she must have had some underlying suspicion she maybe pg.  Also the fact that she is explaining her period in full detail to you from month to month and your a man leads me to believe she is confinding to someone whom she truly trusts. Has her situation changed since your post? Did she end up taking a hpt? Take care and give her my best!

AP

[jca90]

I just want to thank everyone for their replies! Its helped me a ton!

[steph9803]

It sounds to me like she just had an irregular period. Not that she had got pregnant. And like the girls said before, you didn't do anything that could have caused a m/c. I have been hit in the stomach really hard by one of my kids on accident when I was very pregnant and the baby is so cushioned that he was fine. But please do try to talk to her about condoms and birth control if she is that sexually active. You don't want to lose her to something like AIDS...And the sad truth is that it can happen to anyone if they are not careful at any age.

[jca90]

Thanks to everyone for their great replies! I really appreciate it!
To armyprincess819..thank you aswell, but it was never fully determined if she even had a miscarriage, I was just asking you guys, and if you believe it was a miscarriage, what clues from my story led you to believe that?? I just want to know so I can look out for my friend and help her out, because shes just as confused as I am.

And guys, another question. I posted this thread at another message board..just to get as much answers from diff people as I can, and in the other message board about 10 people said the same exact thing as you guys but also added in "if it WAS a miscarriage, it wasnt your fault"..but i dont understand what that means? do you think they said that because she randomly started bleeding, thinking it was only her period? and its really a sign of her miscarrying?
like i said im very concerned and curious about this matter aha, any help is appreciated!

thanks guys
-jared

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry your friend had to got through this. A miscarriage can leave so many unanswered questions and alot of guilt. There is nothing either one of you did to cause this to happen. The baby is tucked so deep inside or her that nothing can really get to it. It would have to be a severe bodily injury to induce a miscarriage. The best thing you can do for your friend is stop blaming yourself and try to be as supportive as you can towards her which already sounds like you are. Best wishes to you and your friend. Please take care and tell your friend to get lots of rest and stay well hydrated....

AP

[smr08]

Jared, consider yourself a very good friend! Teenagers cycles can sometimes be irregular, and being on meds can also cause your period to be late. I'm sure that's all it was. I hope your feeling a little more at ease hearing what the other women have told you. You can relax now :) Please try and talk to your friend about birth control, not only can it prevent pregnancy but also std's.

Good Luck with everything

[bam1014]

Jared - I really admire you for being such a concerned friend.  I agree with the other 2 ladies, it was most likely just a late period.  It can be very common at that age, plus with the stress, meds etc that's very likely all it was.  As popcorn said, even if she was pg, a simple squeeze to the stomach could not have caused a m/c.  There is a lot of cushion down there for that exact purpose.  If your friend is sexually active, by all means she should be on birth control.  If she does contract an STD, it could have possible implications to affecting her fertility later on in life.  There are plenty of resources for younger people - so please seek them out.

Best of luck to you.

[Popcorn799]

Jared.....Please do not worry yourself about this. You seem to be a great friend and have many concerns for your friend. The squeeze to the stomach would not injure anything b/c even she had been pregnant it would have only been the size of a sesame seed at the most! She probably had an irregular month seeing that she was so sick, on meds, etc... She would have been in much more pain during her period than normal if it was truly a miscarriage. Being her friend and all....I would suggest you bring her to a walk in clinic or even see your school nurse who can provide birth control pills and condoms for your friend. The nurse will even do follow up exams which will usually include a pap test which are good for anyone who is sexually active and help with doing a pregnancy test so you don't have to save up for it if came down to that. Good luck and stay safe!

[mamaisa03]

I am thinking most definately not...You didn't cause her to miscarry.She had her period irregular is all...Being you did say it felt normal,nothing out of the ordinary for her right..I would stop worrying about it now really.Woman have irregular cycles for ALL kinds of reasons and most def bein sick,takin meds,having stress all can do jus that ,make you late!You would have to give her a serious blow to the stomach to cause a miscarriage...Girls have been in head on collisions an not lost there baby in early pregnancy,they are so low down and have so much cushion ,i really doubt that this was anything to worry about.GL