How long will it take to m/c after fetal heartbeat stops

[sue68]

Okay,

So, I will dread reading the responses but, I can't help but ask these questions.  

With my first m/c - had blighted ovum (stopped growing at 6 weeks, but sac was 9 week size).  This took 3 weeks after diagnosis to leave ( total 1 and half months before miscarrying ).   Now with this 2nd pregnancy - while I'm still a tiny bit hopeful for monday's 2nd u/s - I still want to know :  at 8 weeks & no heartbeat  : will it still continue to grow,  how long will it take to m/c,  how long before hcg levels decrease.  I still have pregnancy symptoms ( nausea , sore breasts ) since 1st u/s last monday so I'm thinking either still viable or because of Hcg levels still high.  

I'm bracing myself for the answers but, I have to be realistic so I don't crash emotionally on monday.....still praying for a miracle though ...... Thanks for your responses.

[sue68]

Thanks for your replies - so far, doing well considering.  I think I'm numbing myself  and my heart feels heavy but, haven't really broken down and bawled like the first m/c.   I'm just waiting for the m/c to take its course and then I'll deal with it later. I've chosen to wait it out naturally again.  Still have nausea - esp after a meal  and last night had two super strong "stabbing/twisting" pains near lower left ab so I thought it was starting.  But, no spotting or bleeding yet though.  I guess I'm just gearing myself up for the physical pain to come and mourn later. Last time the excruxiating pain took 2 hours so I hope this time is just as - or preferably shorter ( no no, do NOT tell me stories about longer pain times - don't want to know !!! )   Thanks for all your support - I haven't talked to friends or family because I don't want to hear anything insensitive or feel they're talking behind my back....I'm a private person and I like to deal with it in small doses.  And besides,  the girls here all know what I'm going through so it really helps alot.  Thanks all for your offers to listen - you will hear from me - I warn ya.....!

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry for your situation. If you need to talk I'm here. Best wishes to you. Take care and try to get as much rest as possible.


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[shasy03]

I had this happen to me back in february.  We found out that on the 25th there was no heart beat.    It was not until March 4th that I started to have the miscarriage.  I did have complications though and had to do a emergency D&C.  

You really need to think positive.  I have lots of problems with deficiencies and that's what caused my miscarriage.  The doctor did tell me to look at it as I could and can get pregnant.  I just had a problem carrying the baby.  They ran about 20 test in all and came out with my problems.  Just try to remain calm and if you notice you are bleeding too much..go to the ER don't try to wait it out.  If you need to talk please feel free to message me.  

I'm so sorry about you loss and I'm praying for you.

btw never had cytotec.

[sue68]

Thanks Girls for your support,

Spent a good 5 hours at the hospital today - did the intravaginal u/s plus another abdominal u/s and no hb.  Then waited to see my ob -  he compared last week's u/s measurements to today's u/s and said that it was decreasing in size.  I guess I don't have hope there.  I'm strangely calm now though - not breaking down yet.  I just feel tired.  
I had a list of questions to ask him so I got my prescription for cytotec ( in case I decide to take it ), and now I know what to do for follow ups after the m/c - so I won't feel like I was left stranded like last time.  He even had a list of  blood tests ie - genetic testing etc...to do after one cycle after this m/c.  
I have to keep telling myself that I did, and can get pregnant .  Meanwhile , its the waiting now to pass naturally. It wasn't a pleasant experience last time so not looking forward to all that pain. Hope my DH is home when it happens.  Am slightly considering the cytotec so I can "time " it.....and get it over with soon.   Anyone ever take cytotec - any advice ? What should I expect ?    

Again,  thank you all for your support. I'll keep you updated and will be needing your strength and support soon.

hugs to you all !

[jess81play]

I am so so sorry for your loss.  I went for a 3rd ultrasound at 7 weeks and they tech could not find a heartbeat (internal and external ultrasound) after seeing the heartbeat a week earlier.  I went for a 4th ultrasound 4 days later and there was a heartbeat.  So maybe just maybe there is still hope for you.  My doctor blamed not seeing the heartbeat on maybe a not so empy bladder (although I pottied before) and there was a weird shadow.  She also said It could have been the ultrasound tech or the machine.  If at your next ultrasound there is no heartbeat , it's really hard to say when you will miscarry.  I had brown spotting for a week, then 2 days of bright red and passed the baby at that time with all the spotting.  The sac was still there and I was only spotting when I wiped, no heavy bleeding so I opted for a d&e.  I just didn't want to go on being pregnant when I wasnt anymore and plus baby already passed so it made the d&e a little easier emotionally.  I have no idea how long it would have taken to miscarry naturally, but I just didnt wantto wait and see.  My HCG levels where decresing very slowly.  Which maybe why I was miscarrying very slowly.  I really hope all goes well on Monday.  I know the wait is absolutly horrible, I've been through that but you only have the rest of the say.  Try to get some rest tonight. Let us know how everything turns out!!  Good Luck  **HUGS**

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry for your first loss. I'm sorry for what you are going through now. If your pg is not progressing typically the levels begin to drop but with my last m/c they rose slightly. The dr's say they should double every 48-72 hrs.  I would have them re-drawn. I had to have a repeat u/s with this pg. The tech could not see the hb. I don't want to give you any false hope but some women don't see the hb until 9 wks and if your dr is off on the dates it could affect things to. I would def wait until monday to see what happens. With my last m/c my numbers were still rising slowly even when my bleeding started. Every situation is different so it's hard to know when it will begin. Worse case scenerio some women need to take meds to induce the m/c their bodies won't begin the process. I know you don't want to hear it but there is really no way of telling. I wish you the best. Please let me know what happens. I will be thinking about you tomorrow.


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