I have fibroids and lost my baby - What should I ask my doc

[quietriver]

I just found out two days ago that at 9 weeks I miscarried. When I went to the doctor and saw my sonogram, the dark space that I saw just two weeks ago with a confirmed heartbeat was now two dark spaces with no heartbeat. I am devastated right now and can't stop crying. My doctor told me that the body will naturally discharge the remains. But I read posts that this process can take up to four weeks. I am scheduled to see my doctor in the hospital tomorrow for another sonogram. I do not know what I should ask him? I did not see any posts for women with Uterine Fibroids. Walking around feeling partially pregnant is driving me insane. I don't think I can emotionally wait. I sent my toddler son to stay with my family because I don't want him to witness what happens to mommy. I thought the body would have started already but had NO idea it could take up to 4 weeks. Please share any insight. Please.

[loopyju]

Hi,  I have just spent 3 weeks waiting to miscarry naturally, so it can take some time I'm afraid...  Its horrible waiting, knowing that your baby is still inside you and not knowing when things are going to start.  Nothing can make it better.  If you dont want to wait, cant they do a D&C?  I was offered this but chose to wait for nature to take its course.  I wish I had gone ahead and had a D&C sooner though.  I feel completely emotionally drained.  I dont know anything about Uterine Fibroids.  All my m/c's were missed miscarriages and I still felt pregnant with two of them right to the end.  This one was different as I knew that there was something wrong because all my symptoms disappeared.  I am really sorry for your loss.  Keep strong and take care of yourself x

[Heatherm4]

So sorry for your loss! I hope that you don't have to wait so long. *Hugs*

[quietriver]

Many thanks to you and heatherm4.

I went to the doctor today and was encouraged to wait. I feel as though ping pong is being played with my emotions. After being placed in a small waiting room with only happy pregnant women  for 90 minutes and being asked when I was due at least four times. I was then told that there might be a heart beat but they could not definitively tell what they saw in a sonogram. I was then instructed to consult with my doctor who has yet to return my phone call.

I went to what most consider a good hospital and I have great insurance. I had no idea that medical facilities could be so heartless sometimes. The sonogram technician immediately cried when she saw me and could not believe I would be forced to wait in a room that was SO not good for my mental health. I am a strong woman and not a complainer but I have to admit I am getting beat down right now.

[quietriver]

I am so sorry to hear you had to wait 3 weeks! I admire your strength, courage and sanity. God Bless you.