I lost my little bean!

[1stBaby22]

I got my ultrasound dec.3rd at 12 noon and i saw my little munchkin! i was 5 weeks and 3 days, i seen the heartbeat and everything, that night i had brown discharge which they said was normal so i threw a pad on and went to bed.. I woke up around 6-630 to go to the bathroom and i had blood clots but everything was dark red and brown, i went to the hospital and they did a pelvic and bloodwork, they said my blood work was real good my numbers were where they needed to be and my cervix wasnt dialated so there was no need to worry so they just diagnosised me with a threatened pregnancy,... i got discharged at 12 around 2 (12hours ago) i passed a big tissuey clot... and they said i would pass another clot cause they could see it at my cervix but that it wasnt tissue so not to worry... so i went to bed and when i woke up around 7 i again went to the bathroom and there was no more blood at all just very little brown discharge and clear slimy stuff with one very small line of pink... so i called into the hospital to talk to the nurse and she said basically to come in cause she couldnt see what i had passed over the phone... so longer story short... i went in they took my blood took another ultrasound and looked at my tissue clot... my levels in my blood dropped drastically since about 12 hours previous and there was no more baby in my ultrasound and the doctor showed me on the clot what he believed to be the baby!... This was my first pregnancy and they said i was very lucky cause i did it natural and i didnt have any cramping what so ever and no bleeding except what was around and was the baby!... I read and heard that if you miscarry with your first baby that its next to impossible to get pregnant again! I know ill never be the same! ever again but if i find out that i will NEVER be able to have kids i honestly dont know what ill do or what im capable of doing! I understand that everything happens for a reason and it just wasnt ment to be!! but im just concerned when i see and hear these horror stories of not being able to carry a child normally after a miscarriage and it was your first child! it makes me feel like a failure!

[adgal]

Oh honey, sounds like a horrific experience.

First, let me tell you that there is absolutely no truth behind they myth that if you miscarry your first you can't get pregnant or carry again.  My son is living proof that that is simply not true.  In fact, having one or even two miscarriages does not increase your odds of having another.

A very high number of women will have at least one miscarriage.  The vast majority will go on to have a healthy normal pregnancy.

As another poster said, the vast majority of first trimester losses are due to a chromosonal abnormality.  Nothing you did caused it, and there is nothing you could have done to prevent it.  It just happens sometimes.

I am so sorry for your loss.  Take the time you need to recover emotionally, but know that it is very likely you will have a healthy baby next time around.

[megancannon]

i am sorry this happened to you. i do not know where you read that but it is completely untrue. having a miscarriage does not effect your chances of becoming pregnant at all. Doctors do say once you have had multiple miscarriages meaning for than 2, your risk of having another miscarriage goes up, but it has nothing to do with actually getting pregnant. Also, miscarriage is quite normal for a first pregnancy. as sad as it is, almost 50% of all first pregnancies end in miscarriage. it is nothing you did or didn't do, more often than not it is just an issue with chromosomes and it doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. don't lose hope. try again when you are ready and hopefully you will see that you will be able to have children

[sania19]

DONT LOSE HOPE . YOU WILL DEFINITELY CARRY A HEALTHY BABY SOON. HANG IN THERE.

[bernie40]

Oh hon I'm so sorry for your loss, it seems even crueller that only a few hours before you had seen your little bean.  Please please don't listen to those horror stories, it is not the case that if you miscarry your first baby you will not ever have a baby.  I lost my first baby and went on to have 4 beautiful children, I have had other miscarriages, one after my 3rd child and two this year.

It is a huge shock when this happens to you, you need time to absorb and grieve properly.  This forum is full of ladies who have experienced miscarriage and they can give you support and share their own experiences with you.

You are not a failure, there is a percentage of pregnancies that miscarry and it is through no fault of the mother at all, it is easy to blame ourselves but truly it is not your fault, it is not a sign that you will not go on to carry a baby full-term.