Likely 2nd miscarriage - Heartbeat at 7.5 wks, no fetal pole at 10 wks

Hi,
I am feeling incredibly sad and overwhelmed. We had a miscarriage last year at 7 weeks - no fetal heart beat. That experience was so painful. It took another year to get pregnant, and we started fertility tx. Our first IUI without meds worked. We were so excited. Our first us we were told it looked like we were miscarrying. We waited a horrible week, and there was no heart beat, but the doc said he wasn't sure what he was seeing, so he referred us for another us that day with a better machine. It felt miraculous - there was a heartbeat! Then they repeated the us a week later and we saw the heartbeat again and took pics home at 8 weeks. We were transferred from the fertility doc to a high risk OB. This OB was in the same office where I had the last miscarriage. I tried not to be superstitious. I was so confident we would be fine. I have had spotting, but have felt good. I went to the us alone (mistake). The tech looked stricken and said nothing. Then she called the doc and asked if we were looking at remains. It was devastating to overhear that. I was stunned. They said they saw a gestational and yolk sac, but no fetal pole. How did it disappear? He wouldn't confirm a miscarriage. From what I have read, this seems to definitely be a miscarriage. Right? I hate that he didn't give us definitive info. It feels like the second time we are losing this baby. I am going to the us place that saw the hb last for confirmation today. My husband is still hopeful, but I feel hopeless. I don't know anyone who has had 2 miscarriages in a row. I feel flawed and broken. Would love to hear from others to feel less alone.

Thanks,
Lynne

[Lynne0307]

We got it confirmed that we are miscarrying. Feeling so terrible...

[shea2010]

hi sorry to hear that. i mc on the 29th dec 2010. i got a home test 2 weeks later and i was back to neg. i took another clearblue today and it is telling me i am 1-2weeks again i am so scare it will happen again to.  my thoughts are with you and your husband and i hope you all the best for your future. will pray for u..xx