Miscarriage 2x in 8 months

[EMOTIONALx2]

So I just had a miscarriage yesterday and I had one previously 6 months prior.  My problem is getting conflicting stories from doctors. I like to be told 100 percent truth on what is going on. The first pregnancy I had contractions and lost the baby and the second pregnancy my sac was in my vagina. After the first pregnancy I took the lost and now the second leaves me very concerned. I am not a doctor but it seems as long as they hear a heartbeat then they feel nothing can go wrong and when it does they still can't tell you why. It's very emotional to push a baby out, who you know will not survive out versus an abortion and never seeing the baby. Even though each has that emotional toll. Both pregnancies were in the second trimester with two different doctors. The first pregnancy and the first doctor I told for a month I was having abdominal pressure. The second pregnancy and doctor I told I was having sharp pain every now and then which she blamed on a fibroid. And now after the second lost she tells me to wait 3 months before trying again, that bed rest will not change anything and then states I might have to be on bed rest the whole pregnancy. I'm thinking about finding another doctor or possible seeing a fertility specialist cause I can't do a third loss. I already have one child who is now 18 and I will be 36 next year. Any thoughts.

[ross1112]

Exactly, I joined a gym today, so I'm gonna try to get healty before my next pregnancy, so hopefully, I can have a healthy baby by next year

[EMOTIONALx2]

Well that sounds like a plan. I am waiting for my next period and I just bought some beets. I understand about the bf thing cause me and mines spoke about it but more or less just conversation nothing emotional.  I want to see a reproductive or endocrinologist hopefully before my next period just to figure out all my options and not just part of my options. I feel like ob only focus on what's happening at that moment with you. And if its easier to say its something with the fibroids then we should of focused on that in the beginning instead of after the facts. But we live and learn.

[ross1112]

Try it, maybe is something with the fibroids, and wait until u get ur first period, and then start trying, but drink it now, I had to start right away because I had blood transfusion and I lost more blood too, so that helped me a lot, cause I looked like I was dead, that'show pale I was, and with ur bf giving him time, is not easy on them either, me and my bf were talking last nite and he told me that when he thinks about it he get sad and sometimes cry, so is hard for them too

[EMOTIONALx2]

That's weird about the bf because the first time our lost occurred it changed for the worst. He wasn't supportive or understanding and we didn't talk about it. I drove myself to the hospital, I had the miscarriage and he wasn't there and then he left me alone and went to work the next day. This time he was supportive and giving and stayed the two nights in the hospital with me. It's strange because I don't know why or the reason but I believe there is one.  I wanna be mad but I can't I feel I have to be more understanding to get through this. I look forward for the bed rest to get through this. Life has a way of making things happen and I have faith. I plan on getting hitched lol just to make everything right. My son grandmother told me after the first loss to get married and then get pregnant and I didn't listen. I'm gonna try the beet root juice and see what happens.

[ross1112]

And I'm a waitress, and I have to be on my feet too the whole day

[ross1112]

And my e-mail is ***@****

[ross1112]

Ohh and I'm dominican, so that's why I know about it, but if u need anybody to talk to, we can talk, send me an email of u want, I know how hard it is, every time I see a pregnant woman I get so mad and frustrated, I went to the dr on Monday and when I saw all this women that were pregnant the same time as me, I got so depressed seing them with their belly growing, and I cried and keep crying every day, and is been more than a month now

[ross1112]

I don't think my boyfriend understands either, our relationship changed for the better, but hes already moved on from the death, I feel it in my heart and is so sad and I feel so empty inside.
I have fibroids, I have three, and one of them got bigger with the pregnancy, and thats why i keep loosing pregnancy so the dr said he was gonna do a robotic surgery to remove it, but I'm afraid because my mom had it and she couldn't have any more kids, and I have a friend that the dr had to remove her uterus because of it and she doesn't have any kids, so I've heard about the beetroot juice with molasses, and I think is working because my fibroids are shrinkinhg and I got my period and it wasn't as painful as usual, so I'm gonna keep drinkin it even if I get pregnant because it has a lot of vitamins specially folic acid, and of course I'm gonna try again, but I wanna loose weight first cause I'm obese and that brought me diabetes while I was pregnant,

[EMOTIONALx2]

And which surgery did he want to do. Are you gonna try again or are you gonna wait. Did the doctors tell you why you miscarriage and since this is your third one your options seem very low. What kind of work you do if you don't mind me asking. I'm a nurse and is on my feet all day so I think that played a major part in my situation. With all the technology out there I think one miscarriage is enough and we should be looked at as high risk unless proven otherwise. I try to let these doctors do their job but I realized I have to be proactive. I just took some castor oil to help clean me out faster from all the blood clots inside. How is your bf dealing with it.

[EMOTIONALx2]

Wow makes you wonder. I just hate the fact that if I had these three strikes (age, fibroids, miscarriage) then why not just prepare me before I end up miscarriaging. I have a void and no one to talk to and no one knows so I'm trying to deal. I don't think my bf understands how I feel. I cried all night because of the pain and the lost. It was a girl which made it worse. I just don't want to go through this again. I'll be trying next month. So I'm gonna prepare myself.  I'm planning bed rest and the dr gonna do a cervical cerclage. Sorry for your lost as well. Where are you from because of the best root juice and is it suppose to shrink the fibroids

[ross1112]

Wow, that's the same problem that I have, I had two miscarraiges when I was 19 and 22, I'm living with my boyfriend and since I'm in a steady relationship, we were trying to have a baby, I got pregnant and a month ago, when I was 17 weeks I lost him, my water broke and my fibroids pushed him out, the doctor said hes gonna do a surgery but I don't want to, if u have fibroids try what I'm taking for it, I'm drinking beetroot juice with molasses three times a day, I was devastated, I still am, I have such a pain and emptyness inside that I think I'm gonna go crazy, but try what I'm drinking, my first period came, from the miscarriage, and is been very heavy and full of blood clots, but no pain, so I guess is cleaning me and is working,  soy try it, maybe it works for u too