Multiple miscarriages then successful baby?

[webby09]

Hello,
I am currently going through my second miscarriage (first was May 2010) I have no previous children so I am feeling very  empty and anxious about the future- this feels to be the hardest part of all, not knowing if I'll ever have kids ...
I am just wondering if anyone else has went through this (multiple miscarriages) then a successful pregnancy, if you don't mind me asking how many m/c did you go through before a successful  baby?

Thank you all for your help, I hoping the third time is a charm!

[gromit68]

hi like the other ladies i really do feel for you and your pain. i had 2 miscarraiges 11 years ago and was devastated like you i thought will i ever have my babies but i am now the mum to a 10 and 9 year old boy and girl who are my world. big shock came at xmas and found that my family was not complete and was expecting my 3rd child but sadly again i lost the baby a week ago at 11 weeks, i feel let down by my body again and am not sure if i will put my self through the pain again but the point i want to make is that after all my heart ace i did have my lovely kids and wish you all the best for the future xx

[webby09]

First of all, I am sorry you have to go through this too- I know how incredibly difficult it is, however, it gets easier day by day.
For my first m/c I did not pass it naturally, I went for my first ultra sound at 11 weeks and found out the baby had stopped growing at 7 wks. I ended up getting a D&C which dragged on for about 7 weeks after the fact (I had a horrible doctor, but that is another story). For this reason, it took me a long time to deal and to cope with the loss. Friends of mine had babies and I seemed to run into families and children everywhere, which made it difficult to forget. What got me through was knowing someday that would be my husband with my baby and that often made me smile when I was about to break down.

With this loss, it's completely different. I passed everything naturally and so I seem to be healing quicker. The pain is there, but I have already dealt with it before so I am coping much better this time, although, I still cry every few days but that's normal.

So, to answer your question, yes it is normal to be an "emotional roller-coaster"  after a loss, however, everyday does get a bit easier. When times are tough- ie baby showers, I mange by knowing one day it will be me, and that makes me what to keep trying :)

[lovekismet]

Hi, I also wanted to know how were you feeling emotionally afterwards?  I'm going through one and feel so so horrible...I just want to know if its normal.

[Eirlis]

You are definitely not alone, but I'm really sorry you are going through this. Here's my story:

I had 5 miscarriages over the past 2 years. Twice I got far enough to see heartbeats, but the pregnancies were never normal (baby measured small and hcg levels stopped doubling). After the 5th miscarriage (suspected ectopic), I switched to a new RE and had recurrent pregnancy loss testing done. We discovered that I have a clotting disorder that could have been the cause for most of the losses. We did an IVF cycle and I took baby aspirin and lovenox injections. Amazingly, I'm now 13 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby. =)

Best of luck to you -- the great news is that you can get pregnant! I'd suggest getting testing done if you have any more losses as there may be a very treatable explanation.

[webby09]

Thank you, its nice to know others have had this experience, and that I am not alone!

[tones99]

Hey .. I know how painful it is to get so close and then to be back at the beginning again, I too had 2 miscarriages last year, and one early one the year before, it is incredibly painful and frustrating!  luckily for me, I have friends and family around me who have gone through the same thing and now have children.  My cousin had 3 miscarriages (all through IVF) and then when they were about to start another round, found out they were pg naturally.  she now has 2 beautiful boys, both natural.

I also have a friend who had a miscarriage at 10 weeks, then an eptopic where she had to have a tube removed and now has a beautiful baby boy.  I could go on with others I know, but you get the message!  It can happen and does happen often.  Some of us just have bad luck, nothing is wrong with what we're doing, just luck isn't on our side, and we have to wait a bit longer to get our baby.  

stay strong and never give up hope!!

[StephRox13]

I'm sorry to hear about losses. It's hard. Harder the 2nd time for sure. My 1st pregnancy was 10yrs ago & I delivered my son at 33 weeks. He had a 4 week stay in the NICU but is now a healthy 9 1/2 year old. We started ttc for baby 2 when he was 4, found out I had PCOS after a year of no luck. We tried infertility meds a couple of different times with no luck. So we pretty much quit "trying". We weren't taking anything or doing anything to prevent from getting pregnant but weren't making it the main focus either. Then all of a sudden after 6 yrs of not getting pregnant in June '10 I find out I'm pregnant but have complications right away. I lost my baby at 3 1/2 weeks. I waited 1 cycle then started we began "not trying" again & in Sept '10 found out we were pregnant but lost my baby in Oct at 7 weeks. So at this point I'm devastated I don't want my husband to touch me I'm done. I don't know if I even want to try again in fear of losing another of my babies. I don't know if I could handle another miscarriage. I had many follow up appointments with my doctor, they don't know why I keep miscarrying but don't see any reason to not keep trying. I got the all clear from the Dr after I got my 1st cycle since the miscarriage. It took us another cycle but I am currently 6 weeks 3 days pregnant & crossing every body part I got that this one wants to stay. I can honestly say I feel very different & way better than I didn't when I was pregnant during the 2 miscarriages. There seemed to be something wrong with me besides pregnancy symptoms, I had a UTI during both, I had spotting or bleeding, and cramping when I got going too fast. With this one I'm just tired, hungry & a little queasy around some smells.  So I'm staying optimistic & thinking happy thoughts. (And running to the bathroom at every little cramp or twinge I get checking to see if themes any blood.)

I hope this helps. I know of others who have had successful pregnancies after multiple miscarriages. I'm hoping I'm one of them. Take care of yourself. Give yourself time to grieve, to heal and don't lose faith.