My husband and I just found out this morning that we've lost our first child. I'm 12 weeks along and our baby died at about 8 weeks. As it happened, I began to spot and had my first sypmtoms real yesterday and today at the doctors office began to cramp and have entered the miscarriage process this afternoon. So thankfully there won't be a long time waiting for the "end of my pregnancy."
I was in such shock at the clinic that I failed to ask or really hear alot that was being said. I've opted to let nature take it's course rather than to do a d&c. I know this will likely be painful and am beginning to experience that this afternoon. Can anyone tell me what I can expect as far as pain and length of process? And any other helpful comments??
Diana-I am so sorry for your loss. My heart aches for you.
My first m/c I did "naturally". Both the doctor and I felt it would be best for me at the time. I bled for 10 weeks total, including about a month or so after I passed the sac. It wasn't painful for me physically, but emotionally it was hard. My second m/c-this time last year, I had accupuncture done. The contractions to expel the baby were painful but my husband and I wanted to be together. I think I bled for about 2 weeks or so. Otherwise, I didn't feel any physical pain. (This time I was 13 wks. but the heartbeat had stopped at 8wks or so.)
If you decide to go without a D&C, just let your doctor know how long you are/have been bleeding. I hope I have helped some. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me.
First let me say I am sorry for your loss. I personally have never experienced a m/c, but my best friend did this past summer. She, too, opted for "nature's course" to take care of the pregnancy. I believe she was about 6 weeks along when she m/c and it took her about 4 weeks or so for her body to naturally m/c. She would tell me that it was very painful, like a terrible period, and it was very hard on her emotionally. She had her moments where she just wanted to sit and cry and scream. What you are experiencing is natural, but keep your doctor posted on the events. You are in my prayers.
Thank you for your concern and the information. It has been helpful. It sounds like this is pretty much a wait and see thing. I'll try the hot bath a little later today. My Doc. prescribed some pain pills for me that have helped alot.
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I wish I could say I had some definite signs, but not really. With this being our first pregnancy, I didn't really know what was normal. Of course I read all the books I could find and that was helpful. I think the lack of "feeling pregnant" was a sign, but then again things are supposed to let up as we enter the second trimester. My morning sickness went away completely and the breast tenderness also subsided alot. Completely now. I attributed this to entering my second trimester when things are said to get alot easier as far as the yucky symptoms are concerned. I started to get concerned about a week ago because I didn't think my tummy was "pregnant enough", but I'm pretty tall so didn't let myself worry too much.
Let me encourage you, not to let this worry consume your precious time of pregnancy. We can't change a thing in the future through worry and it robs of todays joy. I still treasure the joy I felt with this child even though his time this side of heaven was short. Keep in touch with your doctor, ASK THE QUESTIONS THAT HAUNT YOU and believe him/her when they give you a good report. My doctor shot straight with me and I believe that 99.9% will do that...they have nothing to gain by "making you feel good" if they suspect trouble.
My heart is broken at the loss of our child, but God is giving me the grace to go on and I trust Him with our future. He is GOOD!
I would like to tell you that I'm am so sorry for your lost.I am now 11 weeks and I think about itg everyday if the baby is still alive.I am 28 yrs old and this is my first pregnancy.I'm a total basket case.I was just wondering did you have any signs that you now look back at that would tell you that this happened?I really feel bad asking you these questions since what has happened but I'm really needing some help.I went to the doctors yesterday and the doctor couldnt find a heatbeat.He said that the baby MAYBE still in my pelvic area is that normal to be 11 weeeks and still in the pelvic?I had a ultrasound when I first found out and at that time I was 7weeks and 3 days the heartbeat was 155 a minute they say that is really good,They said all my test are good.But I;m going nuts worrying about everything.I am still feeling sick but not as bad as the beginning but I usume that is because I;m getting father in my pregnancy.I;m just so worried if you have anything that may help me please let me know......Thank You and I;m sorry
i have had 3 natural miscarriages and each has been different. my most recent one lasted 2 weeks, from the start of my spotting until the spotting let up completely. As far as the "worst of it" it only lasted a few days, followed by more spotting that lasted 3-5 days. Once you have hit the point you are cramping pretty bad, you should be starting the worst part and ibprofen or aleve and a heating pad on your tummy should offer some relief. I also used the comfort of a nice warm/hot bath to help with the pain.
I am very sorry for your loss, but have faith that time will help to heal those wounds.
Diana, I am so sorry to hear of your loss! I have recently suffered 2 miscarriages - one at 10 wks (May 03) and one at 6 wks (Sept 03) - and opted to let my body mc naturally each time. I understand your stress, because there seems to be SO little info out there on what to expect, and so much emphasis on why you "should" let them D&C! I felt it would be just one more trauma to endure. I firmly believe that the D&C process must have been originally meant to assist women who don't mc completely on there own, rather than as a recommended procedure for ALL women in our circumstances. No matter how small, there ARE risks to it, after all. Anyway, I am here to reassure you that this process does not have to be nearly as traumatic as you may be expecting. While I was not quite as far along as you, in my 10 wk pregnancy I began bleeding about 2 weeks after the fetal heartbeat stopped and had no pain whatsoever! I bled for only 7 or 8 days, which is about 3x my normal period length. There was certainly a flood of blood (requiring a change of maximum size pads about every 15-20 minutes for the first few hours - about 2x the flow my Dr had guessed would be "normal) and some sizable clots (2 which were maybe the size of a plum), but I did not even need the pain medication my OBGYN prescribed me. I was told by herbalist friends that visualization of a healthy uterus shedding in a healthy, PAINLESS (!) way would be helpful and also to do your emotional work - grieving, venting, etc - so that your spirit could "let go" and allow your body to as well. Both of these things I found to be very helpful and they apparently worked! My heart goes out to you but don't lose hope! I am sure your little one is on the way eventually. I wish you the best of luck and an easy transition in this most difficult time. Be good to yourself and many bright blessings toward both of our next (successful) pregnancies!! Budika
With in the past 2yrs I have had two miscarriages. It has taken a toll on me emotionally. Lately I have gained 50lbs, gotten goiters, have not had a regular period, and can not get rid of my stomach( makes me look pregnant). I have many other problems which has slowed down my life. Now I am taking progestrone cream, I can feel it working in my body and have started spotting with in the past 2 days. Have any of you had these problems? My other problems are: fatigue,hirtuism,low or high sex drive,really cold or hot, stiff joints...
I'm 6 weeks pregnant and I started bleeding 4 day ago and on my second day I was having a hevy flow changing my pad every 15-20 min and discharging medium and small blood clots and I'm not having any pain at all. but my dr told me that u know when u miscaried because tissue comes out and is very different than a blood clot. Well I had a very small thin tissue that came out, and after that I began to bleed less and I'm now spotting but nothing comes out like the second day. Did that means that I already miscarried? Answers are much appreciated.
I would go to the ER or get a blood test or u/s done to be sure that you aren't miscarrying. The tissue is the lining of your uterus, which I believe will only shed if you are miscarrying (that I'm not sure on, but I know it comes out when you miscarry).
When I miscarried, I didn't know I was pregnant. So at first I thought I was having my period but then I was bleeding and cramping very heavy (I wear tampons, but I had to change my tampon every hour which isn't normal for me). So I went to the ER and they did a blood pg test which came out positive. They weren't sure if it was the beginning or the end of a pregnancy (since the HcG level was 364) so I had to get a another blood test done 2 days later. But the next night I ended up passing this tissue, which was little bigger than a quarter and expanded to about 3 inches long when it went into the toilet. My levels were down to 150 the next day so it was definitly a miscarriage. My OBGYN then said that I passed it on my own so no surgery was necessary.
Alexa I agree with KM604 you should definitley go to the Dr. or ER because it does sound a lot like a miscarriage. I had my first miscarriage 13 years ago, started with a light pink discharge, the next day came the heavy cramping and blood clots. Similar to contractions but perhaps not quite as bad. I have had two children since then, and recently found out after 8.5 years I am or was pregnant again. I went to my first appt. last week and they told me that there was no fetal line, but there was a gestational sac. So now i have to get tested twice to check HcG levels, and I have had no cramping, no bleeding no symptoms. it's agony because it is like a waiting game, i don't know when to expect that hard part to pass. You should be checked by your Dr. just to make sure and so that you do not develop any infections or other problems.
I am 27 and I just found out that I had a miscarriage when I had my first ultra sound. The doctors sent me home telling me they would call me. After waiting a 5 hours of hearing nothing, I called them and they left for the day.
The next morning they called me to come in at 2 pm. After knowing for more then a day the doctor then tried to convince me that I just might not had been as far along as I thought. I knew the date because I hadn't had sex since. So now I have to go thru testing just to make sure I really did miscarry. I have been having major cramping since Thursday and and dark bleeding for over a weekand now they tell me I will not be able to get a D and C until Tuesday.
Going thru this emotionially is hard enough and now having the horrible pain and waiting on top of it is even harder. And to make it worse the doctor told me to treat myself as if I am still pregnant.
HI I am 17 weeks and 2 days pregnant. and the father left me when i was around 2 1/2 months for a girl he meet that same work. i tired to let it go and worry about me and this child, until 2 weeks ago when the girl ran up in back of me and pulled me to the floor, i quickly protected my tummy and protected myself as well. i did not go to the hospitial i had no spotting or pain. i made an appointment for the 9/26/08. i am very scared i lost 2 kids already and this is my 1st child to make it this far. please if anyone can help me i will be so thankful this is a hard thing for any woman and we all feel alone but with this site at least we all have each other should their be any signs i should look out for?
HI I am 17 weeks and 2 days pregnant. and the father left me when i was around 2 1/2 months for a girl he meet that same week. i tired to let it go and worry about me and this child, until 2 weeks ago when the girl ran up in back of me and pulled me to the floor, i quickly protected my tummy and protected myself as well. i did not go to the hospitial i had no spotting or pain. i made an appointment for the 9/26/08. i am very scared i lost 2 kids already and this is my 1st child to make it this far. please if anyone can help me i will be so thankful this is a hard thing for any woman and we all feel alone but with this site at least we all have each other should their be any signs i should look out for?
I was 11 weeks pregnant when I started spotting light brown. I really wasn't too worried about it because I had no cramping or bleeding but I had an ultrasound done anyway. The doctor said the baby didn't make it past 8 weeks. Now I am starting to bleed a week later and am anxiously waiting and wondering when this will be over. I went home from work today thinking this will probably be over now that I am bleeding a little heavier, more like a period, but after reading your comments it sounds like this is just the beginning of a much longer process? How long can it take to pass the tissue once the bleeding starts? Is the pain really bad? How will I know when it is over and will I know if everything came out?
I'm supposed to be 10 weeks but my ultrasound this week revealed no heartbeat and measured only 7 wks 6 days. Which means it should have died about 2 weeks ago maybe? I have had zero spotting or cramps so far. Is that normal or should I be worried? They told me at the appt this week that it could take up to 2 weeks, they really don't know how long it should take. I would prefer to let nature take it's course. Is it possible they were wrong or something or will it really take that long for it to start? The midwife brought in someone else for a second ultrasound even on a different machine to be sure. I had 2 days of hard grieving about this, now I'm ok just wondering what is going on...
I'm not sure if this will be too graphic but take a deep breath. I'm always watching live birth and birth day on the discovery health channel, and always doing researches on the development of a fetus, I'm not a doc but I can safely say I know more than the average Jill .That is because my dream is th become a midwife some day. I went for my first sono yesterday anxious to find out the sex the fetus being that I was 15weeks pregnant, not knowing that god had other plans for me.
After about 10-15min for scilently searching I was
told that there was no heartbeat or movement,I didn't want to believe it cause I felt the baby 2days before, but they told me they were sure and I should talk to my gyn to have it removed (seriously)...I didn't want to take no for an answer
so I went to another hospital the same night but this time the ER. I had a papsmear two weeks prior and when I got home I was spotting but it stopped 2hours later so I thought nothing of it, in the ER they did a vaginal sono and checked to See how far I was and how much I was spotting. Once again I got the bad news but this time I was told that i am suppose to be 15weeks but the baby stopped devoleping at 11 and that's when I started crying, what was the movement in my stomach...I know what gas feel like. The doc scheduled me for a nother sono this morning and by the time I went home the bleading got worse. This evening I started having contractions which felt a bit milder that when I had my first child. WIth in two hours it got worse and the bleeding was bad, I felt as though I needed to use the rest room and even though I knew what was going on. I was scared silly. I kept going to the bathRoom only to find blood. On my second to last trip I slightly pushed and something fell into the bowl. I was scared and called my husband on the phone to let him know, this might doing grose but I turned around for a quick second and saw a clump of burgendy tissue. I sat there for a while and cryed.. Thinking it was over I got up to fing that I was still having contractions... (what!) yea. And it all happened so fast I didn't think to take any medication. After about 5min I found myself back to the toilet crying my heart out not knowing what's about to happen. With thw urge to push my vagina opened and I pushed my fetus out... Crying and hessitant to look which I knew if I didn't I would regret I turned around and saw a fetus in a sac and the plasenta attached. I must have said sorry about 4times And as much as I wanted to keep it I took a good look and let it
down. The pain left for 10min but the bleeding just going then I could feel the walls closing in with every cramp after that. I'm now laying in bed mins after waiting to see what's next. I do have one question; how many of u actually kept what fell out of ur body?
i recently had a 15week miscarriage (15/01/2010) which was mine and my partners first baby together we were both devastated but as i already had 2 young children of 6 and 4yrs and i have already had a miscarriage nearly 2yrs ago it took a little longer to hit me,i experienced spotting from 11 weeks but a scan 3 days later stated that the baby was fine and there was a heartbeat....just over 3weeks later i saw what i thout was a little pink mucus in a towel i had on but thout i was just seeing things so i ignored it,the followg night i went toilet and there was blood but only as i wiped and yet again i thout i was seeing things,i went straight to a n e and they did a second scan which showes the baby was there but no heartbeat....i didnt want to hear anything the doctors had to say and went home...the only thing i did hear was that they thought that the fetas had been there for 2 weeks which i know was not possible as i hadnt still got my appitite back untill i was bang on 14weeks as i had not been able to eat at all throughout the pregnancy till then....the morning after i woke up to having real bad period type pains i was in some bad pain and everytime i stood up i lost blood clots like i have never seen before....i went through this pain for over 5hours before i had to ring an anbulance because there was just so much blood i passed out and my partner was devastated as to the amount of blood and pain there was considering i was only nearly 15weeks..this has been emotionally draining on me esp being as this is my second baby on the run that i have lost....i am desperate to have another baby but i am also too scared to in case i loose it...i also feel that it is pure madness that i have to loose one more baby to have any tests done i just dont know what to do
I am (hopefully) in the tail-end of my miscarraige (miscarriage). Last Tuesday night going into Wednesday morning, I was told in the ER that I was almost 4weeks pregnant with an HCG level of 9. Me and my husband were thrilled as I didn't think I could get pregnant again without assistance of some sort. I was prescribed percacet for the bad cramping I had been experiencing and which was responsible for me being in the ER anyways. I only took one while there but had refused to fill the prescription. On Wednesday evening I began to spot pink-ish. I tholought nothing of it as I believed it was probably from the implantation. But Monday morning I began to see like an light red. By the afternoon it was full on red and a little heavier. I was instructed to return to the ER by the OB/GYN on call. The PA in the ER did a pelvic exam and informed me that I was threatening a miscarraige (miscarriage) with an HCG level of 3. I had a hunch but was holding onto faith. So far the pain had stopped Friday and was just blood. I went to my follow-up OB/GYN appointment where my doc stated that my cervix was still closed and that I needed my HCG levels taken at least three times over the next week to ensure that they were going down. Sunday I woke up with the most fierce pain in the world accompanied by a slew of clots that turned out to be huge. I knew it was over. But now it's Wednesday and I'm still bleeding lightly without any pain (thank God). I was wondering just how long does this process of a natural miscarriage take. This is my second miscarraige (miscarriage). The first one I was 8 weeks along and had a D&C. From what I can recall, the bleeding lasted no more than a week and a half. Today is a week and a full week of the bleeding.
Sorry to hear all your bad news. I wonder if anyone can help me please? I have been bleeding and cramping since Sunday 4 April. Went for a scan yesterday (when I was 11 weeks exactly) and it showed that the baby had died at 6 weeks. I am still bleeding now, quite steadily but with no clots as yet. How long should I expect this to take, before I pass the fetus? Its a horrible waiting game which I feel totally helpless about.
i'm 19 years old, and this is my first miscarriage and i am terrified!
these cramps are so horrific, i've been bleeding since last Saturday, it's now Friday. i went in to the doc.to get my first ultrasound, we couldn't find the baby, or a heartbeat, he said i was def.pregnant. i was 7 weeks 5 days. he said that i am going to miscarry, and it will be painful. i have to change my pad every 5 min.it seems like. i'm scared to death, i don't know if it's going to hurt when the baby comes out or what i'm suppose to feel if anything, i don't know what i'm to expect, except the loss of our baby.. :( can anyone help me? i know that's a gross thing to ask but i don't know how else to ask it :(
I am currently going through the tail end of a miscarriage. I was 9 weeks pregnant, and initially saw some light discharge on my pantyliner, but a very small amount, so i didnt think nothing of it. The next day this was brown blood, which is what spotting is called (i didnt know this at first). On the third day, the colour changed to light red. i called the ambulance as I started to have a panic attack. I couldn't breathe and needed air. I was shivering so much. I think at this point I knew something was obviously not right and I was simply in shock. This is the day i started to get period pains that came and went. On the fourth day the pain became more strong. I had a scan, which showed that i was likely to miscarry and that I maybe the baby heartbeat stopped at about 6 weeks.
The early evening of the forth day, my pains were very pad, off and on, just like contractions but much worse, lower abdamon, and on the left side, but also in the middle. Late in the evening I felt a large clot come out. size of a tennis ball, actually, it wasn't a clot but the sack, which was beige in colour. My bleeding throughout has been just like a period. Today is the fifth day, not sure what to expect today. Some pains off and on but not severe. Just waiting and hoping the worst is over. The hospital have scheduled a further scan in one week, to make sure there is no tissue left. Feels a little late - no one has mentioned this part, surely this should be checked quickly to avoid any complications...any advice please would be greatly received.
My BIGGEST advice to anyone that is planning on having a baby is NOT TO TRAVEL in the first tremister. I travelled when I was about 4.5 weeks pregnant - and came back when I was 6.5 weeks. I am pretty certain the radiation of flying could have possibly caused the miscarrige. I have two children and never had a problem with my pregnancies. i also travelled then, but in the 2nd tremister. Please take this advise - think ahead if you have prebooked a holiday but also trying for a baby at the same time - don't let it coincide.
sounds like hashimotos disease you should get a test for thyroid antibodies. Ihave this disease and it contributes to miscarraige (miscarriage) if untreated.. go get tested get meds get better...the symptoms get better with meds
Hi every1 just want to share my experience for others who may be going through a misscarrige. I was 11 weeks but the foetus had stopped growing at 8 weeks. I had already started bleeding the day before my ultra sound so decided to complete the miscarriage at home.
I bled for two days steadily and then the pains really started. Was contraction like pains and really awfull I was screaming at some points.
I had 2 tramadoll tablets and 2 paracetamol.
After another hour of agony I called for an ambulance who came straight away and gave me gas and air. On the way to the hospital they pulled over to give me morphine, which eased me but I could still feel pain.
Once at the hospital doctors removed the sac and everything that was still inside I was awake through this and didn't feel pain I was encouraged to push with my contractions and they really helped me. I understand people have different experiences but if you are I'm pain call an ambulance for gas and air and help I honestly thought I was going to die. In one day I had 2 tramadoll 2 parocetemol gas and air all day and have codine to take home.
I wish some1 told me what to expect as I would of stayed in hospital from the ultra sound and had the fetus medically removed. At the hospital they also gave me a keepsake memory box with an angel, a candle, a prayer inside, the nurse brought me a cup of tea, also dinner which my mum ate as i couldnt face anything, the nurse also told me about a sevice i could attend to help me with my loss and a memory tree i could hang a msg on. Sorry for anyone going through this but you don't have to be alone and if you need help pls call for help x
I have had three miscarriages in less than a year. Going through number three right now. First one was a 8 week appointment with no heartbeat and little bean only measured 6 weeks. I had a d&c and that went well despite the obvious disappointment. The second one I was almost 14 weeks. That was such a stressful prenancy...as all along there was a fetus with a heartbeat...but also a mass that was later identified as an omphalocele and a trisomy 13 defect. I had a d&c again. This time... I am 6 weeks and just started bleeding. No brown spotting or anything...Friday morning I started bleeding like a period...and it got heavier with tissue-y blood and clots about a dime size. It is Sunday and blood is still flowing. I have an appointment this week...and am sad to say I am not expecting to see anything in the ultrasound. :( I am going to let this just happen...as I do believe my body will be better off expelling the tissue on its own. Too many d&cs can't be a good thing. I have two beautiful children! Two boys... 7 and 2. We are going to try for another year for #3...but will love on if it doesn't work out. I am 43...so I know that is a factor in the miscarriages. I am just not ready to give up yet.
Hi all. Wanted to share my experiences in hopes it will help. Miscarriage is a very sad emotional time, and I am truely sorry for your losses, and mine. I have had 3 mc and am experiencing my 4th right at this moment. My first I was about 6 weeks, started spotting and terrible terrible cramping, bleeding seemed to be that of a period, I never actually passed anything but drs said it did complete itself. The 2nd I was also 6 weeks again, started light spotting and I immediately knew it was a miscarriage again, I felt no pain at all went to the bathroom and found a large blob looking thing, about the size of a plum, I knew this was the baby, I bled for about 3-4 days after that. The 3rd mc I made it all the way to 22 weeks! My family and I were out shopping when I started to feel strange, I went to the bathroom and saw I was bleeding, immediately went to the er, as I was walking down the hallway blood started flowing down my legs, the us showed that the baby had died just a few days later, I had to actually give birth to my dead baby, it was unexplainable, there are no words. Now, I am much older, 35, and I have had 6 beautiful healthy boys, but I am currently 6 weeks pregnant....I started to very lightly spot Friday morning, went to the er bc from my experience blood in pregnancy is never a good thing, they did an us and couldn't confirm anything saying it may just be too early, hcg was 980, went back 2 days later and hcg was decreasing so they confirmed I am indeed miscarrying, I just now started bright red bleeding but not heavy at all, have some cramping, still have not passed any tissue.....anyway, seems as if all miscarriages, pregnancies are so very different, think you should just really listen to your body and do what you think is best for you. Good luck to you all, my prayers are with you.
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