New thread for Cycle Budies!!! and Updates...

[Dani711]

Hey, there is a "newbie" Pips on here and she mentioned how long that thread got and it sure is...but how about we start posting here to make it easier for people to get involved!
how about we all tell where we are in our cycle...
Dani- TWW, 2DPO
Steph- TWW,waiting to test again
Nunu- just about to O
Bam- AF is here :(- waiting to O
GMB-TWW, 1DPO
Latrice, TWW
Vibro-past AF???
Mapes-BFP 6 weeks??
Pips-waiting for first AF
OK, I am not so good at this, please let me know who I forgot!!
I know I must be forgetting someone...I am so sorry if I am!

[nunu1977]

Tiger-I hope you get a BFP rather then AF!!!!!

Kgokgo- the family that came to New Zealand from over there had like 12 kids. a few from that family ended up here in the states. DH has a friend with of a guy with the last name Udy and ive been asking him to ask his friend if he knows any family that came from Cornwall. It would be funny if somewhere along the line we were related and i ended up marrying his friend that grew up on the other side of the world from me. What a small world I say!

[Tiger63]

Hi Ladies,

I have been talking with some of you over the past month and i hope to get to know those of you who i haven't already come into contact with.

I'm 7DPO at the moment and really hoping and praying this time around!!!

My history for those who don't know me:
Pregnant = April
Miscarriage = June
D&C = July
Began acupuncture and chinese medicine = September (which is beginning to regluate my cycles)
Diagnosed with PCOS = October
Started Metformin last Wednesday
Got my first postive OPK last Wednesday too!
Expect BFP or AF next friday.

I have had years of irregular cycles, temps, cm etc so it has been difficult pin pointing ovulation. My last cycle was 77 days long and gyno believes i did not ovulate!

I am so happy and positive because this cycle i have actually seen a pattern it my temps and cm and it is clear that i have ovulated! So wether I get BFP or AF next friday, i will happy to have my cycles beginning to regulate so i can have more chance of becoming pregnant!

I send well wishes, good luck and baby dust to everyone :0)

[kgokgo]

How interesting! Girl, I need to send you a cornish pasty receipe so that you can feel really Cornish ...lol. I don`t know any Udy`s but its such an unusual surname so I will do a bit of research and let you know what I come up with. I `m not Cornish, I moved down here 7 years ago in search of a quiet place to raise kids.

Steph
Yes, I`m still going ahead with the surgery, thanx for asking. I want this problem delt with before I tcc again coz its such a nuisance. I `ve organised to have my graduation photo taken a day before the surgery so that I won`t feel like I missed out on the graduation.

[ArmyPrincess819]

To all of you I just want to say THANK YOU. I could not have gotten through my M/C without you! The best thing I ever did was join this forum. I think at this point we have the best group of women from all over who are so honest and kind and willing to lend some moral support and personal experieces. I hope for you Bam You get your family along with Dani! Mapes I hope your pg is awesome and you go on to have a beautiful and happy and healthy pg. And to all my other friends on here you know who you are some are pg and ttc ttw best wishes to you too! Thanks ladies without you all I would be miserably waiting! Thanks again!!!!!
PS. LETS KEEP ADDING TO THE THREAD!!!!!!!!   SSBD TO US ALL......(Thanks Mapes for telling me what ssbd means now I don't have to type so much. Ha LOL!

[bam1014]

Latrice - LOL that certainly was an eduction you gave me.  I enjoyed reading it though, so thanks again.

I too tracked my "symptoms" last month and realized that they are always the same.  Although there are a few questions I've come up with for my RE appt.

Dani, if I could just get off of MH, then maybe I could get my farm set up - LOL.

[Dani711]

Latrice, I too kept the symptom chart and realized that each preg symptoms mimics the same as AF symptoms, especially if you read other peoples TWW's to BFP, there really aren't any different I don't think.  I still hold great reserve that I will actually get a BFP...I think of it as the same as if I get preg again...I hope everything goes great, but I am fully prepared for the worst this time...That way if I get that BFP or if everyting goes well with the pregnancy it is just an added bonus.  Not expecting bad news last time and getting it was too crushing.
Your right about Leighanne, I was so happy she is finally having her healthy baby so far, she was one of the ladies that really helped me and so desreved it.  I wish she still posted here more often so I can see how she is doing!!

Bam-I too am on here all the time, and when I am away I find I think about what you all are doing, and what i am missing and if there is any new news!!

[nunu1977]

no way!!!! ive done genealogy on my dads side. I traced the Udy Family back to Cornwall England. any relations to you or do you know any Udys'?

[Latrice414]

Mapes it is not offenisive at all, a lot of women on the pregnancy side has had m/c's, and the ones that r preggo now can relate to how we feel or felt.  For example, Leighann is preggo now, she had a m/c 4 weeks b4 i did, so when i came to this very forum, she was preggo and she gave alot of encourging words, and a lot of information regarding blood clotting disorders.  I still see her post over here.  Just like on the fertiltiy side, i dont have a fertilty problem so i cant really relate to what they are going threw but i do no what it feels like to ttc and get BFN's, they dont tell me hey, you dont have problems so you should not be over here, they welcomed me with open arms.  And mayb the lady who told you that have issues of her own, so dont mind her, glad you stayed.  I ask questions threwout this forum and people respond.

Nunu: my m/c was in june. I started ttc in august and i spent so much money on hpt and opks (i bouth frer and at least 10 dollar tree test so i coulld poas 2dpo lol obsessive i no) and i did that for september also.  Then i realized hey, calm down and lets try not to be so obsessive, since there is only a 20-30% chance of getting preggo each cycle for women and thats not a big chance, i told myself i would only test if AF is late, and i would only by one box of test if i do buy any, unless they are on sale.  Like 2 weeks ago i was in walgreens and they had the opk(walgreen brand) which is 20 bucks for 7 test on a rack that said 10 bucks, so i grabbed 2 of them, come to find out they were not on sale but she gave them to me for that price bcuz someone mistakenly but all of them there lol. so i got 2 for the price of one lol.

I am 12DPO AF is due 2mrw and i am cramping somthing terrible as i type.  I told DF that i will be ovulating on the 29th and we need to be a little more busy with the bd'n from the 26th threw 3rd of december.  I thought i would be able not to tell him, but at least this way he knows i will be fertile those days and me not saying hey, the stick says we should bd come on lol.

Dani: Just try not so hard to analize every symptom, bcuz it can drive you crazy, when i was posting on another thread of women ttc. Of course we would analize every little thing, then one day i started keeping track of my symptoms for a whole month, and come to find out, i get sore boobs, cramps, twinges and back aches after ovulation. and b4 af, i get more intense cramps and still the sore boobs, if i didnt no any better i thought i would be preggo. Its easier said then done i no. But ttc is not easy and it does not always happen so soon.  I like to use this saying,  "The only symptoms im having is the symptoms I think im having" I would always post that in the 2ww, bcuz the 2ww will make you delusional and halucinate(which is normal bcuz we want something so bad)

Bam: glad i made you smile at your desk, it is amazing of what we dont no.

Just wanted to say welcome to the new people and sorry for any losses that you may have had.

[steph9803]

I have been gone all day and come back to see your post! I agree with everyone on here. If none of us stayed who would help out all of the newbies who are having their first m/c's! You were the first to get your BFP since this idea was thought of. You give me lots of hope and it's like you said you're like family to all of us and we won't let you go anywhere. That person really had no right to say that to you and make you feel uneasy. How depressing would it be if we were all on here ttc for a year and not one of us got pregnant?

Welcome to mrsmurphy, kgokgo, and nickwife...You couldn't ask to be in a better place!

kgokgo- are you still having your surgery this month?

[bam1014]

nunu - I'm so glad you are back . . . I just assumed you got busy with life and the kids.  I'm a medhelp addict so everytime I'm on a computer, I just keep it open and flip back to it every so often and hit refresh.  I swear this last couple of weeks, my productivity at work has seriously declined.  I'd much rather talk to you guys, then go through tedious spreadsheets crunching numbers!

More welcomes to the new people.  Like I said, (although sad that we are here to begin with) I think it's great that more people want to join on the cycle tracking.  That way everyone can have a buddy and the odds certainly increase for a BFP!

[kgokgo]

Am from the Southwest of England from a rural county called Cornwall. We are about 5 hours drive from London. Its beautiful here with the seaside and all but the whether is not so good. It rains a lot and that doesn`t do any good for my already permanently dampened spirits. When it starts raining, I always escape to my computer coz you guys lift my spirits up. Baby dust  to everyone.

[nunu1977]

I already know that besides my DH you all are going to be first to know when I get a BFP. Im going to be too scared to tell anyone... just in case.. well you know.
Mapes I was just thinking that must be getting close to another U/S. when do you go for another one?
oh and Mapes- I notice the difference with the EPO already! I cant wait to see what its like at O time!

[nunu1977]

ok I have soooo missed out on this whole thread. i forgot to check the "add to watch list" and didn't know all this tread was sooo big.
ok Mapes... you are the first one to get a BFP since I joined this forum and I am so happy for you! I want to know whats going on with your whole pregnancy and this is really the only forum I go on so you DON'T have my permission to leave us... got it! ;-) not once have I felt like you have rubbed it in my face that you got your BFP. you still have advice to give to those that are new on here and dont know your story. you have been thorough a M/C as well and are still morning the loss of your baby. im sure you also have fears with this pregnancy that eventually anyone on here that gets a BFP will have also. you are my friend and a fried to many others on here and we would never abandon a friend and I am sure you feel the same way!
ok now for peterjl- I didnt have a cycle day for until 8 days ago. it took 8 weeks to get AF because of complications from my D&C. so dont worry... just go with how many days from your M/C until AF finally shows up... hopefull soon. I was soooo happy when mine came!
Dani- I am glad your cramps have left. I am sill having mild pain in my lower abdomen. not bad... but there all the same.
Bam- are you OPK'ing yet? I will do my third in about an hour. I know i started too soon but oh well... what is a POAS addict going to do????? lol
Amyprinces- congrats. keep us informed.
mrsmurphy- welcome. you are a little ahead of me in CD. im CD8 and dying to use my pre-seed (thanks you Dani for bringing that up!!!)
Kgokgo the UK ay? im from New Zealand but live in Florida. what part from the UK are you from? i visited London New Years about 6 years ago.
GMB-  cyber mom2B cracks me up! Im the same.. if i want to learn about something i have to know everything. but im the same as Dani.. sometimes the internet gives too much info and is confusing especially when its controversial.
cacymichelle- im a day late but congrats on AF arriving. CD2 now
and Latrice- how do you have the will power not to POAS?  you are my hero for sure and I hope you can be there for me when im getting closer the arrival of my next AF!

ok did i get everyone.... wow i got to remember to click on the "add to watch list" so I dont get behind on all this interesting stuff.

[Dani711]

GMB08, I usually don't get any, but this month during O I noticed a little, and yesterday with that werid cramping I got a little which is weird...we which would have been 2DPO for me.  I still just don't think I am going to get my BFP this month, just because I have had so many let downs, but i can't help but to dream and pray and hope.  I just HATE this not knowing right away!!!!  Each month I notice different symptoms in my body, but the cramping is totally new for me.  What did you find out about CM and the TWW???

[GMB08]

dani...have u had any ewcm since your surge on sun? i had some today...weird? or maybe not?

[Dani711]

nickswife-you will find that in this TTC forum there is also a group that is in the waiting for their first AF, and we are all waiting and rooting you on as well.
Well, I think we have established that mapes is here to stay, and so are all of us, as well as welcoming with open arms all the new people we could ever handle!!
mapes, I lauged when you said we were the first ones you told about your BFP...I was JUST in the shower thinking when I got my BFP, I think I would probbly first run to my computer to tell you all, THAN tell DH...that is funny!!!

[GMB08]

nickwife..welcome....we are a safe a loving environment..

[GMB08]

we will always be inthis together...same as u bam...in the fert forum...i didnt click well with them...only about one person....not at all like us! this was meant to be

[nickswife]

hey there all!  can i also be part of the cycle buddies? i have talked to a few of you, and love to read your stories, its so comforting to know there is other people out there that went through the same as me..so if i can be a part of it i am currently waiting for AF after a miscarriage..probably be about 3-4 wks yet dr said.. i cant wait!

[mapes10]

Thanks for the great support.  I definitely don't want to leave, but I wanted to make sure I wasn't being inconsiderate to you.  You guys are my family that I don't even know, and you were the first ones who knew about my BFP :)  Even though I'm pregnant, I still worry about the same things like having a mc again, and I think only you ladies who have been through it can understand.  I am starting to get nervous about my next drs visit in two weeks, and you all make me feel better.  Thank you again for your kind words.

[bam1014]

Don't leave us!  I agree with Dani 110%!!  Yes, we are grieving, but in my opinion ever since we started talking about ttc after m/c (THANK YOU NUNU!!) this forum has taken on a whole new better positive light.  We love to have you here.  You always have such wonderful things to say and I would miss you if you were gone.  You are very considerate about your posts and I have never felt anything but hapiness for you.  Don't listen to those other people.  Like Dani sad, yes we are grieving and yes we are more then happy to put our 2 cents in when newbie's have questions or are just trying to deal with a m/c.  But ttc after m/c is completely different and you should continue to encourage others to come join us.  I have tried some of the other forms.  I started out in the fertility one and tried to go back after the m/c, but it just didn't feel right to me.  I felt like I didn't fit in and that the "clicks" had already been formed.  I even went on the dog forum the other day and there were so many negative posts, I had to leave.  The ladies here are so welcoming to the newbies, that it surprises me now, when people say they have been lurking for awhile and are afraid to post.  Please mapes, don't leave us!

[GMB08]

mapes....that bulcrap that anyone would say you are not welcome.......i found that is with our circle where i get the best responses......we have formed a bond.....and we will all stick with eachother!!!

[kgokgo]

I don`t know what others think but I personally think you belong here coz at the end of the day we are all aiming for a problem-free pregnancy leading to a healthy baby after a loss/losses. Your posting on this forum gives hope to us that there is light at the end of the tunnel. It will be such a loss if you stop posting coz you are a very positive person and I remember you were the only person who replied to my question ages ago when I was first told that my pregnancy was not viable.

[Dani711]

Mapes...First of all, being in this forum since april, I can tell you that I think it is so GREAT that you have stayed with us.  I had met so many great ladies like you all, then they got preg again and went to other forums...it really upset me, it was like they forgot about us and just moved on.  I understand wanting to be part of the preg forums as well, but we all develop such a bond, it seems crazy for us not to be a part of the good parts as well!  
For example, latrice has come back to us, she was one of the ladies that was so supportive and helpful to me when  first came here, when she left for a while i assumed she got her BFP and moved on, but I see she was taking a break and was so happy she came back.  I personally have no intentions of leaving here for good IF and WHEN i ever get my BFP
ALSO, Nunu tried to start a TTC after m/c forum, since it is totally diff. being preg after a m/c or loss than a first time pregnancy.  They responded by saying that they didn't want to start one because this one is doing so well.  I also have noticed that there are alot of forums like "baby dust" that just doesn't have that many people in it, let alone a close group like this.
Finally, I guess I just have alot to say about this because I keep feeling left in the dust by ladies that get there BFP, and never even get to know what is going on with them.  I appreciate you more than you realize being here for us and still helping even though you dont have to!!!  We need ladies like you to remember there is hope!!!!  You can tell them that, whoever said that to you...yes we are grieving, or past grieving, but our cycle buddies group is a little different since we are all moving on and TTC with fears and hopes that others don't have.  This group is special to me and I would hate to get on here and not see your name or read your wonderful advice!!!  If you can, send this over to that forum and let people realize that grieving isn't the only thing we deal with after a m/c.  The friends we develop here are special, and leaving us would only cause more hurt and loss for us!!!