I've had two successful pregnacies in '96 and in '03. Today I went to my 11th week check up at Maternal Fetal Medicine. The last time it was a heartbeat was three weeks ago. Today their wasn't any gestational growth and no heartbeat. The doctor said that my body will naturally perform a miscarriage. So, where do my Husband and I go from here? How long will this process take? Why does these things happen without warning? I haven't had any cramps or bleeding. I'm so hurt and confused please help!
I started naturally miscarriaging (bleeding) yesterday at 8 Fweeks (10 Gweeks).
My first scan was on 18th March and it showed no heartbeat (baby was at 7 Fweeks/9 Gweeks.But, I had had no miscarriage symptoms either. I felt pregnant and it was beginning to show. Doctor just said, Let's see next week!
My second scan was yesterday (25th March).
My doctor confirmed that my baby had passed around 3-4 weeks ago. Still no heartbeat and baby was so faint on the u/s. It was like she was disappearing. So it took a whole month for my body to recognise the miscarriage!
I'm actually relieved that it's a natural miscarriage (no hospitals, no high doses of hormones!).
My advice (which is what I did!) is trust your body. I went through a million emotions last week, guilt (what did I do wrong?), anger, disappointment, disbelief... I cried ALOT! Also, my husband and I talked ALOT about it, we cried together, we lived it together. And now, we'll never forget our little angel baby.
Much love to you.
I'm so fortunate to have connected with a team of real caring and nuturing women. Your honesty and willingness to be transparent to help others even when your going through yourself. My husband and I haven't slept all but two hours. Just up crying, talking, and praying. Trying to accept and process all of this is so hard. Especially when you've heard the strong heartbeat. I agree Hayleeinfrance13 its like the baby's body has disappeared. I'm so scared and angry. A lot of things has crossed my mind. My doctor said to continue the prenatal vitamins to increase my chances of pregnancy sooner after the miscarriage. Should I? Also we were online and googled somethings and found a site on Blighted Ovum. It was very understandable and plain. I do want this process to be as natural as possible. I'm truly scared and angry... The Maternal Fetal Medicine staff wasn't helpful at all. They just serm like they pushed me off. But thankful for this little blessing that I'll never forget.#BabyDust03/25/13AngelThatWentBackHome
For the vitamins, I'm not sure. I was just taking folic acid before. Now my doctor prescribed me iron supplements so I don't get anaemic through bleeding. She told me to carry on with the folic acid, rest lots and eat well.
Can vitamins really increase your chance of getting pregnant faster after a miscarriage? My doctor never mentioned this... she was more like 'take care of yourself'.'
An early reaction of mine was, ok, so how long til we can start trying again...? My friend who went though 3 miscarriages gave me some wonderful advice. Don't pressure yourself for your next pregnancy! My friend reminded me that my present baby is still there. Deal with her first! Give your body time to heal. And give yourself time to grieve. We need to grieve for our babies!
I say don't take vitamins saying 'I've got to get pregnant!!! Take them for yourself to say, I need to look after myself.
You are such a sweetheart. I continued my vitamins after miscarriage, but I don't think it makes you get pregnant faster, it's just so that if you do become pregnant again you're giving bubs the best chance.(: And I agree you don't have to rush into a pregnancy and you do need time to grieve. When I miscarried I didn't really wanna wait, but it was my first pregnancy and I had adjusted my life to becoming a mother, and I thought, well this is what I really want, I was also worried that there might be something wrong with me, like, I might not be able to carry children, and I wanted to know if I could. But you already know you can do it.(: It took me four months to get pregnant again and I didn't resume any form of birth control & took all the prenatals. But everyone is different and my doctor told me he thought I was okay to start trying again as soon as I wanted too (Although most women are recommened to wait at least one cycle, sometimes even three). But I would love to get in contact with you threw Facebook (Although I am yet to announce my pregnancy on there). And much love to you from Brisbane, Australia.(: xxx
You guys are the best! I've been trying to rest. However the doctor's office did call and I've been I such a disarray for the past couple of days he could've said exactly what your saying about the vitamins. We too have adjusted our lives of being new parents again. This pregnancy was planned and its just devastating to know that this pregnancy didn't work out. I've been doing a lot of online reading and research so we can just understand what's going on with my body. Has any of you ever heard of Blighted Ovum? Interesting piece of informative information. The only thing I didn't understand was how was there a visible strong heartbeat then it goes away? And how is there a embryo in the yolk sac and your body absorbs the baby? I still look and feel pregnant! I feel so weird and just awful inside :'( I don't want to rush guys... I just want to be normal again. I know I need to have patience but this is just too much.
Yeah, I have on my ultrasound report from the hospital there was two blighted ovums. But after looking it up I was still about confused as too what it was, (Not to mention the state of mind I was in). I think it's just a mass, of some sort. You don't need to rush, take all the time you need, by all means! I know that feeling it took me a good 3 months to even feel human again. But just remember there are so many things you have too look forward too, your youngest daughter is turning ten this year, double digits, that's pretty special.I wish I had all the answers for you and every woman who has gone threw this, I really do..
Yes, that's really special! Double digits... She's been such a joy. These past few days she definitely has been understanding. Praying and really just being a big girl! I'm so proud of her... She's really an ANGEL! Yeah, you may not have all the answers but your so very supportive to all the women in this forum. I've been reading other stories and you've encouraged and lifted up so much light to bowed heads and humbled hurting hearts... God has great plans for your life. I pray that your pregnancy and those to come are successful and blessed as you are and the blessing you've been to other's! People don't have to be kind but everytime I go through something God reminds me of Angels still live among us on earth. I'm trying not to be sad as much. We've cancelled taking our kids to the aquarium for their spring break this week. We're just totally scared that it might happen away from home... I hope this was a good decsision.
Mother nature is not perfect, but she does a pretty good job. If a foetus dies, it's probably because there is something that's not right. I read a story of a woman being around 4 months pregnant when they found out the baby had no kidneys. But it was still alive and growing so she had to have a D&C. For me, I'm pleased that it happend earlier rather than later! I feel for the women who lose thier babies late!
The way I see it, life is pretty tough, and our little babies have to be born tough to cope! I've come to the conclusion that my little one wasn't strong enough, and she's in a better place now.
Your daughter sounds amazing.(:And thankyou, well if you went far back enough in my posts you would see some that are oh so similar to the one's that you have been posting. You need to know that you're an amazing lady! I understand putting off the trip, but it might not be a bad thing to do. Obviously you don't have too, but it might distract you? I don't know, but if I had a child a amazing as yours I would want to spend some quality time with her.(: I hope you both have an amazing Easter.
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