WHat happens after natural miscarriage

[Tickled Pink]

HI all,

I've been advised that I am going to miscarry.  Gestational sac with no heartbeat measuring 6W5D and I should be 8W2D.  I am willing to wait for a natural m/c , but I"m worried about tissue being left behind.  Do they do an ultrasound after you start to miscarry to make sure everything comes out?  I haven't started to bleed yet and know it could take weeks.

[jlholbert]

About 4 weeks ago i found out i was preg..went to the dr and by my lmp i should have been 8 weeks....went for internal ultrasound on tues the 14th  and there was no heart beat and i was showing 5 weeks which couldnt be possible...they took blood and my levels were low...two days later they took it again and it was still dropping...so they told me i would miscarry..today is saturday the 18th and i have no bleeding and no cramping....i had a miscarriage about a yr ago and i was supposed to be 8 weeks again and us didnt show that but i had started spotting before the US (thats why they did it) about two days later i passed the sac that was about the size of a quater...had light cramping and i bleed for about a week it never got real heavy...i just pray to God that this one goes so smooth...i would hate to have to pass a baby that is 10+ weeks i feel for all of you that have had a hard time...im sorry for your loss

[claire289]

i went the doctors the other day cause i had really bad pains in my stomach and as he was talking to me he said to me i am sorry but you have just had a miss carriage and he said to me that i would of bin 5 weeks pregnant and i feel so hurt that has happened to me as never had one before

[mywillster]

I am so sorry for everyone who have had suffered a m/c. It has been almost 2 weeks since I found out my baby was gone. No heart beat. Baby was 12 weeks 5 days. I had a D&C done right away with my OBGYN the next day. It had already been 1 week 5 days since the baby's heart stopped. That is what an approximate date was from the ultrasound measurements. My Dr. gave me the options of waiting for it to pass by itself but there were a few factors when making the decision. First was infection, then left over tissue and third not happening on its' own. I had already had the huge painful heartbreak of seeing no heartbeat and hearing the words how sorry they were. It was like the someone already stole the life out of me right there. And I just wanted my baby ASAP no matter what condition. I felt the need to hold it and feel it was real. I was in denial for about 20 hours after the ultrasound until I had the D&C and held my baby at home. We took the option of brining our baby home and doing a private burial. The hospital had the baby wrapped up in a hand made knitted blanket with a bow in a basket. And another handmade quilt. It was the hardest thing ever to look at something so sad bet yet so beautiful to me no matter what other people thought. I held my baby in the blanket for hours and cried until I was ready to let go. I made it a little casket from the craft store. I stained a little wood box and made another blanket with a bow and hot glued some white crafted roses on top and letters on the side with a name. I wanted to keep the baby's original blankets. We also bought a lovely tree that blooms once a year we can see from our back window. It's hard, very hard. Find ways to let go when you are ready and cry as much as you want. I found it easier saying, "I don't know what to say" as I cried and my family and friends helped by saying, "I am sure it is hard say anything you want." I don't think I will ever get over this or forget. But I am at peace knowing my baby is where it belongs. I will cry daily maybe several times a day but I find hope and love in the things I do have now. I have a 7yr old son and he wanted a big brother for so long. We tried so hard. And I told him how sorry I was. Mommy tried so hard. He then replied, "Mommy I am still your baby." My heart and I cried. The sweetest words to help me through the pain. I can only be grateful for what I have been given and blessed for the hope I receive. I pray for you all.

[IbelieveGod]

It's 2:37am and I just had a m/c and I feel sad, alone, and just hurting.  I am so shook up because I felt lost through this whole process and I had hope the whole way through because of my lack of knowledge of m/c.  I just googled: What do you do after a m/c?  I came up with this page and I really thank God for leading me here...  I realize m/c are more common than I knew and I see many women have more children afterwards so some of my fears are put to rest.  I still feel very sad for my baby and for our loss of not being able to see this child grow up, however, I know my baby is with the Lord.  That gives me some peace.

Thank you ladies for posting your story.  You really helped me!  I am going to bury my baby later today with my favorite cousin who passed away many years ago.  I can't just dispose of my baby or give it to a doctor to dispose of.

[Cristalchild]

I got pregnant in September 2009 and I started spotting at 9w after a weekly spotting a had a natural miscarriage I was so sad and heartbroken I wait 11 years to get pregnant  and that happening was really awful, I wait 6 months to try again and I got pregnant right away and now I have a 14 months old baby girl so from my experience I can tell you that a miscarriage is really hard but if your dream of being a mom is bigger than your fears everything is possible  good luck to every one and god bless you all.

[jooci2k7]

I'm so glad to see that we as women are able to talk and help each other through this difficult time.  I recently had a m/c @5w4d pregnant 5 days ago.  I started spotting early that morning, and began to panic.  Everyone around me was telling me that was normal, but I KNEW something was wrong.not even ten minutes after the spotting started i began to cramp more and more, and bleed more and more. When i got to the emergency room they did a vaginal u/s and an exterior u/s and saw nothing.  I was sent home with pain meds and told that if I started to pass clot to call back...and of course an hour after i got home i began passing clots.  When I call the ER back is when they told me I was having a m/c.  I've never experienced such physical and emotinal pain in my life.  It made me feel alot better to see that there are many other women experiencing the same feelings.  I struggle when understanding how you can go from having the greastest feeling and happiness in the world, to such pain and emptiness in a few short hours.  Everyone tells me it happened for a reason and I canunderstand that, but what if it happens again?