Waiting impatiently for first af after m/c

[Gracie0717]

Hi all,

I am not exactly posting a questions. Just feel like rambling. I had d&c on 21 May and I am still waiting for my period now. I am beginning to get very impatient. I have been getting a lot of stomach cramps these few days, slightly sore breast and lower back pain. I just hope these are all PMS and I will get my af SOON. I can't wait to ttc again. It is just so frustrating.

Frustrated,
Grace

[Gracie0717]

I am very anxious for you. I really hope everything will go well for you. I will keep you in my thoughts and throw you lots of baby dust. Pls keep me posted after you have ur u/s.

Hugs,
Grace

[rccresswell]

Hey

I was reading your comments and I too had a feeling there was something wrong with my baby.  I kept telling my husband there was something wrong and around the time he passed I sat on the couch on two different occasions and I was hyperventilating and I couldn't control it.  After the second time it didn't happen again.  I also kept going back to the doctor and she said I didn't have to see her so much but thinking about it now I just had that feeling.  I had so many signs telling me something was wrong and I was a bit apprehensive when telling people.  

Now that I am 7 weeks pregnant and I am so confused.  When I was about 6 weeks pregnant I had shortness of breath for about 4 days.  I don't know if that is because my son was stressing me out and I was exhausted but about 3 days ago it stopped.  I haven't had any since.  When I woke up today I had no nausea and now I am confused, I am still extremely tired.  I don't know if the way I am feeling is because it is my intuition trying to tell me something is wrong with this pregnancy or if it is just my over anxious mind.  I am going for a scan next week to confirm it and fingers crossed everything wil be ok.

[Gracie0717]

Yes, we have decided to ttc after the second af next month too. I will be keeping my fingers crossed for both you and I. We will have our lil bub soon..

[prettygirl87]

It means after your second AF so you will be able to TTC after your next AF leaves I think I'm gonna start trying next month too because it may take a couple tries to get pregnant I just hope I'll have a healthy baby by next summer

[Gracie0717]

I am not sure. When dr says after two cycles, does that means after the second af or when my third af arrive? I am slightly confused.

[prettygirl87]

Yea don't be afraid everything will turn out fine we have to be motivated like other women on here and have the faith that we WILL have a baby I hope we both get our BFP's at the same time so we can go through our pregnancies together are gonna try after your next AF???

[Gracie0717]

Wow, you and I are a lot alike. When I first knew that I am pregnant, I keep having a feel the baby might not grow. You are right, our intuitives are pretty accurate sometimes. That's y I keep avoiding talking about plans for the baby. However, even though I have that feeling, it still did not prepare me for the pain and emptiness of losing it. I, too am very afraid to conceive again but will still take the chance. Some ppl around me are also experiencing miscarriage and it kind of soothe me that it really is common although it is pretty saddening that they have to go through it. And they too tell me of many success stories. I believe our next one will have no complications and will be able to carry to term. I will keep my fingers crosses for you and me and for everyone.

[prettygirl87]

Yea I'm gonna start trying in about a month or two because my DF wanted a baby and when I got pregnant he was so happy and when this happened it was crazy because you know about m/c's but you NEVER think it will happen to you but the crazy thing is a couple weeks after I found out I was pregnant I kept telling my mom I'm scared that something was gonna happen to my baby and she talked to me and reassured me it will be okay so I guess it was my womens intuition :( and after she told me don't be scared to get pregnant again but knowing that many people I know have had a miscarriages has made me feel alot better because they have healthy children well I'm just rambling lol but I hope this month goes by fast so we can get our BFP's together

[Gracie0717]

I know what you mean. The first time I got pregnant was when we weren't even trying. I just got off the pill after deciding to ttc and before I even got my first af, I was already pregnant. I am hoping my next one will be this easy too. When we experienced m/c it seems as though time has become our enemy, hasn't it? I hope my second af will be on time and I can start to ttc again. Are you going to ttc soon? I know we will have our bfp again. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.

[prettygirl87]

Yea I just want to be able to TTC again because the first time i got pregnant after my second cycle so I'm hoping to have the same luck this time around and yes time is flying but next week it will be 2 months since my D&C and it doesn't seem like it's been that long but I hope we all get our BFP's together and be bully buddies I know with God on our side it will happen when we least expect it

[Gracie0717]

mjmom69 - I am sorry for your loss. Good luck to you too. Before my af, i have pretty heavy cm too. Had my af but it lasted for 3 days only. I know after the m/c our bodies will be out of whack but I am not sure this is normal or not. And I am not even sure I will ovulate or not. Although we have decided to wait another cycle, it worries me to think I might not ovulate, so many questions are running through my mind now. After my af, now I am having cm again.

You are right, it will happen for us soon and we will have our angels in our arms soon too.

Prettygirl87- I know what you mean. The waiting is really killing me. I am just trying to kill time by working, travelling and exercising. But as hard as it seems, time will pass very soon and before you know it you will have a bfp. When the dr first told me I have to wait two cycles, I was desperate for time to pass. But now it din seem as bad. As I keep myself busy, more than a month has already passed. And I am trying to keep my body as healthy as possible for my next one.

I am sending lots of baby dusts to the both of you.

[prettygirl87]

I never asked because I was still pretty upset at my two week appt after D&C but she kept saying back to the drawing board so I guess she was giving me the ok but I'm trying to wait 3 months but I think I'm just gonna wait the 2 months because it's so hard waiting im thinking about charting to pass the time

[mjmom69]

Hey, I know how you feel. I'm in the same boat. I had a D&C on May 20th for a missed miscarriage. It seems like all we ever do is wait. I had some very light spotting the other day and my CM is crazy heavy now but other than that, no signs of AF. Good luck to you. I hope it happens for us soon.

[Gracie0717]

My dr advised us to wait two cycles to ttc again. I can't wait for that. What about u?

[prettygirl87]

Yea after the first two days it was ok it lasted 5 days which is normal for me I'm just happy it over how long did your doctor tell you to wait to TTC again?

[Gracie0717]

Ya, it kept me up whole night too. Have been taking medicine as well. Today is feeling much better though. Just hope my af will be normal and not last too long. How long did urs last?

[prettygirl87]

I know what you are going through all to well I had a D&C MaY 12 and AF didn't show up until June 26 and the first day she kept me up ALL night in pain just relax and take some pain killers

[Gracie0717]

So, just a little update. My af has finally arrived and it HURTS like mad. I am having severe cramp and I have to go home from work in the afternoon. I hope it will be better tomorrow..

[Gracie0717]

If it is like you said, I am already having the signs now so I hope I will get it by next week. I will just have to relax and not think about it all the time. thank you, it does help..

Cheers,
Grace

[Gracie0717]

Thank you for the support. I will try to think more positively and not worry too much and hope af will come soon.

Cheers,
Grace

[rccresswell]

I got mine at 37 days post miscarriage and my baby had stopped growing between 10 and 11 weeks but I miscarried at 14 weeks.  Hopefully you will get it soon.  I must say 2 weeks before I eventually got it I had the signs it was coming it just took it's time.  i hope that helps

[rbohl01]

I was in your same position a couple of months ago- my AF started 31 days after my D&C. I hope yours comes soon. Hang in there and good luck ttc =)

[Gracie0717]

Hi rccreswell, thanks for the support. I was 10 weeks when I found out my baby has stopped growing at 9 weeks.I just hope it will come fast so that I can start recovering and ttc soon.

[rccresswell]

Hi Grace

I am so sorry for your loss.  It sounds like something is happening down there so you should get it soon.  How far were you before you miscarried?  I waited and waited for mine and the Bd with my hubby and I got it the very next day - I assume because I was relaxed.  I know how frustrating it is waiting but it will come.