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Wanting to conceive after miscarriage

Hi, I have had two successful pregnancies and on 3 March 2012 found out that we were expecting our 3rd child. On 7 April 2012 at 8.5 weeks we went to the ER with light spotting and cramping, we discovered that we had a inevitable miscarriage. I had a D and C preformed on the 9th. I am wondering how long we should wait to try again, we want to add another to our family right away but I don't want to rush and have another loss. We were told by one doctor to try again right off but another told us to wait at least one cycle. Anyone have similar experiences and any advice. ( I am grateful for the two children that we already have but I do want a large family, I don't want to rub anyone the wrong way). :)
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It is all up to you on when you want to start trying again. I have had three m/c two singles and one that was twins. I waited awhile after I had mine.
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You're at your most fertile after a miscarriage, so if you're emotionally ready, you can try again. As long you've stopped bleeding that is - risk of infection is higher if you're still bleeding, so wait for that to stop.

The only reason doctor's say to wait a cycle before trying again is so it's easier for them to date you're pregnancy if you get pregnant right away. Other than that, you can pretty much start trying right away.
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Yes its more of when u feel up 2 it but with a d&c would won't 2 wait just 2 heal. The doctor's like for u 2 wait so they have a date 2 go by. I had a naturally miscarriage the first of feb this year I was 6-7 weeks, & waited until my first period 2 try again so I would know & the doctor's on the dates 2 go by. I started my period 5 weeks after my miscarriage started & I'm now 5 weeks pregnant. Best of luck 2 u.
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I would wait at least one cycle. I'm going through my second dnc and we waited 3 months last time following Dr orders and took us a year so dontbwait that long plus that one only ended impn miscarrige after a year. Your uterus lining needs to be strong and healed or the new egg won't attach so def wait one cycle and it will arrive 4-6 weeks usually
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Thank you everyone! I have definitely decided to wait one cycle, only 3 to 5 weeks to go! Stopped bleeding the day before yesterday and had gone in to get my blood work done, down to 191.2. Hopefully everything goes well when we start ttc again, that way my son can quit begging for a new brother or sister. :) Wish each of you the best in your journey of mommyhood!
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hi shannon2 i was reading ur comment about after a mc usually 4-6 weeks after u concive again??? i had my missed mc in january and still havent concived :( its very upsetting as we want another lil boy or girl most ppl on this are saying they feel perg not long after there mc do u think i should go 2 the doc??? its just when i lost my baby at 8-9 weeks i had a missed mc and when i started bleeding and they done scan there was no sac no baby and by my hormone level they reakon i had passed it a week b4 i started bleeding im totally confussed
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Just because you're more fertile after a miscarriage, doesn't mean it's definitely going to happen again right away. Most doctor's won't be concerned unless you've been trying at least a 1 or 2 without success since the miscarriage.

You had a missed miscarriage, I had one of these too last month and it was horrible. It takes team to heal emotionally, a lot longer than it does physically. But when the time is right, you'll fall pregnant again.
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thank you for replying to me much appriciated im sorry 4 ur loss. it was and still is sooo sad. i bought clearblut overlation tests so hoping they help as my periods were 28-30 days and now there every 34 day
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also do you know what causes missed miscarriges???
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It can take a few months to find your cycles regulate properly after a miscarriage, so it's good to use those so you can try see when you ovulate. I'm using them too.

Most of the time, missed miscarriages are caused by the same issues that cause a normal miscarriage. Most likely chromosomal abnormalities. Either the quality of the egg or sperm wasn't very good, so the baby just didn't really ever grow like it should. In these cases it's always best that the baby miscarriages (which is why they do) because otherwise the baby would be born severely disabled and not live very long after birth.
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thank you so much for replying. it was much needed and has helped. well im on my p now my cycle was 31 days ive just bought the clearblue. when do i start to use them???
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aslso my clycle last month was 34 days so 31 is defo getting better. its so frustrating trying when no out come at the end of the month. with my 1st son it took us 3 yr to concive. 1y n half for the baby we sadly lost im just hoping it doesnt take that long again :( would you recomend going to see a doc??? ive never even been before as i just thought well when it happens it happens and  then when i tested on 29 dec 2011 i was preg i was soooo happy then sadly we lost the baby bad start to our happy new year and cscence then my friends have become prego by practically looking at there partners lol its just soooo sad sometimes thinking about it :(
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Maybe see a doctor and see if they'll run some tests just to make sure all is going well reproductive wise, but they may not do that. Some doctors won't run tests until you've been trying with no success for at least a year.

As for when to start the ovulation sticks. I would start on cycle day 10. Remember not to use first morning urine when testing with them. Best time to test is between 1pm and 8pm, and try to test at the same time each day. If it you just collect your urine, and actually test it later.

With the clear blue tests, they're only a positive test when the test line is darker than, or the same colour as the control line. Anything lighter than the control line is negative. Be sure you're having sex every other day as well leading to ovulation. Then on the day you see a positive test, and then for a couple of days after as well. That maximises your chances.

I know how hard it is, especially when you've been trying and each month your period arrives. But try and relax, and make fun of it with your partner. Don't let sex become a chore - then neither of you want to actually do it!
Stress and putting too much pressure on yourselves can actually prevent you conceiving. So try relax and enjoy it as much as you ca (Easier said than done I know!)
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It may be late response. Both mine were missed MC just sometimes it takes your body to recognize the loss so a dnc is performed to take care of it because it could take weeks to months my Dr said for the body to recognize. I would get the ovulation kits because we do not ovulate when we think we do which can also make it take longer if we think week 14. Another thing to look into is if you or your partner are on meds that may decrease fertility. I had a friend who had that problem and her husband switched the Med and they were pregnant right after. Some Dr will give you hormones to help fertility. Mine won't but doesn't mean yours won't.
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only getting ur responce now ....8 months later and im still not pregnant :(
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Hello, i had a miscarriage on June 22. My doctor told me to wait at least two months. That way your uterus can be strong enough
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heyy...im sorry 4 ur loss Missy :( its not a nice experience yeah well thats true ur better waiting though i know women that tried straight away got prego and had healthy baby boys and girls...
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